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6th thread folks....

keep talking/posting.

Vicar - it still might be an idea to get checked out. Although it sounds like indigestion or acid reflux rather than anything serious, but crushing pain with nausea should be checked xx

I agree. vicar please get checked.

Although there are plenty of causes I believe heart pain is centrally located. Your heart is actually not far of the centre of your chest. You can still get checked as any significant problems wil still show. And it is also important to get this checked now than in the hours before your surgery which may subsequently be cancelled/postponed pending further investigations.

You know thay if you had asked in general health you would have been put in a virtual ambulance by now.

Huge hugs.

its never happened before, it was just odd, and very debilitating for about 20 minutes or so, i was bent over the trolley but i just couldnt move, if i did it hurt more, if i breathed it hurt more,

but surely if that was a heart problem it wouldnt have worn off?

im back to work tomorrow but i will make an appt for my next days off, but i do feel a bit silly - im 41, no heart issues at all that i know of.....that said my friend was quite scathing and told DH that he should have taken me to minor injuries straight away (friends mum was a cardiac nurse) - instead he was fussing because i had to walk out of the supermarket and left him to do the shopping - he was more bothered about the fact he didnt know what to buy without me....never mind the fact i was laid flat out in the car with my bra off and feeling dreadful.
i wasnt sweating at all though.
and it wore off within about 20 minutes - the nausea wore off within about 30 mins....

i am sure if it was something serious i would have known? i will make an appt with the gp for next week, DH has said that if it ever happens again he will take me to our minor injuries dept - i think he felt suitably told off.

i would put it down to my reflux but its never hurt me like that before....it felt like cramp right between my boobs...i will speak to a gp, though in hindsight it would have been better to go while it was happening i guess - but iwas miles from home and just wanted to lay down and get my bra off....the poor fella in the next car got an eyeful....

This sounds potentially v serious to me vicar - please ring your GP surgery tomorrow first thing, and describe it to them, at the very least.

or out of hours service.

I hope you are feeling ok today Vicar. I wonder, could it be gallstones? I think you need checked to be honest as if it was your heart (and yes, it can go off!) any damage that has been done will be detectable over the next few days but it will go off and be undetectable. I mention gallstones because that sounds very much like me, i used to have to remove my bra, breathing in makes gallstone attack worse and the nausea (i vomited in my Drs sink once!) I really think you should call your GP and get a blood test done Vicar. xx

Hmm, Vicar, GP and soon, otherwise we'll have to come round and give you a good drubbing!

Darn you vicar.

I hate being your twin.

I have had indigestion for the first time in ages today.

But please please please go to the dr.

As lem says there are tests that can be done in the first few days which are not relevant after that.

Also....I really don't want your anaesthatist to pick something up at your pre-op which delays your surgery.

And most of all I don't want you to end up seriously ill and cause worry for your lovely family.

Please make a drs appointment ASAP. Or I will be in front of hoocy....although I tend to resort to tea and cake rather than violence.

Amd heart attacks in women are a lot more subtle and not the classic radiating arm pain. Apparently it is more than possible for women to have 'silent heart attacks'.

If you were to ring NHS direct or whatever it is called these days and mention the 3 words chest crushing and pain in the same sentence they woukd have an ambulance on route to you before you can say 'but...' and you know it.

Rubbish day today :( Have been on a bit of a high all week but decided to have a lazy day today because I have done shit loads of housework this week and am quite frankly, sick of it. So starting the voluntary thing might be a good idea. (i hope i don't fuck it up).

I am struggling to help DD with her homework - turning into a horrible mummy, getting frustrated and cross when i am supposed to be helping :(
Am also worried about my mum - I haven't seen her since sunday and she clearly has the hump with me, not answering the phone or the door. I am worried though as I looked and couldn't see her I know deep down its becuase she is avoiding me but something is nagging at the back of my mind that something is wrong - which is usually does when she does this and then i end up chasing after her and she wins another battle. I know i should rise above this but its hard enough keeping myself going at the moment. Of course she will be thinking how selfish i am, which i suppose i am really. DP said to go round later and see if the lights are on and if not they we need to make a decision as to what to do. Its ridiculous, if someone else had posted this i would be telling them to get round there now, but she has done this so many times before.

