Emetophobia - my worst nightmare

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Ds1 goes to a school set on several different sites. Today one of the sites has been closed for deep cleaning due to norovirus wiping out hundreds of children this week. There are loads of siblings in ds1's building/class and 8 of his classmates were off today.

I am a single parent (really outing myself here!) and terrified of what feels completely inevitable right now. I was awake all night last night, waiting. Shall be doing the same again tonight.

You know, I feel like I have improved a lot with my emetophobia recently. I am no longer worried about the odd v. It's the awful, debilitating violence of noro that terrifies the life out of me.

The waiting is utter torture

Hello! DS3 had his first taster session at nursery today and all I could think about while we were there is 'this school has a stomach bug outbreak and we're here playing'. Oh sigh. DS3 had a lovely time though.

Funny how many of us are scared of similar things. I don't know many other people scared of balloons and fireworks like me. My friends think I am nuts.

I think I have this. But to a lesser degree. Have always hated sick. If the dog starts retching I'm gone! It's terrible. In the last four months my eldest has had two bugs. First time he woke up crying at 930pm and I went up expecting him to perhaps have had a nightmare but no.... Then he kept being ill. Had to call Him Indoors to come home from work. HI had to sleep in with him. I couldn't.

Then again this weekend. Luckily HI home. Similar situation. HI stayed up with him. I couldn't. I felt awful as he was upset and pale and clearly wanted me to comfort him but I couldn't. I managed to clear it up but it's the actual retching and vomiting that I hate. Can't even watch Casualty!

The evenings HI not here I dread. In case dc1 is ill. I'm fine in the day. In fact I was fine until dc1 was ill the first time at night/on my own etc. Now I think about it a lot. Doesn't stop me going places or mixing with people. Tho some kids I know who are prone I am wary of or those folks still turn up to playdates despite their kids having recently been ill cheese me right off as that's selfish, but that's prob more cos I have The Fear.

Did say to HI recently that I worry about it a lot and he said to not worry that dc1 would be fine and not to stress. Easy for him to say.

If anyone says their kid was ill recently in our company my mind races convincing myself we will get it or worrying that the kid will be ill in my company.

When I had my sections I kept saying to the drug person to not let me feel sick/be sick and they did look after me. I was more worried about that than the spinal and surgery! I made the consultant aware and the anaesthetist and the midwives and HI was instructed to make sure they knew in theatre just in case!

The fact that I had nausea badly with both pregnancies was hideous. But that was more manageable for me than if one of the family was/is ill.

I'll shut up now!

Yes.
I get that.
I coped sort of ok with bad nausea in both my pg.
But when others are ill I hate it, ESP my kids.
Being sick doesn't bother dh at all.
He is odd :)

Badvoc I could not have ill dc in my bed let alone hold a bowl. That is amazing, men don't seem to mind sick as much I don't think.

Dh doesn't, that's for sure.
I am so terrified the dc will pick up on my phobia. I would hate that. I am proud I can be there for my kids, but it is hard, no doubt.

Yes be proud and you are always welcome round mine when mine are poorly

I tend to make soothing noises and keep my eyes closed :)

Sticking your fingers in your ears and singing lallalalalalalalal might make it all easier to.

i 2nd inneeds invitation to vicky regarding pop by when teh kids are ill

silversky you are sooo lucky bloke comes home and handles things!

i never met a bloke with emet-in fact i never recall see anything from one on the emets support site....

My invite was to badvoc as she can hold a bowl! < in awe

But everyone is welcome as long as they/or their dc have been stomach bug free for at least 2 weeks! And it does seem to be, most blokes go out on the piss and puke up every weekend and are fine with that!

i had it in my notes i had a severe vomit phobia when had kids-i got private room after the birth for fear being around strangers

had emergency c sect with ds

elected c sect with dd3i was prepared and refused morphine as i was adamant it wasnt going to make me more comfortable on the way from special care to my room and had felt very sick when they did it to me after ds.nurse looked at me like i was a raving lunatic"we can give you some if you ring for th nurses when you get there to administer some dear.it will help"i didnt feel any worse than when moved with the damn stuff,a little bit sickbut nothing i couldnt handle

when the midwife came to check on me nad read my notes she panicked i must be in agony!im good really,i saidi was out of there after both of them in48hr-id have gone home sooner if it was allowed as i wouldnt eat the food.i took a bag with bananas,bread rolls,loads mints and ginger biscuits.dp bought in a belgian bunand bottled water.

