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Feeling Overwhelmed - again.

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 11:36

Just that. I am feeling overwhelmed again. Nothing really to complain of and no crisis to deal with, but I feel so overwhelmed and despondant.

Anyone else feeling this way today who would like to talk sympathetically to a fellow sufferer?

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 13:28

Everyone happy today? I am glad for you all.

(I am Lonelymum BTW).

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NASWM · 20/02/2006 18:30

Hi LM I didn't check in here when I logged on earlier, sorry

I feel crap today. got worse as day gone on.

Going to put kids to bed now but will try to come back later for chat.

I hope it helps that I am thinking of you. You are not alone

I like Dumbledoresgirl. but why?

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 19:46

Hi NASWM. Thanks for replying. I thought no-one would.

I am feeling really crap today - sort of wanting to cry all the time but for no real reason. I half want to crawl away and die and the other half feels like shaking myself and telling myself to pull myself together. You know?

How are you feeling now? Any reason why today is bad or are you just like me, suffering for no real reason?

DumbledoresGirl - well 2 reasons. One, a lot of people tell me to lose my depressing Lonelymum name. I am used to Lonelymum now, but I can see it is depressing so I occasionally try out DG.

And the reason for DG itself is because I love Dumbledore in Harry Potter - he is my favourite character. Don't know if you have read the books but, Harry is "accused" of being "Dumbledore's man through and through" in Book 6, and I thought I would like to be Dumbledore's Girl.

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NASWM · 20/02/2006 19:56

I like Dumbledoresgirl. I love HP Still not seen latest film though.

Too much happening to say why everything's crap right now. sorry. I;ve been tearful all day too. Mine is defintely hormonally linked. Not that my period is due until weekend. I'm going to have some pasta then a bath and go to bed. Dont even feeel like MN tonight.

Sorry that's not much help is it. Shall we 'talk' tomorrow?

Hang in there and I'll do the same

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 20:10

Oh I am sorry it is so bad for you. At least you know the hormones aren't helping - I don't even have that excuse as I have just had my period.

Yes I will probably be here tomorrow (she sighs, as I was thinking of giving Mumsnet a rest for a while, but probably won't be able to.) I'll look out for you tomorrow then.

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 20:13

If anyone else wnats to talk to me, I am still here. There is a lot of silliness going on though that you might prefer to be part of.

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bumbleweed · 20/02/2006 20:16

just to say sorry to hear you feel overwhelmed DG

I know the feeling myself from a few weeks ago - especially what you said about half feeling really weepy and the other half of you going 'dont be so ridiculous you have nothing to complain about'.

take care

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 20:19

Thanks.

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tribpot · 20/02/2006 20:19

Having similar feelings, DG. I am sure that if Dumbledore were here he would have some good and kind words of wisdom to make us all feel better, he's just that kinda guy.

Sorry you are feeling low. Just wanted you to know you are not alone.

PiccadillyCircus · 20/02/2006 20:21

I hate the feeling when I get overwhelmed/ Yesterday it was a combination of having come back from holiday and being in the reality of ordinary life again and getting frustrated that DH didn't share myy feeling that we needed to tidy up etc.

It's OK for him - he is at work and doesn't have to look at all the mess. But I haven't done anything about it today either - just lazed around with DD.

Now DH is out and I really should be tidying a bit so that when he gets home he won't be met with a mess. But I have no inclination to do it.

(sorry, you probably didn't want to hear my wafflings )

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 20:21

Sorry tribpot, I typed a reply and then got all emotional and deleted it.

Perhaps that is why I like Dumbledore. He is the exact opposite of me in his outlook.

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 20:23

PC, coming back from holiday is the worst thing, especially if you have been somewhere special. Dh and I went to Rome formour tenth wedding anniversary, only for a weekend, but it was such a fantastic place that I found normal life really hard to adapt to.

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 20:24

"for our tenth wedding anniversary".

Sorry, still crying and I don't know why now.

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tribpot · 20/02/2006 20:25

Sorry DG, hope my post didn't upset you. Dumbledore is generally a positive-thinking kind of bloke but then (a) he is fictional and (b) he has something definite to focus on and fight, namely Voldemort. (Incidentally, I assume I am not alone in seeing the Dementors as an analogy for depression).

