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new thread folks.....im losing track but i think this might be our 7th!

all welcome. old and new. This is a supportive place for anyone suffering with any type of mental health issue.

im on Sertraline (ADs) and have been since last December. I had 6 months off work with depression and anxiety and the ladies on these threads kept me going.

Feel free to post, to comment, to ask questions, or just to lurk and feel less alone.
everyone in the village is lovely.

I hate having my bits looked at by strangers in uniform so sympathize entirely!

And i'm just going with the flow with the relationship in the hope it figures itself out as i'm not certain on it atm. Will look into the mirena coil, though my mum had it and hated it and also had cervical issues.

Hope everyone else is having an alright day

I have a mirena coil, its my second one - ive had cervical cancer and it wasn't an issue - will post more later as im in a rush x

Ed 12 days???? WOW - just wow - you CAN do this!

Thank you

(and sorry to hear you went through CC My Gran had it and it was horrid though she caught it early thankfully)

I don't mind it too much, I tend to concentrate on my breathing. Sorry you had CC LEM I'm glad it's over.

Phew, I passed my OU assignment.

Thats brilliant snowy what are you studying?

The cc was years ago i was 27 and luckily caught early and treated easily.

I'm studying psychology, scraped into a 2:1 just. Thanks for reminding us how important smears are ((( LEM )))

That's brilliant snowy I almost did psychology at university, but didn't. Sometimes wonder what I would be doing now if I had. Im still fascinated by it all - more so this year with personal experience thrown in!

Go ed!

The smear discussions reminded me that I haven't had one since dd's birth. I haven't been able to face it. Her birth was so bad, had such bad injury and scarring I just can't face it. Would be painful. But I know I should even tho I am actually v low risk. Hmm.

11 days.

(Sorry - not keeping up with rest of thread)

Evening guys.

good luck ed
well done snowy.

I have something to admit on examintaion issue havent had smear in 10years I know i should and meat to after each child eldest nearly 8 but havent been able to face it.

Considered ol after baby no 3 but not done nothing yet.

Not that contraceptions an issue.

husband feels im shifty, distant, down , not giving him enough attention and doing the old is me why dont you fancy me anymore im so hard done by.

He does not seem to get its not him its me,

I hate the way I look, try keep bedrooms lights off.

I tried to explain but he thinks im being daft and loves me just the way I am.

he fails to understand why my figure depresses me so much.

when i try and tell him how i feel

hes too busy or im being sefish and hes working hard to p[rovide ad all I do is moan why ant I be more glass half full like our freinds.

Hes been more understanding of housework.

what he doesnt understand is im so down or tired some day i cat do it all like i used to have had to slow down.

I worry so much and hope kids dont notice mummys cant do as much as she used to.

felt really tired and old all day. tried not to be sick but was.

I have made a huge lasane for hubby but took one mouthful and cant face it,

now chilling with bottle of beer 2/3kids asleep
house semi tidy
dident make phonecalls meant to make.
but school run and gym took just over 2hours of afternoon.
gave away some baby stuff for free.

hubbys had another bad day in work an stressed not seen him all day.

eldests torturing me with her musical instrument.

thank crunchie its friday tommorow time goes scary fast.
still not got tree yet
or posted any cards.

cars in garage tommorow so money could be tight.

hoping veiw 2-3primaries next week god i must be mad.

must book small boys hearing and speech.
must book eldests opticians.

Ed have you heard from Edgar?

3 just keep it ticking over as best you can. There is still a fair amount of time before Christmas. I get excited/overanxious/phobic each Christmas, in varying proportions. Planned to start on Dec 1st - so far have done zilch.

Silvery

I've just picked up a white envelope :)

Can't wait till I finish my practice and have time to pick up my crochet hook again....

Will have to find a nice pattern for such a nice wool :)

Xpost lol.

Just picked up the post and deconvoluted who its from :)

Oops, I got the appointment time wrong. Gave me an excuse to have a scone in debenhams.