dd1 came and bought maltesers

i was vey hungry when i got home and had a stash of stuff in the freezer to devour and i ate so many mahoosive rounds sandwiches in the first couple of days back im surprised i didnt look like a loaf of bread!

sorry inneed,meant badvoc
have any of you ever been drunk?

i drank a larger and lime as a toddler in a working mens club when my dad was meant to be watching me...

never knowingly had any alcohol though since!

i had to have impacted wisdom teeth out under a general as i am also dental phobic and i swore when i came round and felt sick never again...

ive said they can give me a spinal/local in abundance but im never having another general!

when i had my sections the aneasthiatist was qute happy to chat as i nervously gabbled at him.apparently they prefer awake "clients" as we can say i dont feel right rather than try and work it out when our vital signs plunge!

disembodied voices from upstairs have asked for something to eat

ive left a box of breadsticks at the bottom of teh stairs and dd2 has come and collected them to share out.hoping that this is a good sign

he hasnt been sick since sat afternoon,girls since 3am monday morning
fingers,legs and eyes crossed!

I used to drink in my (mis spent) youth.
Was never sick though, which is amazing the amount in used to put away :)
I have also eaten very dodgy stuff when drunk...hot dogs from vans (I know, I know)
I no longer drink due to health issues but occasionally have one. Rare though.
I don't like eating out as I am very wary of cleanliness and food poisoning. Tend to stick to pasta places if we do eat out.
Zoo..maybe make them some toast? You should follow the brat diet after vomiting...bananas, rice, apples and toast.
My emetophobia seems to affect me more at different times...I can recall times it hasn't really bothered me much at all (pre dc) and other times it seems to rule my life (like now :()
Strange.

i forgot to add well done becky for fighting your desire to avoid,thus allowing your son to have a lovely time not sure i couldve at nursery

and well done for you staying in an enviorament deemed as a threat

so many of you are doing so well

Him indoors doesn't do poo, whereas that doesn't bother me! So we take turns depending on the illness.

Yes to drunk. Yes to hideous vomiting. Can recall three individual accounts over the years. Usually rein it in well before that stage.

Silver...I an the same..I can do poo, snot, blood, anything, but sick....ugh.

badvoc im told its fuelled by any stress in lfe so when you are under stress it will be more prevelant

apparently having kids is very common for it to escalate as the fear of them being ill is added into the mix,as well as the fact they are sick more often than grown ups with bugs as they are at school in confined spaces with lots of kids that may not observe very good hygiene practises and have immune systems that are still developing

on the school principal,have any of you ever considered home schooling?

blood and snot are my specialities
ds suffers nosebleeds regularly and both he and little zoo are "walrus sneezers"

im not too bad with poo,depends on the stench!

i had a friend once who worked in a nursery who couldnt coe with snot

she lived with me for a while when her mum got an new boyfriend she didnt get along with.she was great with vomit!

Zoo thank you! I think we are all amazing really. I never thought I'd ever be brave enough to get pregnant (fear of morning sickness), have one child (fear of people being sick and I knew that children are good at being sick) let alone have three! It's very hard to cope with these fears but we do, somehow, even though it doesn't feel like it at the time. But we do cope. There are people out there in the world who don't have such fears and phobias. They don't need to be as brave as we do.

dp has finally texted me.he can barely move with teh exhaustion and aching in his body but he hasnt been sick.feelin gvery sorry for himself though!

I used to struggle to even say the word 'sick'. I couldn't say if I had been sick I had to use 'ill' in it's place. Please tell me I am not alone a freak.

just noticed zoned has been very quiet....

how are things at zonedcentral?

zoo I can drink and still drink now. I know my limits as soon as I hit it I stop drinking and switch to lucazade. If I ever drink to much where I feel sick I eat. I feel really sick but making myself eat and drink lucazde stops me feeling sick and I get back to normal really quick. I have also perfected falling asleep with my eyes open to stop the room spinning.

My friends think I'm mad because I can't keep up with them on their yager bombs but 3 to 4 drinks is quite enough!

I am fine with blood, poo wee, snot bad smells (unless they make me gag then I'm gone) I unblocked the toilet yesterday morning that my lovely ds had blocked up with toilet roll and poo....doesn't bother me. I can't do spiders well I have to living alone so they get the argos catalog dropped on them or sucked into the henry and my mum can empty it.

When I was pregnant I had travel sickness bands, anti sickness tablets from the dr, ate ginger biscuits before I had even sat up in the morning and loads of things I did to prevent being sick. I was so lucky that I only felt sick till 12 weeks apart from the time I caught a bug with dd about 4 months along.

I can say sick but vomit makes me shudder even writing it.