Keep posting. I know that bottling it up inside is the worst - you aren't alone, even if we are just at the end of an internet connection, we know how you feel and want to help.

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 20:31

Yes, your comment did start me off, but not your fault, you just unwittingly hit on a sensitive subject I suppose. I don't know if the Dementors are an analogy for depression or whether they create depression in people because they suck out all happiness and hope and that is what depression feels like, but I did read that JKR had been through depression and hence her idea of the Dementors.

The thing about Dumbledore is, that you can't imagine him succumbing to the Dementors. The only time you hear of him having anything to do with Dementors, he is cross with them, not succumbing to them. They can't overwhelm him.

God I need a bloody big patronus right now!

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NASWM · 20/02/2006 20:41

what would your patronus be?

Sorry doing a bit of lurking but that comment prompted me to reply

Sorry how rude

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 20:46

Don't know. Interesting question.

I don't want to sound thick but I have never fully understood the forms patronuses take. I mean, did Tonk's change because she was in love with Lupin? What did it become? Why was it weaker than her old patronus? (Snape commented on it). Was it weaker because Lupin was resisting her advances?

Harry's is the same as his father's. Because he is so similar to his father in looks? He is not like him in character!

Go on, NASWM, come out of your exile and explain it to me. Better than thinking about real life!

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Aimsmum · 20/02/2006 20:49

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NASWM · 20/02/2006 20:58

Dont know, I've been thiking that since I posted it. I'd love a long chat with JK though wouldn;t you? She is so clever and so interesting.

Can't explain it tonight. Brain not in gear. also freezing cold. Hands shaking as I type. Really going now. Hot bath and bed. If I hang around I'll show too much of my emotional state

Let's have a patronus thread tomorrow eve

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 20:59

OK NASWM. I will try and look up something about it in between time.

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tribpot · 20/02/2006 21:11

Definitely let's have a patronus thread tomorrow. I've always thought Harry's was the same as his dad's because it was his dad protecting him from beyond death.

Is it Hermione whose patronus is an otter, or is that Ginny? Was Tonks' weaker because love makes us vulnerable?

Sorry DG, this is probably not quite the discussion you wanted to have tonight! Glad you enjoyed Rome, I would love to go (have never been).

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DumbledoresGirl · 20/02/2006 21:18

No tribpot, you are doing fine here. As I said to NASWM, I would prefer to discuss something else than why I am a serial misery guts. I have done the "Dumblesdore is not really dead" theory to death and if JKR doesn't get on and write a satisfying conclusion to her series which proves my point, I am going to do it myself! The patronus discussion is an interesting one to have, but I don't feel I understand it properly right now.

I will read up on it tomorrow. (but yes, I think Hermione is the one with the otter patronus).

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tribpot · 20/02/2006 22:09

I'm going to do a little bit of reading too, want to make sure I have my 'facts' to hand

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DumbledoresGirl · 21/02/2006 15:43

Oh and another thought for you before tonight: which happy memory would you think of in order to summon your Patronus?

I have been trying to think of something all day and feel a bit like Neville Longbottom who also really struggled to think of anything when practicing with the D.A.

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NASWM · 21/02/2006 19:27

Hi LM or should I say DG, and tribpot of course.

I've been thinking perhaps I should change my name to a HP related one. Notastrongwomanme still sums me up but I'd like something a bit more memorable than NASWM. will have to think on that.

Unfortunately I completely forgot last night that I have to go out tonight so cant enter in to the patronus debate (well not until very late anyway). typical. I never go out.

I've not had much chance to think it through properly but essentially I think a patronus is supposed to be an expression of your strength of character used at times of need - and brought on when needed my remembering a happy thought. Absolutely no idea what mine would be. have been thinking. Struggling with the happy memory at the moment too.

Anyway, I've got to go now. I'll check back later to see how you've got on and if anyone is still up I'll join you, if not tomorrow.

Hang in there DumbledoresGirl. Hey I might be ProfMcGonagel (cant remember how to spell it). I think she has a bigger heart than she lets on, and I respect her.