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ThatVikRinA22 · 20/10/2013 23:22

new thread folks.....im losing track but i think this might be our 7th!

all welcome. old and new. This is a supportive place for anyone suffering with any type of mental health issue.

im on Sertraline (ADs) and have been since last December. I had 6 months off work with depression and anxiety and the ladies on these threads kept me going.

Feel free to post, to comment, to ask questions, or just to lurk and feel less alone.
everyone in the village is lovely.

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LEMisafucker · 06/12/2013 18:26

Snowy, its been a really dark and dismal day today - bloody cold too, relieved i didn't wake up to a swimming pool for a front room this am as we were given a severe flood warning, which thankfully turned into a non-event. People at school were commenting on how dark it was at pick up (only half three) and it does affect peoples moods. Can you order a lovely takeaway to cheer yourself up? (i'd love one today but we are skint until a couple of cheques clear).

3 - your DH sounds like really hard work, does he have self esteem issues? Maybe he needs to seek some help with that and not make it your issue! You have an impressive list there - just do the things as they come up and try not to fret about the (ha! if only eh, we'd be fine if we didn't fret about everyblardything)

Nancy - no xmas prep here either, but have been mad mental prepping for school xmas fair tomorrow, have promised DD that we will do xmas decs next week, i hope i don't run out of steam.

Feeling really upset today - after a good but crazy busy day i come home to an email from MNHQ saying that they are not happy with the tone of my posts Hmm WTF? is what i thought - So pissed off, they chose and example where i jumped on someone who pretty much called a poster suffering from depresssion a troll, i called her a vindictive cow, because that is basically what she was, I try my best to be supportive on here and hope that i would know when not to make a snarky comment - ok i am a bit free with the C word sometimes and i WILL call someone if i think they are picking on a poster. Its really upset me to think that MNHQ think that I am not a "nice" poster, if that makes sense, right now if it wasn't for the support and friendship i have received on this thread I would be calling it a day on mnet. I have always felt mnet to be a safe place for me but now i feel a little bit unwanted :(

SnowyMouse · 06/12/2013 18:44

(((( LEM )))) You are a great support to a lot of people, please don't go!

LEMisafucker · 06/12/2013 18:48

Thanks snowy - I'm not going anywhere! I have had too much support on this thread for one thing and would feel like i was letting you all down after you have helped me so much.

JugglingUnwiselyWithBaubles · 06/12/2013 19:49

Hey LEM and friends, Be of good cheer, Look I have a shiny new Christmas NN to brighten these damp, dark days of winter Xmas Smile
You have to imagine lots of baubles - at least ten? - all different colours and sparkly with glittery bits - dazzling your eyes with Christmas magic
ThanksBrew

JugglingUnwiselyWithBaubles · 06/12/2013 19:55

BTW I didn't get either of the jobs I went for either Orlando - found out weds&thurs, but I'm taking inspiration from Nelson Mandela today, and last summer was so inspired by the paralympians (that word is a nightmare for someone with a touch of dyslexia!)
Anyway, challenges, what challenges!
Fighting talk, a cosy house (heating up full blast!) and a Friday night glass of Wine

NancysGarden · 06/12/2013 22:04

Inspiring post, thanks juggling Xmas Grin and cheers to you all Wine

LollipopViolet · 06/12/2013 22:08

I need to get a childcare training course sorted ASAP and leave my job.

I'm denying myself loo and lunch breaks to try and hit these stupid targets I've been set :(

I'm being called into the manager when he leaves me on my own with the two new girls and things go wrong, yet replies "Ask X, I'm not there so can't help." to a text one of the girls sent when we were struggling. This was after he'd left early to go for a meal! Then he tells me he's available to help day and night.

The phrases "Bitterly disappointed" and "There'd better not be another conversation like this" has been thrown my way.

I can't do this for much longer :( It feels like they're bullying me out of the place well they are really.

Feeling really low :( and nervous as it's my ice skating show tomorrow! That makes me happy! Grin

JugglingUnwiselyWithBaubles · 07/12/2013 09:41

Good luck with the ice-skating show Lollipop - Sounds fab Smile

Anyone who's a manager and uses phrases like "bitterly disappointed" about normal work place performance needs to stop being such a bully and get a life a sense of perspective.

I've had similar unfounded experiences - referring to not what they expected or some such. Work place bullying is not on, but so common I think. The working world seems so pressurised these days with all these targets, and am not convinced they actually improve performance.

NancysGarden · 07/12/2013 10:36

Boo to workplace bullies. No loo breaks? Lolly you will get ill.

Balls to targets.

Bollocks.

Sorry, had a mild panic attack this morning, just putting unnecessary demands on myself. I normally juggle so much. It's very strange to be doing so little.

Enjoyed listjtening to Saturday live this morning, the theme was resistance. Apt.

SnowyMouse · 07/12/2013 12:31

Are you performing, Lollipop ? Take some time to relax, Nancy? It must feel odd.

I'm feeling tired and low Hmm Trying to give myself space.

SnowyMouse · 07/12/2013 14:45

I'm going to watch Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets as distraction this afternoon, it's on ITV.

DumDum32 · 07/12/2013 17:24

Hi all,

Dad is on the mend long road ahead though :( but I'm getting myself together now after seeing him improve over last week. It's been tough not to completely break down but I've thought about my mum more & somehow manage to keep it together so far!

