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Pumble · 13/07/2013 14:21

P1 splashing in the paddling pool and P2 having a nap. So pleased to be back and they are so pleased to be with each other again.

Can't believe we got to 1000 posts! You need to change your nn now too don't you wylye ?!

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magimedi · 13/07/2013 16:29

If you change your name, Wylye will you tell us? Grin

It's great to hear you sounding so happy, Pumble.

Wylye · 13/07/2013 19:02

Yay, found you! Paddling pools all round! Grin

Now I've got to think of one haven't I.... Hmmmmmm, what shall I be.......

LittleBearPad · 13/07/2013 19:07

I wish I was in a paddling pool! Not in the UK at the moment and it was 35 degrees today!

Glad you're home and Pumblette 1 is having fun and Pumblette 2 is recovering.

DameDeepRedBetty · 14/07/2013 10:06

Mine are at a paintball party all day today. They're big scary teenagers now, and ten of them are currently hiding behind bushes and splattering each other somewhere near Cirencester. They have to wear trousers and long sleeves, and I'm baking already indoors in shorts and a vest. The birthday girl's mum managed to get it at a silly price on Groupon or Wowcher or something like that, and booked for the whole day, but I think they'll be home after lunch. At least I hope so! DTD1 doesn't really 'do' heat very well.

So pleased pumblette 2 all better, or mostly better anyway. Dnephew2 has had something rather similar, but being a bit older has not had to be admitted. He has now transferred it to his mother and father who are now confined to the house in a state of misery.

magimedi · 15/07/2013 09:36

How is Pumblette 2 today? Hope all is well & you are managing to keep cool.

LongTailedTit · 15/07/2013 13:33

cough cough ahem 'Tis I, Le Clerc....

LongTailedTit · 15/07/2013 20:32

So Pumble, how's P2 doing? I hope she's all recovered, tho in this heat I imagine her rash may be hanging around.
I hope you've been enjoying yourselves back together at home again.

I had a bit of a shit day, we had DSs intro to the preschool he starts in September. Put it this way, I really hope first impressions don't last!
All improved when DH got home, he made DS laugh like a loon, cheered us all up! :)

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Pumble · 15/07/2013 21:39

Sorry you've had a shit day LTT (still have wylye in my head!) but glad it ended with laughter - always the best way. First days are bound to be difficult... It might take him a while to get used to it, but I think that's the case for most children isn't it? Hope you both get to enjoy the sunshine again tomorrow. Have you got another session soon to see how he is again?

P2 still not 100% but SO much better. It's just so good to be back at home with both my girls again. Unfortunately mr P and I are having a bad few days though but maybe it's the stress of last week is catching up with us.

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magimedi · 15/07/2013 22:25

Unfortunately mr P and I are having a bad few days though but maybe it's the stress of last week is catching up with us.

There's no "maybe" about that, Pumble, it's a definite.

You've just had such a shit week - bound to be some fall out somewhere. Just try to get back to a vague sort of routine with each other.

Sorry you've had a shit day, LTT - hope things get better tomorrow.

rowrowrowtheboat · 15/07/2013 22:41

Hi all. Wow, what a lot you have gone through in the space of a week. I go on holiday and you have a horrible week. So glad to hear you are all back home. You must all still be shattered from the roller coaster you've been on. Can you and Mr P have a hour together while someone sits with the Pumbles?

Hope LTT has a better day too. Don't worry about pre school, come September, he will soon be loving it.

Ps, gladifoundthe new thread too!

rowrowrowtheboat · 15/07/2013 22:42

Ps, absolutely agree with Magic too, it's fallout.

LongTailedTit · 16/07/2013 01:00

I'm sorry you and MrP are having a tough time, but agree its probably the buildup of stress and emotion from last week. Hopefully it'll all blow over soon.

DS upset my friend's DS who's going to start at the same time, hair pulling and kicking him, just because they got too close, it's a bloody nightmare. I've now already had chats with the staff about how to 'deal with' him in Sept, and all the other parents saw me stressing out. Blush
I nearly changed my NN to ChinookParent because I've gone beyond helicopter parenting to a new level!
Sorry Pumble, just needed to get that out. xx

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Pumble · 16/07/2013 21:33

LTT Don't worry about the other parents - they will have forgotten about it by September. It's not a nightmare - September is a long way away - who knows how DS will be then. And, he doesn't kick or pull everyone's hair does he, and once he's more comfortable there he will relax too. Deep breaths - it will all be ok. Hope you had a good day today. And never say sorry for getting anything out! (Incidentally I do like chinookparent!)

P2 continues to improve, although she has the odd moment to remind me that she's still not 100% and something still hurts! I'm just so pleased it's dry (although possibly a little too hot!) so they can tire themselves out at P1 can be tired out at home. A good job too as I went down to the village today to get some shopping, we walked all the way home and I realised I had left my shopping so we had to go all the way back....P1 was not impressed!!

I'm being really horrible to Mr P - I'm trying very hard to be nice, but I'm just not managing it....

