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roll up for the village fete! move to our village if your 'fete' is to be happy!

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ThatVikRinA22 · 20/07/2013 22:17

6th thread folks....

keep talking/posting.

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ThatVikRinA22 · 26/08/2013 12:41

hey snowy
do you feel better for a good cry? maybe just have a really gentle day and try to do what you feel like doing.
it wll be the change of meds im sure....when they start to kick in i really hope you start to feel better.
(gentle hugs) x

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DumDum32 · 26/08/2013 13:05

Snowy - that was me y'day just let it out it's better too trust me. Like Vicar says take it easy today & just do what is neccessary to get by.

I didnt get ron

DumDum32 · 26/08/2013 13:10

Ooops fat fingers - posted too soon.

I didnt get round to bathing my little one yday so ive just made up a bath for her & let her swim about. Im hoping after i'll have the strenght to have a shower myself!

Vicar - hope u have a good week off with as much rest as fun Flowers

SnowyMouse · 26/08/2013 13:36

Thanks vicar and dumdum Smile A gentle day is a good plan. Baths are good fun with kids Smile

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ThatVikRinA22 · 26/08/2013 17:11

im just drawing up a list of things DD and i need for the spa break, the thought of a full day of total R&R is just bliss. We arrive at 10 and check out at 10 the next day. We have our own apartment for the night, mobile phones are not allowed. So i am taking books and magazines for lazing around the spa between treatments, and dvds, crisps, dip, and shloer (and wine) for the evening, though i think we can use the pool etc until 10pm.
i am so looking forward to it - i just hope i can quieten my mind and allow myself to enjoy it without anxiety creeping in. We go on weds to thursday. then shopping with dd for college. then a day off before work again.

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SnowyMouse · 26/08/2013 17:14

That sounds like a lovely break vicar Smile I hope you both have a good time. No mobile phones should help?

I have CPN coming tomorrow, not sure I want to share how the weekend has gone Hmm

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ThatVikRinA22 · 26/08/2013 17:23

thanks snowy i really hope it lives up to my expectations - i need to just switch off for a while.

fwiw i think its really important that you do share with your CPN how you are feeling, im sure they would be able to tell anyway. The change in meds is bound to mess with you, i am sure they expect it. I think its important to keep them in the loop....
though i know how hard that can be.

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hoochymama1 · 26/08/2013 17:43

((( Snowy ))), hope you've had a better afternoon. Tell the CPN how it's gone over the weekend, maybe he/she can offer advice, at the very least this will show you have 'insight'.

Hello and welcome to dum dum. This place has got me through the last few months. Keep on posting Grin

Hope you have a lovely time, Vicar, I took dd on a spa day when she was 16 and it was sooo lovely, we talked about stuff on a really deep level, and she still says how good it was.

So good to hear about the good b'day Lem ( Cake for you, sqidgy chocolate and raspberries Grin) I love radley, and dp obviously loves you so much for knowing what would please you Smile

Overjoyed to hear about the TP, Ed, I've got a feeling it's going to go well for you Wink

Really worried about my ds, who did not get good enough GCSE's to get into the 6th form of his school. He is now trying to arrange to do a post 16 course elsewhere. Trouble is, everything has been closed over bh. Dh went into meltdown over it all. I just hopes somewhere takes him in. Bleurgh, my heart hurts, and there's little I can do for him, he is fiercely independent and with a huge sense of failure, and wants to sort everything out on his own.

Lots of love to anyone reading, and anyone I've forgotten to mention. i think I've got something good from every post on here Flowers

SnowyMouse · 26/08/2013 18:05

Thanks vicar and hoochy. I might try to write it down. I do hope your DS gets in somewhere hoochy, is he looking for a 1 year GCSE course? (one of my brothers did this, and went to uni and is now in a good job). it may not be a bad thing as it gives another year to mature over (though that may not apply).

hoochymama1 · 26/08/2013 19:52

Thanks Snowy that's encouraging. No, he just wants to do A levels, had an A, B, and four C's. Hope he'll get in somewhere and finally do some work Shock maturity would be a bonus Grin

Yes, just jot it down, keep it simple, just do bullet points.

I hope that you have a peaceful night, and sleep well. I like this time of the evening. Going to get a bath and read something trashy!

SnowyMouse · 26/08/2013 20:13

Ah, good luck to him then Smile
Thanks for the good wishes, hope you get a good night too.