Vicar, i hope you are having a good day and your "indigestion" has calmed down. One more attempt at nagging you to go to the doctor, but i know you wont! ;) Sorry that you have come out in empathy Ed!

LEM I thought you were going to see the GP about your Mum?

What's the problem with the homework help. do you think? (I could never help mine, as she could understand and do it, but getting her to start and to transfer her thoughts onto paper was a real problem)

You deserve a day resting on your laurels. I am Autumn Cleaning, the place is filthier than I thought, once I got started and I may have had a plague of flies recently

Yes, i phoned the GP a few weeks ago silvery and she said what i expected, that of course her behaviour is worrying but she cannot intervene unless my mother approaches her for help. I have tried everything in the past few weeks - playing along and then suggesting she goes to the doctor because its made her ill. Telling her she is simply not well and needs to see a doctor (this went down like a lead balloon and i was told i had accused her of being "a mental") What, like me then mum? :( The last time i saw her was on Sunday when she presented me with more evidence of what her sister had done, i was in a rush and not feeling great so i just said, "oh yes" and changed the subject - she was clearly not happy about that. So now she is not speaking too me i assume, because she KNOWS i will worry and end up chasing after her like i have always done, like my poor dad always did before she drove him mad :( I know i sound like an utter bitch but i just don't know what more i can do. She cannot understand why i refuse to help her get to australia to do damage to her sister, its like i am being unreasonable and should do this simply because she is my mother, without question.

I'm sure you've seen this LEM Big hugs.

Vicar I hope you feel better, do get medical help if you can.

I've been down to the river once today, under strict orders to take diazepam and ring the CT if it recurs. It's so very hard to do though (phoning).

Big hugs, , , (at least you can drink the virtual kind with meds!)

((((Hugs))))) snowy really sad to hear how tough things are. Please try your best to stay away from the river and phone the CT if you can. I know it's so hard but please try.

LEM I'm not sure what else you can do for your mum. The only thing I wondered about was if there are any charities local to your mum who might be able to offer some support eg visiting once a week, just so you know there's someone else interacting with her... sympathies though.

silvery well done on the cleaning!

vicar have you been to the doc? A friend of mine in her early 50s had a similar experience to you and has since been diagnosed with some type of heart problem. Ed is right about symptoms being different in women.

take care all x

Snowy - its too bloody cold for the river!! Seriously man, you are such a comfort to me on this thread, that you can feel so shite and still find kind words for others restores my faith in humanity, it really does!

I rang my mum and she finally rung back, she clearly didn't want to talk to me so ive done my bit, ive called and shes ok (ish). I wish i could do more but she wont accept help.

My anxiety is back with a vengance - im not sure if thats becaue ive done nothing today or tht i had just been able to keep it at bay falsely with all the activity.

lem sounds like you've had a lot to deal with this week what with DD back to school, being brave re: the volunteering (good idea) and dealing with your mum (not to mention doing boring housework!)

sofa, blanket, fav prog, treat? x

hi all,
im still here, its going to be difficult to get a gp appt while im working, but i will when i am on my days off.

i felt that i should have gone to minor injuries at the time but dh made me feel silly, it was only when my friend got very serious and told me off that dh realised and said if it happens again he will take me.

i cant really do anything while im working. i should have just gone at the time. i will go and speak to a gp as soon as i can.

busy busy day for me today, no breaks and no food. one down, 4 to go.....

Sorry to hear everyone is having a hard time of things at the moment, I've been AWOL myself trying to get into the routine of school, nursery and DH starting a new job.