Thanks to those who wished me n dad well, appreciate the thought. Hope everyone is doing well. Keeper my family in ir prayers xxx

NancysGarden · 07/12/2013 17:37

Going to watch a film with a friend this evening, that will help with restlessness. Can't focus on a book and can't get motivated to actually do anything useful. I plan to chain smoke the evening away. I don't usually smoke (alright I have the occasional one if I am out but I never buy them but am so tense it is helping a bit.

I have bought a quorn ready meal for tea. No effort.

Did you enjoy the film snowy?

Best wishes dumdum, sounds like a v tough time.

SnowyMouse · 07/12/2013 17:47

Thinking of you and yours, DD32 Big hugs. The film is still on, it's ok, at least it's a distraction. I hope you enjoy your film and friend, Nancy. I'm considering a chinese take away.

SnowyMouse · 07/12/2013 18:05

Chinese ordered: chicken skewers in sate sauce, roast duck in plum sauce and stir friend broccoli with garlic (I'm trying to make everyone hungry Xmas Wink ).

LEMisafucker · 07/12/2013 18:29

Its working snowy :)

LollipopViolet · 07/12/2013 22:09

Back from the gala - yes I was performing in three numbers. Amazing, positive experience, lots of encouragement from the other skaters.

RE: work, I have hit my target once this week. I am trying, but phones ringing need to be answered, so I obviously can't do both! Bitterly disappointed was in relation to an error I made, which is a bit harsh! And it's me denying myself loo breaks to hit this stupid target.

Still, hopefully only 2 more weeks, and I've got next Saturday to look forward to - Manchester Christmas markets with my mum :)

3asAbird · 08/12/2013 08:57

LEM -Have MNHQ Gone mad i think if i got that eail i would find it quite funny not liking tone. They have been rather heavy handed latly in some instances everyones still getting over the any fucker.

sometimes in print/type thinsg come across harash or diffrent as when you speak you have tone on computer you dont and soe people seem to be offended by most things but at end of days its an open furum they will jsyt have to go join fluffy bunny forum instead.

Its not even 9am and kids are doing my head in.

4year old is in meltdown again as had row with her sister.

I ad yet another row with hubby onec again asking if im having an affir, why i dont fancy him give hi enogh attention and that he may stay at his mums tonight im mean ffs whys hes being such silly selfish arse hes working all day so another day just me and the kids.

Yesterday tidied girls room, put away laundry cleared landing and made tea and yet she still said this mornig you dident do much !
Im not atepford wife im tryiy my best do bits each day and all the phone aclls other day took ages but they just dont count.

He seems oblivious to fact im worried, stressed, depressed, lost weight and not eating much im so fed up i been so supportive over him losing his job and this is bloody thanks I get.

I really ope I just dont snap as some days all feels too much, feel so alone.

4year old still fake wailing. kitchen and bathroom look like bombs hit it

I dont know what to do anymore feel treading the water on te bottom and sinking.

SnowyMouse · 08/12/2013 12:58

Congratulations, LollipopViolet Grin Can you talk to your DP about how you're feeling?

ColouringInQueen · 08/12/2013 19:34

Hi everyone,

juggling love the new name - might try and work out how to do that myself!

lem email sounds crazy - your posts are always fab. Hope today's been better.

dumdum glad to hear your dad's improving and well done for keeping it together for him. Make sure you get plenty of rest though...

3as that sounds like a tough start to the day. Hope you're ok.

snowy that Chinese sounded fab!

Lollipop that's so cool with the skating Grin ooh I like Christmas markets...

Nancy hope today's been calmer.

Well I've had a manic few days, but I'm OK Grin. Enjoyed mums night out on Fri - sat next to two lovely mums and nowhere near women that I used to be friends with!
Yesterday organised great day out for DH birthday.
Today 12-4.30 setting up and helping at school fair (danger of outing myself?) nice team. Completely knackered but spirits OK. That's the first mums night out I've enjoyed in a v long time...

SnowyMouse · 08/12/2013 19:43

Nice round up, CIQ Xmas Smile

I'm glad that you've had a good few days Xmas Grin

NancysGarden · 08/12/2013 22:15

Sounds good CIQ!

Well done Lollipop, v positive.

Appetite has resumed somewhat, fewer knots in the gut. Yes calmer for sure. I could actually go for a drive and enjoy the wintry scenery.

Spoke to a friend from work this eve, feel bad about letting people down and v scared about what next? She was v supportive and told me not to be silly!

But I have a whole month to get my shit together.

Amazing how quickly a day can pass when you fill it with very little.

Worried about what I will say to other mums when they see me do the school pickup at 3 tomorrow. (As a teacher I NEVER get to do the school run, so it will be glaringly obvious that something is wrong).

ColouringInQueen · 08/12/2013 22:16

Thanks snowy hope you've picked up a bit since Friday. Starting to get into the Christmas spirit now Smile

NancysGarden · 08/12/2013 22:17

How was everyone's day? (Clears throat, realising how self absorbed previous post was) sorry ladies...

SnowyMouse · 09/12/2013 16:25

Blood test over and done with today, and some baby gap shopping. My CPN is coming tomorrow afternoon.

How's everyone else doing, it's very quiet here today