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Feeling Overwhelmed - again.

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 11:36

Just that. I am feeling overwhelmed again. Nothing really to complain of and no crisis to deal with, but I feel so overwhelmed and despondant.

Anyone else feeling this way today who would like to talk sympathetically to a fellow sufferer?

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DumbledoresGirl · 22/02/2006 21:18

Thanks. Dh has just rung up to check on me. I am ashamed to say I don't even know where he is tonight.

I am off to bed too. I have decided I am going to break the mould and make Dumbledore himself my Patronus. Off to think if that is possible.

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NASWM · 22/02/2006 21:19

Ok mine is Sirius

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DumbledoresGirl · 22/02/2006 21:23

Good idea
Good night. Hope tomorrow is better for you (and that one day I get to find out what is getting you down - you are always so elusive about it!)

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NASWM · 23/02/2006 15:06

Sorry to be so vague DG. 2 reasons: 1, I am not very good at giving away lots of personal information, and 2, I dont want to be identified in RL. Does that make any sense?

I have no problem in saying that I am depressed, and struggling at the moment, and that I think it has been exacerbated becuase of lots of crap in my life recently. But I hope you will respect me for not being able to say more at the moment. Thanks. I'm sure if I gave away more details I'd find more help and support here but I cant bring myself to do it yet.

Suffice to say though this morning ay the hospital was not good and I have spent the last hour in tears (very rare occurance for me, and not good as always leaves me feeling sick - sorry if TMI DG, I know how you feel about this, I'm the same). I've tried calling two good friends but both are out. I just need to pull myself together now and find my 'mask' before collecting DS from nursery.

Wish patronuses weren't fantasy. Could do with one now to get me through the rest of the day.

Sorry DG hyjacking a bit

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DumbledoresGirl · 23/02/2006 18:46

Oh NASWM, I wasn't trying to make you feel bad! I completely understand your need for anonimity. I am a dreadful blabber mouth - ask me one personal question and I could hold the floor for the rest of the evening talking about me, but I do understand that other people don't find it so easy to talk.

You intrigue me though! I so much want to know more about you, I don't know why. I am not being nosey, I just feel drawn to wanting to know more about what is making you so sad. But of course I can undestnad you dond't want to reveal all on the world wide web. I suspect you don't usually reveal all in any situation.

2 quick things to say: firstly, do you have msn? I may have asked before. But if you do, I can give you my address if you feel it will help.

Secondly, I did a daft thing today. With 5 quick clicks, I pre ordered the latest HP film on DVD - I found out it is released on 20 March. I have never pre-ordered anything before and dh thinks I am crazy as I have already seen the film at the cinema, but it has given me a little somethng to look forward to next month.

Now I have to go as I have promised ds2 some time on the computer. But I will be back on again later this evening (probably) and hope you will tell me what happened at the hospital today - just say whatever you feel you can.

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DumbledoresGirl · 23/02/2006 18:52

Oh dh has just called ds2 upstairs for a bath.

I think NASWM you live near London or the south east, am I right? No no don't answer, I don't want you to think I am being pushy Anyway, shame you aren't nearer and couldn't come and watch the film with me.

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NASWM · 23/02/2006 20:19

Hi DG I do have MSN but have never used it. Is it easy? I'd love to try it out though.

Yep you were right I do live in SE London - how on earth did you know that???? What about you??

Dont think I'll be around much tonight. DH is coming in about 8.30pm (usually works late) and is bringing fish and chips in (I know, I know, but I cant face cooking). I may pop back later if he goes to bed before me. And if I wake with indigestion of course....

Excellent news re the HP film. Might just have to go on to Amazon and do the same. Retail therapy is one of my weaknesses. I've still not made it to the cinema to see this yet.

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DumbledoresGirl · 23/02/2006 20:21

My msn address is [email protected]

Go on, try contacting me, before your dh comes in.

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DumbledoresGirl · 23/02/2006 20:23

Oh and I am not stalking you but I thought I saw a thread you were on once when you mentioned the area you lived in. I am near Bristol now but was in West Sussex until last year and it is amazing how many nice people have joined MN since I mved who live in the SE.

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DumbledoresGirl · 23/02/2006 20:24

Or give me your address and I will see if I can get a link going. Pushy? Me? No LONELY

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DumbledoresGirl · 23/02/2006 20:56

Oh OK, I take it your dh is home now. I will just have to be lonely tonight - hey what's new.