Vicar your pain sounds just like my gallstone issues before I had my gallbladder removed last year. Weirdly I had a recurrence of the pain last night after taking some nurofen plus which may not work well for me anymore.

Volunteer work is something I'd love to do but don't think I've the mental space to dedicate time to something at the moment. Today's battle was getting boys from school at 3.30 into a swimming lesson at 4, then home for tea. I just had a meltdown hours before knowing I couldn't do it.

All the thoughts that go through my head just aren't normal I know, but I've learnt my lesson last time that if you tell them what you are really thinking it's newer the same again.

Vicar look after yourself, please find time to eat and see the gp get things checked out esp if you are going in for an op. You do a tough job (with integrity)

((( Snowy ))) Hope today is better, pick up the phone, rivers are yuck. Are you knitting anything at the moment?

Lem mum sounds like a handful. I had a good shout at my kids this morning, felt terrible..you are great mum, but it'll be good to do a bit of vol work. My worst days are when I don't get out of the house.

Dh is better, but I seem to have an emotional hangover..

Keep going, Norky it's a tough time for you, just do what you can.

Ciq you are so gentle, I shall try to mend my violent ways

Lots of love to filee, silvery and anyone else I've forgotten.

Morning all

hoochy thank you! Nice to be thought of as gentle I am def less ragey (with dh at least) on these drugs!

It's completely normal to feel how you do. A lovely friend whos also training to be a counsellor said to me once you need to give yourself at least 2 weeks to properly get over a stressful situation... we're all in such a rush these days...

snowy what are you up this morning? Thinking of you.

lem hope you're doing ok.

Well I have started the bedroom redec. Room emptied hoovered dusted sanded next- wash walls then fill cracks. Sadly have woken up with headachy throaty virus thing but am hoping to counter that with paracetamol and a whole pack plain choc digestives!

Take care all. And remember in feb I was on the phone to the samaritans. How I'm redec my bedroom.

I just need to remember that on the low evenings!
X

CiQ your throat could be partly due to sanding etc, perhaps? Don't overdo things!

And all stop guilting yourselves re shouting at kids Mothers the length and breadth of the country are doing the exact same thing...

LEM is there any carer support in your area? A good friend of mine found them very helpful, if just to lend an understanding ear.

And snowy, hugs and - in fact a date and walnut rock bun, I made 12 last night and me and the Irishman may have eaten 10 of them

Hello everyone - I am havin a better day, i think i feel better when i don't go online in the mornings and do something with the day, so i made myself go for a coffee this morning, then DP gatecrashed which was nice. Came home and did minimal housework - got a nice joint of beef im about to put in the oven.

My poor mum, STILL going on about the cooker etc - i don't know what to do for her. :( I feel very alone with it because Dr can't help,no siblings and extended family think its all a bit of a lark because they are fuckwits

Norky - i hear you re the gallstones, i am SO glad i don't have a gall bladder any more Vicar - i hope you are feeling better today. You can still get that checked, although have you had your pre-med yet? Your blood levels should have flagged that up?

Glad your DH is better hoochy, i think the emotional hangover thing is pretty common because you have to get on and "cope" when the shit hits the fan but when you come up for air, it can knock you sideways - have some and put your feet up with a as much as you can

snowy, i hope you are feeling better

Love to all xx

Thanks silvery sadly throat started before I got to work, but paracetamol and biscuits have done the job . Knackered but have got all prep done so have 2 full days to paint which should do the trick :)

lem glad you're having a better day. I know exactly what you mean about not going online in the morning - I find if I can keep phone/pc/tv off to get going faster and more positively.

snowy hope you're ok x

Hello everyone. How are you all doing today? It's so wet and gloomy here, I'm failing on my mission to walk DS to school every morning.

I need to do something with myself but have no energy, motivation... Just want to get back into bed and sleep until I have to pick the boys up from school and nursery. Yawn...

Have a good day all