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Banishing the winter blues, warming each other up in The Village

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LEMoncehadacatcalledSANTA · 20/12/2013 21:52

Err, we need a new thread guys - I know this is Vicar's job so i hope you like the name.

This thread is a support group for those with mental health issues and generally feeling crap, some of us are on medication, some of us have help.

So come on in, grab a stool at the pub, the fires warm and the welcome is warmer - stay a while or move right on in!

All welcome

Ha! im not very good at this!

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ColouringInQueen · 22/02/2014 20:51

Snap snowy am sat on the sofa with blanket, camomile tea, paracetamol and chocolate!

Drained. Visiting friends but wife draining, mainly due to long-standing major anxiety issues. I am sympathetic but I did a lot of listening and sounds mean saying she was hard work but I have to look after myself.

DumDum32 · 23/02/2014 12:00

Morning all,

I've had a lovely lie in thanks to DD sleeping longer today, can't remember the last time she did that!

ciq well done for making the effort & getting through the night despite her being hard work & yes u have to put urself first especially at the moment :)

My anxiety is a bit shitty at the moment just crying over silly stuff but hoping today is going to be ok as I've had a good sleep. I'm finding myself dissociated aswell like I'm watching a movie & everything around me is not real. Though I know it is IYKWIM Hmm will be seeing my cpn sometime this coming week as I think my meds r not really working :(

Hope eveyone is having an ok day xxx

LollipopViolet · 23/02/2014 13:17

I'm having a nice Sunday at the ice hockey with my mates, before a very manic Monday.

Appointment 1 @ 11.30 in Town A
Volunteering @ 12.30 in Town B
Counselling @ 2 at the college (just down the road from volunteering)
College @ 6

At some point in all that, I might find time to breathe, if I'm lucky! Grin

Wouldn't change it though, loved college on my first night, and love the people I volunteer with. Even the first appointment, with my Work Programme Case Manager, I'm looking forward to, as she's going to help me sort the forms for this charity trip I'm desperate to volunteer on :)

DumDum32 · 23/02/2014 13:24

Good luck tomorrow voilet :)

SnowyMouse · 23/02/2014 15:05

Sounds packed, good luck Violet!

Glad you got a lie in DD

Hope you're recovered CIQ

I wonder how vicar is doing?

SnowyMouse · 23/02/2014 15:18

I've been trying to do some decluttering of my dining table, it's not going very fast but at least it's happening.

DumDum32 · 23/02/2014 17:26

Well done for getting started as that is the hardest part snowy

SnowyMouse · 23/02/2014 20:13

Thanks DD Lots to do still, but I've called it a day.

Khimaira · 24/02/2014 09:09

Good luck today Violet
Sounds impressive Snowy, I'm potentially going to have to declutter our flat in the next month or two and it's a very daunting task.
Hope you're ok DD and the sleep was good last night as well. I have no idea what the proper way to deal with the dissociation is, is there something that you can focus on that you know is real, like an anchor. Something you can touch, I often go for the DC get some extra hugs! Pre DC I used a necklace, but never wear jewelry any more.
Hope you're feeling a bit better CiQ.

I have had a delightful day so far, woken in the middle of the night with a lake in DC1's bed despite me lifting him to the toilet before I went to bed. DC2 is still ill, had her in with me last night too. Gave her breakfast, she started coughing and promptly vomited the lot back onto the table. Sigh. At least we had a nice shower together though! Now they are in front of the TV, I'm doing my tax return (honest) and need to tidy and clean before MIL comes this afternoon. I have to take DC1 to the doctors for a neurological examination and have no idea what to expect. (Nursery hinted at developmental problems/speech etc. and that he is "not normal" and will have huge problems when he starts school). Oh, and plan a birthday party for DC2. And probably a lot of other things I've forgotten. It seems too much to even start. I almost didn't manage to get out of bed, wouldn't have done if the DC hadn't pushed me out and insisted they wanted breakfast.

LEMmingaround · 24/02/2014 10:28

Aaaannnnnd crash :(

DD has gone back to school

I'm lost

Khimaira · 24/02/2014 11:30

Hugs lem. Can you do something that you can't do when your DD is around? Like have a peaceful bath, some kind of exercise? Don't know if you're creative or how old she is, but make her something. Do one of her jigsaw puzzles, watch a film, come and do my cleaning...

SnowyMouse · 24/02/2014 12:35

(((( LEM ))))

DumDum32 · 24/02/2014 15:03

((( lem )))

DumDum32 · 24/02/2014 18:45

Saw cpn today started me on diazepam... Not sure how to feel about that Confused

SnowyMouse · 24/02/2014 20:51

How much DD? You do have to be careful how much/how often you take it, as it can stop working. I think the guidelines suggest 2 weeks, but my psychiatrist says it can be really useful used correctly (I have diazepam and temazepam when needed). How do you feel?