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rowrowrowtheboat · 16/07/2013 21:43

Agree that September is a long time away, the other parents won't be thinking of it at all and will have seen it all before, with their own of other children. Pumble is right, once DS gets to know his surroundings and relaxes you will love preschool as much as he will.

Glad P2 is improving and you are making the most of the outdoors. Your last comment made me sad, but you have to remember,

  • It is very hot, virtually everyone is grumpy and snappy from lack of sleep, it is not just you
  • you have been churned up worrying about P2, worrying what p1 makes of it all, worrying about how you will do it all. From your posts, you got through it brilliantly, but now is catch up time.

Keep trying, this time will pass. Keep remembering the tricks that help, if you are like me and cranky in the heat, or when you're tired or hungry, then go to bed early, eat well, and hide in the shade as much as you can. Try and get a snippet of me time, even just half an hour, I am evil to DH if I don't get even a little me time for a few weeks.

It will get better.

LongTailedTit · 16/07/2013 22:44

Thank you ladies! I'm sure all will improve when he gets more verbal, I just had a low day.

Glad P2 is still improving, I hope they're both sleeping well after the long walk!
This time next week all will be different again, really it will. xxxx

magimedi · 17/07/2013 10:40

Pumble, have you & Mr P been out together without the Pumblettes since P2 was born?

Even if you can just go up the road for a coffee/drink/walk for an hour it might help.

And you have to put a ban on talking about the Pumblettes!

Longtailed - I too am sure that no one will remember your DS's behaivour. I don't think I knew a small one who hadn't done that at some time or other. He'll be 2 months older by then & that's a lot at that age.

Keep cool - I've just finished cleaning the kitchen as it was getting beyond a joke & am going to do nothing else all day!

rowrowrowtheboat · 17/07/2013 19:03

Keep cool. I'm off for my first craft night (knitting) with friends. I am not sure how wise it is to introduce wine to the equation, but I am looking forward to catching up with the girls.

Pumble, unless you are a closet knitter, maybe there are sme people round by you who would have an evening of crafts and chat. You could do the bobble hats you were talking about!!

MrsHelsBels74 · 17/07/2013 19:15

Thanks for the tip on the new thread, glad to have found you all again.

Blimey it's hot....that's pretty much all I can think at the moment.

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Pumble · 18/07/2013 21:41

It's too hot....!

Thanks for all the advice re Mr P... We haven't been out together for I don't know how long and to be honest, I could really do with five minutes without the pumblettes! But, not five minutes without the pumblettes so that I can tidy the house, catch up on the ironing etc but five minutes just for me - I know that sounds incredibly selfish but it would be nice! We are bumbling along ok but it's like it just all feels a little tense if that makes sense?

I'm very jealous of your craft night rowrow I would love one of those to go to. I have so far knitted four hats for the girls (but can't work out how to sew them up) and have done the main bits for a cardigan for P1 and almost the same amount for a cardigan for P2 but can't work out how to do the boarders yet - it's like a foreign language!!

Been out and about with the pumblettes the last couple of days and probably have been making P1 walk a little too far in the heat so she is a little whingey which is hard going, especially with P2 still not 100%. It was a shame today as went to The Vyne (another NT property) and it could have been such a lovely day without the whingeing!!! They are being good girls though, and to be fair, I'm not enjoying the heat either!

How's things with your DH MrsHB

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MrsHelsBels74 · 18/07/2013 22:32

Things are still the same with DH. He's worried about his dad (who isn't well at the moment) so everything else has been put on hold.

magimedi · 18/07/2013 22:48

Not selfish at all.

Speak to Mr P & take some time out this w/e.

An hour out the house for a walk?

And hour at home (Mr P takes the Pumblettes out) for you to have a peaceful bath/shower/time to read............

You really do need to go for that, Pumble.

LongTailedTit · 19/07/2013 00:14

Do you have any friends who would have the Pumbletts for an hour and a half this weekend so you and Mr P can go for lunch? In this weather it's an easy ask, all they need do is supervise P1 in the paddling pool and keep P2 cool! In theory anyway. Whaddya reckon?

LittleBearPad · 19/07/2013 07:04

You really wouldn't be selfish at all to take some time for the two of you.

Hope this is possible.

rowrowrowtheboat · 19/07/2013 14:10

Definitely not selfish. It is so hard to grab 10 minutes for yourself with children around, especially in the hot weather, but everyone needs some time to themselves. My husband notices how much more grumpy I am if I haven't had anytime for me for a few weeks. A walk in the park, a swim, gardening (only if children are not in the garden) or whatever you like. It might only be an hour but it works a treat for me. Down time in really important.

Look here m.videojug.com/film/how-to-sew-seams-together for tips on sewing knitting together.

The craft night was good, we are looking to do it once a month, it's a shame you are so far away, ut hopefully you will find a fellow crafted soon. We had people making necklaces, knitting, cross stitching, crocheting, and making beads, so cast your net wide to find someone.

MrsHelsBels74 · 20/07/2013 19:13

Feeling crappy tonight, not sure if it's tiredness, money worries or what but I'm over sensitive & want to cry. Had a lovely day so no idea where this has come from.