Zero Christmas prep here either, hello again.

Two days off work turned into one day back a disastrous meeting with senior management and have now been signed off work for 2 weeks and my lovely Gp has given me some Valium too.

I can't actually picture myself going back to work. I have the support of my family so if I can't, I won't. Just look for another job. Just hard to find work if you are not in work I suppose.

Finding it hard to know what to do with myself. Still anxious. Having taken the Valium yet. Bit scared.

Crochet sounds lovely. I tried it once, it's quite hard I used a YouTube video to learn. I can make squares!

Peoples to do lists are full on. I can't even think what's on mine. I am passing through crisis point.

Can't eat anything right now. Know this is not good, getting headaches but just feel sick.

Best wishes all, especially ed with the final stretch.

Nancy garden-sorry you had bad day, hope you find better job.
Wish my gp give me valuim find it calms me as took for dentist and have huge dental phobia.

Mornings started off bad yet another row with hubby about how i dont make hi feel wanted, attractive and enough attention im shit wife.

But despite that was determined to not write off the day and do some things delaying

so have booked 3separate hospital appointments for small boy.
rang 4schools and booked tours as schools admission deadline getting close.
rang local authority admissions to clarfify some details.

tax credits but need more details.

so will be busy few weeks.

cars gone in garage and not good nearly 500quids worth of repairs .

financially can ee these next few months being a struggle escpecially if we have to move house.

I just need to try stay postive ad not have a breakdown.

keep thinking could end up with no school place. what if somethings badly wrong with small boy. is edests doing ok in school worries never seem to end,

3 how very helpful of your hubby - Not! I would say 90% of my depression was due to a FW husband - divorce improved my mh by 90%. Just sayin'.

I hope you manage to eat something Nancy, basic self care is so important for mental health. That sounds like a good list of things done, 3.

How's everyone doing?

Crackers and chocolate that's all can manage. But it's better than nothing. Just remembering to drink seems to be a challenge. I know what you're saying though snowy.

Very impressive list 3. I hope after the weekend I can start to tackle things. Just need to rest for now.

My partner was giving me the same sort of treatment a few weeks ago before things came to a head and to be honest what has actually improved things between us has been the chat we had yesterday when I completely broke down, cried like a child and told him the way I am feeling/ my fears. He's used to me not asking for help and managing everything, and just generally getting on with uh things even when they are difficult. I told him I really needed to hear all of what he said (that all he wanted really is for me to be well, money is no good if have a breakdown) and he was so grateful. It really helped.

I was on anti-ds when we first met and I had a period of PND (about a year) after the birth of our dd. so he has been here with me before, but we never talked it through properly before.

Sometimes I think we have to spell things out in black and white.

Nancy if it wasn't my FW ex it was my job - although if he'd been any sort of partner maybe I could have coped with jobs better. I have a history of getting jobs, then gradually getting depressed through not being able to switch off, and getting periodically bogged down in paperwork. My last one went the Management meeting route - I handed in a l-t sick note at the end of the last one and that was it. After being TUPE'd, my new bosses wanted to change it so the job was undoable, and nothing I could say would change their minds.

Sorry, bit of a rant. I was lucky - I could just about afford not to work and have now decided that I won't seek emplyment again, though am trying to contribute to the world. Only have a year till State Pension, thank goodness.

I'm suddenly low I can't work out why

Oh sparkly that's awful. I've absolutely no idea how sympathetic mine will be on my return. But I intend to get out ASAP. Only thing, we're a few months (say 4-5) from a mortgage deposit (been living with parents for last nearly 2 years to save). Such a bummer.

snowy what's up?

Lack of sunlight isn't particularly helpful.

Got to go pick up dd from party now. Not sure if it's the stress but struggling with parking yesterday badly. Sure it'll be fine.

Still no tree, I know she's not impressed about that!

I'm not sure Nancy I hope DD had a nice party