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I have been sectioned.

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lazyhazydaisy · 26/01/2012 11:23

I have just got access to the internet. I am much less petrified than I was at first but definitely 0 out of ten. I have a tribunal and if that fails I think I will be here until July. I feel as though I am living in a nightmare. I have never felt so alone.

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GinAndStoic · 22/07/2012 15:43

people plan suicide for all manner of reasons. trauma is one. illness is another. do you not see the problem with that statement? People who are well do not plan suicides. Whether the cause is trauma or existing mental health issues, the end result is the same. When you have flu you don't worry about who gave it you, you worry about treating it. The op'sd post to reality was horrible. Its not reality's fault she is in this situation. Her post to woking was horrible too. Hairstrokers and tea-pourers are well and good, but the op needs help that mn can't give. I am worried about lurkers who use this board for support. This thread is second on a google search of "I have been sectioned" (incidentally, almost all the other results were unfairly admitted too) that worries me.

GinAndStoic · 22/07/2012 15:46

Oh, and I too came off my meds because they weren't doing anything, I wasn't ill. I was furious and insulted and thought everyone was out to get me. Until I ended up on a bridge with dh trying to talk me out of jumping.

And woking may have nced to tell her story. Not unusual at all.

aesopslabials · 22/07/2012 15:53

"people plan suicide for all manner of reasons. trauma is one. illness is another. do you not see the problem with that statement?"

no.
i would like to see if we can help practically and supportively without focusing on the "she is mentally ill " and suicide feelings which i actually think are totally natural tbh.

Woking · 22/07/2012 16:24

I cannot see what my posting history had to do with anything . I name changed before posting on this thread because 10 years of mumsnetting has shown me that when you post something that goes against the party line people will search through your history to try and discredit you, exactly as you have tried to do. I rarely post on MN anymore but a Facebook friend told me about this thread months ago because there were some parallels with my own life. My AIBU thread was on the topic of mowing your lawn hardly evidence that I am on a trolling voyage of disaster.

I have lurked on this thread for months out of concern for the OP and I would imagine hundreds of other people have as well. It does not make sense to say that people who have mental health issues ( as they will be the ones who will find this thread distressing not just because of the repeated suicide threats but also because we have been referred to as dribblers and inmates ) should stay away from the topic. It is also not right that a poster should be able to single one poster out and blame them for a possible suicide attempt.

People are not doing the OP any favours by telling her that her feelings are normal,

She needs more help than this forum can provide.

garlicbutter · 22/07/2012 17:10

No, you're right, it doesn't make sense to say people who have mental health issues should stay away from the Mental Health topic. I made it as a suggestion to you personally, Woking, but nobody's saying you've got to take it.

Several recent posts here are essentially looking to silence Daisy. I can't see what's constructive about that.

And, perhaps similarly, Woking, it's the reason I rarely talk about my psychological issues in real life. People can't handle it, they want you to shut up. They want you either to be Fine and not discuss it, or to go hide out of sight in an institution. For a fair amount of the time neither is a viable option for me so, like so many others, I "isolate" and talk online.

This would, of course, be seen by the MH industry as symptomatic: if not self-isolating, I'm either in denial or ruminating. Of course it's symptomatic. What I need is talk - and online is the only safe place to do it as I can't afford a therapist and have had my NHS & charity rations. Silence those of us who need this, perhaps by telling us to make up our minds whether we're sane or crazy, and you could do untold damage.

  • You is meant generally, as in "one".
GinAndStoic · 22/07/2012 17:11

Woking, exactly. Well said. I have mh issues, anorexia and obsessive compulsive behaviours but rarely post in here. I do lurk though.

garlicbutter · 22/07/2012 17:15

People are not doing the OP any favours by telling her that her feelings are normal

That's odd. Her feelings are normal for someone whose life has been so completely disrupted.

Why do you think they give kidnap victims and major incident survivors a bunch of intensive counselling? Because their lives have been torn apart and they feel like Daisy feels.

GinAndStoic · 22/07/2012 17:24

You are being obtuse. They are not normal for someone who is fit and well. As I said, it doesn't matter if the ops state of mind is because of a pre-existing medical condition, or is as a result of trauma. The feelings are there. And they aren't normal.

garlicbutter · 22/07/2012 17:28

Well, no, they're not normal for somebody who's living their ordinary life in the ordinary way, with nothing extraordinary happening at all Confused I can't see your point? Must be coz I'm obtuse, eh.

GinAndStoic · 22/07/2012 17:31

Must be. I'm out.

GinAndStoic · 22/07/2012 17:31

Must be. I'm out.