Seriously though, if you want to try out MSN, add my address to your contact list (or start a contact list with my address) and send me a message. I think I have to be online to receive it but I have the computer on most of the time during the day so even if I am not there, the message will be left.

Have a nice evening with dh. Hope he can make you feel better about whatever happened at the hospitla today.

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tribpot · 23/02/2006 21:38

Just popping through to say hi, ladies - it is past my bedtime but wanted to let you know I was thinking about you tonight, our patronus discussions have really been helpful this week. Take care.

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DumbledoresGirl · 23/02/2006 21:40

Good night Tribpot. I fear I am the only one around tonight, and no-one to talk to but I hope we catch up again another day.

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tribpot · 24/02/2006 19:30

How are things this evening, ladies? I'm off to make dinner soon but just wanted to say hi.

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DumbledoresGirl · 24/02/2006 19:41

Bit grim here. Not feeling well today to add to my tribulations. Been reading HP6 and feeling gutted about D - more than 6 months after I first read it. I need a life!

How are things for you tribpot?

I think NASWM thinks I am stalking her!

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tribpot · 24/02/2006 19:46

Poor you DG, hope you're feeling better soon.

Things the same as ever here, off to the pain clinic on Monday, no doubt to be told that dh just has to keep persevering despite the fact he has absolutely no quality of life. The GP is concerned the level of opiates he's prescribing will raise suspicions he's "doing a Shipman" to bump dh off. To which dh replied "I can take more opiates than anyone realises, tell him to try and bump me off" (I did not pass this message on!).

I ordered the latest HP film yesterday as well, and without even reading that you had done I have them all except the first one - I lent it to someone and don't know who, so will prob buy another copy at some point.

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DumbledoresGirl · 24/02/2006 19:54

Good on you (buying the film). We only have 3 on DVD and 1 and 2 on video so need to update 1 and 2 one day.

I cannot imagine what your dh's life must be like, and with no clear road to improvement, it must be so disheartening. This is probably a daft question, but is he able to work?

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NASWM · 24/02/2006 20:04

Hi gals

Sorry for the silence. Hectic couple of days and DH around now - so less time to get on here. He would be VERY disproving.

Sorry you have not had a good day DG. Mine has been very emotional. Fell out with a very dear friend. Have sent long email in hope of trying to repair the relationship. Feel bad about it.

Still not been able to check out MSN (dont worry I dont think for a minute you are stalkiing me!!!) I have a hot mail accout though so can email you. Might be easier for me than trying out messenger. But both are difficult with DH in. Typical he is out most eves but when he is in I want five minutes peace!

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DumbledoresGirl · 24/02/2006 20:13

Yes, my hotmail address is the same. Go on make contact. I have a feeling you are teetering....

Why is dh so against you MNetting? Or is it just being on the computer that he doesn't like?

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NASWM · 24/02/2006 20:16

I've never actually told him about MN - but I know he wouldn't like it. And he doesn't know about the hotmail account...

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DumbledoresGirl · 24/02/2006 20:17

Well he doesn't have to find out....

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tribpot · 24/02/2006 20:21

No, DG, he can't really leave the house, so he hasn't been able to work now for a couple of years. I leave ds with him in the afternoons whilst I go to work, but as ds gets more active that will become more and more difficult to sustain.

NASWM · 24/02/2006 20:23

I know but I hate the 'secrecy'.

Oh dear I can smell the sausages burning. Will go and give DH some tea and come back after...

See you later.

PS Are you on your own tonight or is DH around?

PS I'm on my second glass of a very nice bottle of wine. What about you?

NASWM · 24/02/2006 20:24

sorry tribpot x-posted. didn;t mean to appear to trivialise your DH situation

Cannot begin to imagine what homelife is like for you.

Do you do this MSN thing too?

Oh dear sausages smeel awful now - I;m off for a little while

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DumbledoresGirl · 24/02/2006 20:26

Aargh. Why do I keep starting threads when I feel so sorry for myself only to discover that the people who comfort me have far more cause for complaint? First you with your dh's condition and then NASWM with her mystery problems which I suspect are pretty huge. All my problems are self inflicted and really petty in comparison.

I wish I could help tribpot and NASWM, I really do.

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