SnowyMouse · 27/08/2013 11:07

I suddenly have a psychiatrist appointment today Hmm

LEMisdisappointed · 27/08/2013 11:22

Good luck with that snowy, bit naughty of them to spring it on you but at least you wont have too much time to let it worry you i guess.

Hoochy, the grades on the GCSE are a barrier but they are not the end of the world, it may well be good for him as he will realise that actually, it matters and when he does go on to whatever it is he does next he will apply himself to it. Like you say, he is independent this is good - he will work it out xx

Ed you must be getting ready to start back at school - how exciting - i am Envy

I feel i am in licking my wounds stage - I dont know exactly what i am licking anymore though. My counsellor actually told me i needed to get over myself Shock Not in a "you are so arrogant" kind of way, but in as much as i am my own worse enemy. I am looking for validation all the time, and feel without a role in life. Arrggghhh - anxious today, its because DD is going back to school and im left with myself to deal with :(

Dumdum, hope you are feeling stronger

So envious of the spa break vicar, but pleased for you - you deserve it!

SnowyMouse · 27/08/2013 12:44

I'm dreading it Sad

SnowyMouse · 27/08/2013 18:54

I really don't understand. The voices aren't that bad, but she wants to increase my antipsychotic Hmm I think I need to find someone to ask.

TheSilverySoothsayer · 27/08/2013 19:23

snowy it could be that her aim is for you to have no voices at all (except the ordinary internal self-talk which most folk have). Maybe start a thread here about it, aimed at people who have to deal with voices, and see what their experiences have been? What anti-psych is it, can't remember?

SnowyMouse · 27/08/2013 19:52

I'm on clozapine, which needs regular blood tests Hmm I suppose it could be, but it's the suicidal thoughts which are troubling right now.

TheSilverySoothsayer · 27/08/2013 19:57

If, as you say, the voices aren't that bad, but the suicidal thoughts are, then you may have your reason right there. The s thoughts are part of the psychosis, and therefore an anti-psych may help with them. Could it be that you are so used to having them that you kind of don't really realise that they are part of being quite unwell (she ventured tentatively - but based on my experience of being depressed)

TheSilverySoothsayer · 27/08/2013 20:07

snowy, does that mean you have to keep out of the sun, or am I mixing it up with another drug? And some people I know have found it quite zombifying I believe - they have severe bi-polar, though, and manic episodes could (and had) cause them to wreak havoc in their own lives Sad so it was the lesser of 2 evils for them. But again I may be mixing it up, and not being helpful.

LEM I know what you mean about feeling without a role in life. I've been there, and looking back it is clear that I did have quite a successful role in life, only was so immersed in it that I couldn't see it. Like thinking you are fat in your teens and twenties, and then looking back and seeing how gorgeous you were [confused wink iyswim]

EdwiniasRevenge · 27/08/2013 22:56

Minor hijack....silvery...I really think you need to look at my profile ;)

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ThatVikRinA22 · 27/08/2013 23:05

well.
i am ready for the spa.
but Ds has phoned 3 times already tonight - he claims someone has eaten his food out of the shared fridge.
i put a tenner in his account.
he then phoned back saying it was overdrawn so its gone into nothing.
i put a further 20 into his account.

this is bloody ridiculous. he is earnng what i am earning and i am trying to pay bills and food from mine for a family of 3.
he is single and still cant bloody make ends meet.
tomorrow i am switching off my phone - i have warned him already dont bother to phone as the phone is OFF.
he is taking me very close to my own overdraft limit.....ive just paid £1500 of rent for him.
he paid me 90 quid back and has borrowed most of that back throughout the month.
he is seriously pissing me off.
but he also knows i cant see him starve so i am so torn when he rings for money.
[grr]

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ThatVikRinA22 · 27/08/2013 23:08

ed i had to have a look! you are so clever! i really need to start cross-stitch again.....

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TheSilverySoothsayer · 27/08/2013 23:38

Aaaw! Ed! he's sweet :)

EdwiniasRevenge · 27/08/2013 23:39

I used to cross stitch. I do have an ongoing project.

My therapist wanted me to get back into it but I couldn't because of my tremour. I was working on 18+ count aida.

That's where I started the crochet.

I have quite a lot of projects ongoing or in the queue so not sure when I will get back to cross stitch....

EdwiniasRevenge · 27/08/2013 23:39

Do you 'recognise' him silvery?