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Can't sleep, marriage falling apart...

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Ineversignedupforthis · 18/10/2011 05:37

Trying to keep it together for now. Major problems with massively entitled, passive aggressive oh, which keep coming up. Been going on and off for 20 yrs (the problems).

Have bi-polar, which is generally under control, but know I have to be careful, particularly during stress, when I can't sleep.

Am back in that cycle where I wake up at 4 in the morning, almost bang on, as if by alarm clock. Any thoughts? Any poor sod up like me?

OP posts:
ChildofIsis · 01/12/2011 19:44

Wig stands?

ParsleyTheLioness · 01/12/2011 19:50

Will pm you...

ParsleyTheLioness · 02/12/2011 11:15

Have gone back to bed for another hour this morning. Just felt tatered, and have to meet ah later, and its late night shopping in the village for Crimbo, which will be a treat after the trial...How are you today Isis?

ChildofIsis · 02/12/2011 11:17

I'm great today.
Getting all sorted for our little road trip after school.
We're really looking forward to getting away if only for one night.

I just need to get off MN and finish my jobs now!

ParsleyTheLioness · 02/12/2011 14:00

Good for you. Enjoy ur trip. Have sent you a message from the Dark Side!

ChildofIsis · 02/12/2011 15:36

I got your message, I'm sure that Parsley is not your middle name really!!!
However it was quick thinking of you.
Just waiting for xh to bring DD home from school, quick snack then we'll be off.

ParsleyTheLioness · 02/12/2011 15:51

I did it a while ago...changed my name back to maiden name, and added a twiddly bit...can't change my status to separated though, from Its Complicated. Must have been able to do it last time....

ChildofIsis · 03/12/2011 17:50

Maybe it won't let you change your status until it becomes less complicated!

DD was spectacularly sick on the long journey home, twice.
I'm glad my floor mats are rubber.

Then I discover that Orange had suspended my phone so it's just as well I didn't need to call for help.
I paid them at the end of last month and again on friday, maybe they want blood as well; everybody else seems to these days.

I've been an Orange customer for 15 years, well not anymore.
I've e-mailed them and told them what I think of them, particularly as I tried for 40mins to get passed their ridiculous automated answering system to be told that it was a further 10 mins wait to talk to someone real.

Do you know I am so sick of having to fight for everything but I will not let some twat of a company whose wages I pay defeat me.

ParsleyTheLioness · 03/12/2011 19:16

Isis that does sound a bit shit.... night away not good then, or good bit forgotten in what came after....I have changed to seperated, weirdly, you can only do it under Friends and Family or other such nonsensical heading.....

ChildofIsis · 04/12/2011 08:35

It was a good night away, the sickness is just another one of life's challenges.
This sort of thing always makes me smile to myself as people being sick was the one thing I could never deal with before I had DD.
She was such a colicy baby; she could vomit across the room; that I just get on with it now and it doesn't phase me at all.
She's fine this morning, had a great sleep and is raring to go.
She'll have to have tomorrow off school though as they have a 48 hour rule for sickness.

Oh and my phone was working again this morning, I wonder if I'll get an apology?

ParsleyTheLioness · 04/12/2011 11:09

Wouldn't hold your breath for the apology.....glad you had a good night away though.

ParsleyTheLioness · 04/12/2011 17:29

I have two phones, and one of them is Orange PAYG. It won't let me make calls, cos I don't have enough credit, and it won't put me through to the top-up helpline to put the credit on...cos I don't have any credit. So my only alternative is to buy a voucher sometime, but it does seem ridiculous, that I am trying to give them money on the phone via my card, and they won't let me....Xmas Confused

ChildofIsis · 05/12/2011 08:10

I'm going to pull myself up to my full height ( 5'2") and e-mail Orange demanding an apology and a refund for no service over 24 hrs.
I may not get anywhere but it will make me feel better.

ParsleyTheLioness · 05/12/2011 14:01

Well, have you had it yet Isis?

