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can anyone help me?

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mosp · 20/05/2012 12:34

I want to cancel my skype and also facebook. I have googled. Sorry, I can't work out how to do it. I need to get rid of them both. Please, can anyone guide me what to do?

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mosp · 20/05/2012 22:29

not reported though. he's not done wrong really.

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NotGeoffVader · 20/05/2012 22:36

You can delete messages ( I think)

Go into your messages, then you'll see two buttons near the top of the page. One is called 'actions'. It gives you the option to delete messages. So do it :)

TiaMariaandDietCoke · 20/05/2012 22:37

Well done. If you open up his messages, there's a box called 'actions' click on that and there's an option to delete messages

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mosp · 20/05/2012 22:41

done

now is there anyway he can get in touch with me? will he see i deleted him, or will he just assume i am ignoring his messages?

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MrsSnaplegs · 20/05/2012 22:42

No he should not know you have blocked him according to FB own pages Smile

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mosp · 20/05/2012 22:43

so he'll just send messages and not know they are not received?

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Whatnamethistime · 20/05/2012 22:44

You have to delete messages from laptop/Pc not phone app.

Whatnamethistime · 20/05/2012 22:44

Mosp - I'm not sure now you have blocked him if he can message you

NotGeoffVader · 20/05/2012 22:46

If you have blocked him he can't see your profile to send messages to. I know this as one of my former friends blocked me when they ended our friendship. I can't see their details at all, even on mutual friends' profiles.

If you are still worried then you could change a great deal of your user info - take off any personal info, open a google email account and link that to fb, but have it forward to another private email address. That way you disappear.

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mosp · 20/05/2012 22:46

ok, just hope he's not upset

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mosp · 20/05/2012 22:48

I think I'm satisfied with what I've done now. Phew.

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MrsSnaplegs · 20/05/2012 22:49

I'm sorry to say this but bollocks to what he thinks - no-one should be made to feel like you currently do for any reason let alone his short term "enjoyment"Angry

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mosp · 20/05/2012 22:52

he'd had a bad week anyway, and then I deleted him. then i tried to apologise and ended up getting upset about what he did with my picture. he said he didn't need my attitude. i was sorry. i had to pacify him

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Leverette · 20/05/2012 22:54

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NotGeoffVader · 20/05/2012 22:55

I must say that I agree wit Snaplegs here - just because someone was a bit upset is not an excuse for them to take advantage of you, or for someone to coerce you into doing something you didn't want to (realise I may be rambling a little here but don't want you to feel you have so share details you may find distressing).

Your wellbeing is of the utmost importance here.

MrsSnaplegs · 20/05/2012 22:56

Ignore him - you are not responsible for him or his feelings, he is just words on a screen.
Think about yourself and your DC and forget him - he is not worth it.

I have to sign off now as poor signal upstairs

Look after yourself Smile

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mosp · 20/05/2012 22:59

He prob thought I was giving off mixed signals. I was explaining I didn't want to and also he complained I looked miserable. However, I felt guilty so I obeyed everything he asked me to do.

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NotGeoffVader · 20/05/2012 23:03

Okay, so the blocking then is a good start. Now presumably you need to have no further contact?

As for what has happened, well, there is no undoing it, but there is the opportunity for you to leave it in the past. Just because you felt guilty is no excuse for someone abusing your trust.

Unfortunately I too have to sign off here for now as lack of sleep is making me quite wobbly (only got 4 hours last night), but I will be back on here tomorrow evening. I just wish there was someone in RL you felt you could talk to, as I am sure that talking things over would be of some benefit.

Feel free to PM me on here if you want to, but please keep on the thread here as there are many here who are happy to help and support you all the way.

iamme43 · 21/05/2012 08:26

I hope you had a good nights sleep and are feeling better this morning.

Whats done is done.

Have no more contact and blocking is good.

Now move on and think of all the good things you have around you, we all make mistakes but we [women as the stronger sex] have the strength to get over them......

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mosp · 21/05/2012 10:28

I can't get it out of my head :(

Feel so upset and used. And have a horrible fear he'll find me. A kind of hunch :(

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mosp · 21/05/2012 10:37

I need to be rescued from myself. I've been waiting so long for therapy. If no one helps soon, I can't survive.

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iowmum88 · 21/05/2012 11:02

Can't you see if u can get an emergency appointment at GPs or phone the Samaritans just for someone to talk to and help

JustFab · 21/05/2012 12:18

If you have blocked him properly he won't be able to search for you on FB.

Please ring your doctor right now to get an emergency appointment.

Whatnamethistime · 21/05/2012 12:24

He prob thought I was giving off mixed signals. I was explaining I didn't want to and also he complained I looked miserable. However, I felt guilty so I obeyed everything he asked me to do.

the bolded bit, he used you - you did nothing wrong, the signals werent mixed they were clear, how about ringing New Pathways??

new pathways

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mosp · 21/05/2012 12:27

But what can my GP do? What I need is the therapy. GP has applied for special funding, but though he's been chasing it up, we've still not had a response.

I'm desperate to real help. I look at myself from 'above' and I see a puppet. Anyone can do whatever they like to me.

I know if he turned up, I know I'd be sorry for him and let him in. It's never about me. I just want to cry and cry.

Today I got a long letter from my lovely lovely penfriend. He's such a rock. I'll probably spill it all out in a letter to him later on.

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