I've just been speaking to CT, struggling at the moment. CPN comes out tomorrow. I should probably take some diazepam or temazepam myself now.

LollipopViolet · 24/02/2014 21:43

Today was good. Only bad thing - had to cancel my counselling session as my voluntary placement was due to end later than session. I will get back in touch and sort it at some point, but right now I'm in a good place and want to focus on my course :)

Enjoyed volunteering - we did lots of play, painting and singing. I do however, need to pick up some cheap clothes to wear there, so that I don't care if they get covered in paint Grin Managed to escape un-painted today haha Grin

DumDum32 · 24/02/2014 22:28

It's 3mg & 2 tablets a day one to be take at 9am and the other at 3pm!

LEMmingaround · 25/02/2014 12:02

I feel fucking terrible :( Been posting on here, but can't seem to do anything else - there is stuff that needs done, i don't feel right

TemperamentalAroundCorvids · 25/02/2014 12:07

Hello LEM is it that you can't get going? I am MNetting and have had a nap and attended to DCat, and should get dressed and do something...

LEMmingaround · 25/02/2014 12:15

Yes its that, and that time is racing by me, i can almost see it - not that i have anything specific that needs done - have phoned suppliers for something only to realise they didn't get our form from before so good job i phoned them. Checked building regulations for soemthing for DP, but don't really get it - this bothers me, but he has it under control apparently Hmm. still have other suppliers to phone nag but still feels i am doing nothing, i can feel thing swimming around my head (on the outside) i should be taking my mums dog out but procrastinating, my dogs are mithering for a walk - i feel like my head will explode and i don't know why. I want it all to stop :( i just want it to stop - haven't felt this bad for a while now - why do i feel like this? Im scared

TemperamentalAroundCorvids · 25/02/2014 12:33

Deep breath. You have done useful things already which is more than I have and I don't expect you are in your nightie and dressing gown are you? like I am

Have you divided your time into 'business work', 'household work' and 'me time'? It sounds like everything you have to do is whirling around - either chill with a coffee (and I mean chill, not sit and worry), or pick one thing to do, and one thing only, and do it.

I shall get dressed Blush

SnowyMouse · 25/02/2014 12:34

(((( LEM )))) It must be very difficult for you. can you do some deep breathing/breathing exercises?

ColouringInQueen · 25/02/2014 20:11

How are you doing now lem? I find making lists and just downloading my brain onto paper helps when its racing. As tac said, you have got some stuff done, I hope you've managed to have some 'me time'. Take care.

Very mixed day here, met up with a friend this morning which was lovely. Then went to counselling which was helpful.. and am now seriously considering whether dh and I should go to Relate. I am at my worst when he's around, less energy, less spontaneous, less cheerful, and often when I try and talk to him I don't feel he gets me. So... will mull it over for a few days and then speak to him I think.

Hi snowy and dd and violet and anyone else reading tonight.

SnowyMouse · 25/02/2014 20:20

Sounds worth a thought, *CIQ, hugs. I went to the newly opened supermarket nearby today, little further to go than my usual, but more choice.

LEMmingaround · 25/02/2014 20:31

Thanks guys - im doing a bit better i think, mostly because DP came home and took me to lunch (well KFC) then it was time to pick DD up. I think the problem is that i have too much time on my hands rather than too much to do - i have a few things to do but plenty of time in which to do them so rather than doing them i spend all the time fretting because i can't decide which of them to do. Am taking my mum to the hospital tomorrow so i am very stressed as i know she wont get the answers she is looking for. I do think that is the root of my stress, that and my DP being a bit crap and disorganised with work and im having to juggle client start dates. All things that shouldn't really stress people - I don't recognise myself anymore, all this would have been water off a ducks back.

Ciq - I am at my best AND my worst when DP is around. During the week if he is demotiaved and at home, it screws me - i'll leave everything to him. If its a weekend and we are out and about we are good. I know you have had issues surrounding your DH and his depression in the past, maybe you could both use the debrief and relate would help with that?

I have seen Vicar posting around and about, hoping she is OK.

I also run into Ed on a thread a while back, i keep meaning to PM her, im just pants at remembering things.

TAC - Your day sounds lovely actually, i almost want to do that - I am tired and would love a day when i drop dd off, go back to bed with my kindle and just chill out, i think thats what i wanted to do today but couldnt allow myself, if that makes sense. I feel i have to do "something" and because i haven't done much i haven't earnt the down-time. I don't have a nightie or dressing gown as i sleep in the nip but i think i might get some pj's :) I have been wondering what your name means - i was "chatting" to a raven at the animal park on sunday , unusual for me because i have a bit of a phobia of them, they really are stunning birds though.