ChildofIsis · 05/12/2011 16:26

Inertia set in and I haven't e-mailed yet.
DD off today as school won't have pupils back until 48hrs has elapsed after d & v symptoms.
As a result I haven't got much of any great importance done.

I'll send it tonight once DD's in bed.
I love her dearly but do find it hard to concentrate when 'the wittering' is at full speed.

ChildofIsis · 05/12/2011 16:27

I've just realised we've lost Nose.
Do you think we scared her off?

RudolphthePinkNosedReindeer · 05/12/2011 16:31

Oh but it's great when you've got daughters - with any luck they carry on wittering as teenagers and young adults, much more than sons as far as I can tell. So you get to hear more about your daughter's life than your son's (in my case, and the experience of most of my friends).

Spending time with your daughter and listening to her wittering is of Great Importance, woman! It's all true about them growing up quicker than you think :)

ChildofIsis · 05/12/2011 16:50

I realise that, I meant that I didn't get any 'work' done today.
Having spent all day yesterday doing accounts I wanted to tidy them up ready for a meeting with my bank business manager on wednesday.

Whilst DD is the most important thing in the world I do have a business to run and now that my brain is less mashed from xh leaving I want to get caught up.

RudolphthePinkNosedReindeer · 05/12/2011 17:13

ooh business accounts Do you use excel? I am having to do the family accounts for the last decade, because of my impending divorce, spent the last 3 days sort of solid on it (OK and MN, but MN is so helping me work things through). I have had to make myself have today off! No LOs, all grown.

What sort of business do you have, can you say?

ChildofIsis · 05/12/2011 19:27

Xh and I run a property company, lettings renovations etc.
Currently neither of us take a wage from it.
He works f/t for a national construction company and I work p/t for the company, gratis.
The theory was that it was sweat-equity and we were working towards our future. Clearly he hadn't been thinking of our future for a very long time.
I see it as DD's inheritence and at some point I will be able to take a wage from it.

If he ever gets his finger out we will have to do the same with our domestic finances, I can tell you now who'll do the bulk of the work!

Before DD I ran a tearoom and craft shop for 10 yrs so am well used to accounts.
These are a bit different as we are a limited company so it's all a bit more serious.

ParsleyTheLioness · 05/12/2011 19:35

Ooh, Isis....there is a cafe in the village that will be for sale before too long, and I keep eyeing it up, and thinking, sofas, low coffee tables, open one night a week for poetry readings, sell craft stuff from the walls....
Can't realistically raise the capital at the moment, so will carry on with the hats and bags, which is just sweat rather than capital intensive.

ChildofIsis · 05/12/2011 19:45

It's a great idea if you love long hours and hard work.
My place was only small I was the only f/t so if I wasn't there it was closed.
So only one week's leave per year and worked six days per week the rest of the year, seven in the summer hols weeks. Mind you I did close early on a wednesday.
At least once per month up at some ungodly hour to get to the cash and carry (25 miles away) for it opening at 6.30am and back to the tearoom to off load and prepare for the day. That's with getting all the frozen stuff delivered.

I did enjoy the interaction with the customers...most of the time.
I started in catering in my early teens and did hotel management at college.
I found that serving people is something that I was drawn to do.
I can always tell those staff members who just do it cos it's a job, there's a real art to being good with the public.

These days I serve my tenants instead, both easier and harder in different ways.
I've always believed in treating people how you would like to be treated.

ParsleyTheLioness · 06/12/2011 07:37

I did think the hours would be a downside... at the moment I can work about half-time, but not with a cafe...
Yes, treat people properly, I agree.

ChildofIsis · 08/12/2011 08:22

Well another day of DD off school.
The 'tummy bug' from the weekend has reappeared from the other end (sorry tmi).
She'd had a sore tum off and on since the weekend but has been up in the night lots so we get to have an extra day together.
I think we may attempt the xmas cards later.

How are you?

ParsleyTheLioness · 08/12/2011 16:47

A bit low, but think I have done too much this week... when kids are ill, all other plans go by the wayside.... I am glad I can work round her though, must be awful if you work for someone else trying to juggle it all.
Poor Isismini, hope she feels better soon.