Woking · 22/07/2012 17:36

Why should I hide the MH board when it is one that I have used for years and found to be useful, in times of real crisis it has been a huge help.

I think there is a difference between my husband who knows and cares for me asking me to consider taking a step back and someone who does not know me from Adam simply wanting to silence me.

I said many posts ago that the OP was not finding it helpful to have her mental health discussed and therefore I would just hope that she gets some help. I am not sure what I have done to offend you so much .

I have not experienced in my real life that people have ever wanted to shut me up or lock me away. I must have been really lucky. I did once experience horrific mental health care in a hospital that was quite well known for a relatively high suicide rate. That experience did make me more ill and I was only there for a month . I was very fortunate that we were able to transfer me to a private institution and that over the years we have been able to top up my NHS care with private provision . Most years I will have a short preventative stay in an institution, but I have had to pay for that service. It makes me very angry that that is necessary and I think that without that private provision and one very good NHS hospital I would have lost my family, I certainly would not be working and I may not be here.

I hope that the OP can continue to use this site to help her as I have done so . But she cannot lash out at people , particularly on a board where so many others are vulnerable.

I will repeat my offer to the OP, as someone who has been in mental health institutions a few times, often for months at a time, and I have seen the best and perhaps worst of the system, I am happy to discuss how I managed to piece my life back together.

swooosh · 22/07/2012 17:43

I agree with everything Gin has said. This really is a worrying thread, Daisy you clearly are suffering from mental health problems. Even if you wasn't diagnosed with them, even if you were, I'm talking post-'Alcatraz' PTSD, whatever it is. You aren't washing, making contact with people to HELP you - getting your drains/roof sorted etc.

garlicbutter · 22/07/2012 17:59

What do you want her to do, Swoosh?

(Just for info, Daisy has contacted Mind, Sane and Rethink, has lawyers on her case and has spoken to Samaritans.)

aesopslabials · 22/07/2012 18:04

Swoosh, daisy is looking to contact about her roof and house situation. She posted it a few pages back (sorry on phone). She has also contacted mind and sane. She is doing stuff...amazing considering the conditions she is in tbh and what she has been through.

DollyTwat · 22/07/2012 18:34

Im no expert but arguing on Daisy's thread isn't helping anyone
Least of all Daisy who has been getting support and help from it

We are all worried about you Daisy, I hope that you can see that and I think we all feel that we wish we could do something to help. We all will have different ideas on what might help.

Just for now it seems like practical help would be the thing that would be most beneficial. I know that when my house looks like a bombsite I feel anxious and it's no-where near what yours is.

annalovesmrbates · 22/07/2012 18:41

Agree with you Dolly, a thread hijack will not help Daisy at all and I assume that everyone wants to try to help her in any way.

Daisy - how are you doing?

madmouse · 22/07/2012 19:52

I know I left MN but I've still been reading this thread and like Reality I find quite clearly that the OP is suffering from a significant mental illness involving loss of insight and loss of contact with reality.

She is not actually displaying symptoms of PTSD, at least not as she describes herself.

I've been sitting on my hands for ages now as I got increasingly concerned that some of you are 'feeding' her.

I'm happy to disappear again but I need to say this.

And yes I know what I'm talking about.

droves · 22/07/2012 19:55

Daisy re the Italian words :

I don't understand ...who or what are you calling a cunt ?

Hmm .

(sorry off tangent , but I do kind of love that your humour is still there in the background , waiting to pounce Wink )

aesopslabials · 22/07/2012 20:53

Getting concerned by the airchair diagnosis and wondering if at this point we should set up a group on fb or a forum somewhere to support daisy? Up to you daisy but would hate to see this thread pulled and the support removed. If there is anyone here that you trust to do this daisy please message them or me and I will make a second space incase this gets locked. Bit saddened tbh

amillionyears · 22/07/2012 21:01

agree with madmouse.
Nice to see you madmouse.

aesopslabials · 22/07/2012 21:10

i have set up a forum just incase this thread gets locked or pulled. pm me for details. everyone welcome that wants to support daisy, garlic and others who have experienced this or who need some peer support. cannot promise to work miracles but i do believe that on the whole human nature can shine through the shittest of situations. i have no agenda but to help if i can or listen if i can't help. happy to prove to mumsnet or anyone else who i am and that i am a real genuine person who is who she says and has done what she says.

two forum rules... be honest, be kind. will give admin password to anyone who wishes to have it.

is that ok daisy? you don't need to use it but it is there if you get in the shit ok?

lazyhazyDaisee · 22/07/2012 21:14

Thank you. I don't feel safe here anymore.

aesopslabials · 22/07/2012 21:19

:( ok daisy pm me or garlic ok? and anyone else who wants link.

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