Insomnia friends; bye bye 2010 the year of bad sleep, hello 2011 the year of good sleep!

[BeckyBendyLegs]

How about this then everyone?

Hey! Hope all is well with everyone.
Sorry to those of you who aren't sleeping well ... I know what it is like...
how are you getdown? Thinking of you and hope all goes well x
Sorry you're feeling emotional Becky, I am up and down too and it's definitely hormone related I think a lot of the time.
I've slept really well for seven nights in a row (however have been using sominex, amitriptyline - very low dosage, and once nytol - but not all at the same time!!)
this is following a few nights where I was back on the zopiclone and feeling like I was back to square one.
I am touching wood heavily as I speak, don't want to jinx it!
Work has been better and I finally have some admin support. I am due to meet with my boss next week (he has managed to delay the issue!) and don't know whether to expect a bollocking or a pay rise . Will try and keep my cool.
DD is running around and has brand new shoes, I did the whole 'my first shoes' thing in Clarks with the photo and everything which I know is commercial but it was sweet.
The only problem right now is DP who is so grumpy, especially seems to be at weekends . He had a right strop last weekend in london when we went out for my brother's birthday which ruined the weekend for me, and has been arsey again this weekend. Have been thinking about posting in relationships on here but am a bit too scared after my experience on the employment thread (basically someone really laid into me and it really upset me). I try and hold on to the good times but I feel like I have to be ultra cheerful all the time to jolly him along and it gets really bloody annoying to be honest

Hey! Hope all is well with everyone.
Sorry to those of you who aren't sleeping well ... I know what it is like...
how are you getdown? Thinking of you and hope all goes well x
Sorry you're feeling emotional Becky, I am up and down too and it's definitely hormone related I think a lot of the time.
I've slept really well for seven nights in a row (however have been using sominex, amitriptyline - very low dosage, and once nytol - but not all at the same time!!)
this is following a few nights where I was back on the zopiclone and feeling like I was back to square one.
I am touching wood heavily as I speak, don't want to jinx it!
Work has been better and I finally have some admin support. I am due to meet with my boss next week (he has managed to delay the issue!) and don't know whether to expect a bollocking or a pay rise . Will try and keep my cool.
DD is running around and has brand new shoes, I did the whole 'my first shoes' thing in Clarks with the photo and everything which I know is commercial but it was sweet.
The only problem right now is DP who is so grumpy, especially seems to be at weekends . He had a right strop last weekend in london when we went out for my brother's birthday which ruined the weekend for me, and has been arsey again this weekend. Have been thinking about posting in relationships on here but am a bit too scared after my experience on the employment thread (basically someone really laid into me and it really upset me). I try and hold on to the good times but I feel like I have to be ultra cheerful all the time to jolly him along and it gets really bloody annoying to be honest

Hey arcadia I was wondering how you were doing! So, you went with the amitriptyline in the end? How do you find it, any side effects? It's great you've had a week of good sleep - fab! Mine is a bit up and down at the moment, trying not to think about the fact I can't take an emergency something-or-other to help me along the way!

However, I had a night last week ( a work night) where I got less than 2 hrs and I still (somehow) survived the next day without feeling too bad, so am just holding on to the PST that EVEN if I have a crap night, I WILL be ok

Hope your meeting with your bastard boss goes ok. STAND YOUR GROUND! Sorry you had some horrible replies in the employment thread.

Also sorry to hear about DP. Is he on ADs now? Do you think he is still depressed? Horrible for you to have to deal with Hope he is getting help.

Cute about your DD, has she got many words yet?

Talking of words and cute babies, here are DS3's: Bobble (DS1's nickname), Mamamama (me, I guess), cat, book, Match Attax (football cards that DS1 is crazy about collecting), and gocgoc (chocolate).

Arcadia good to hear from you. Good luck with your meeting. Be strong :)

GetDown you did survive a 2-hour night fine! You are going to be ok. How are you feeling, generally?

Better go - DS3 wants toast!

Hi getdown and Becky.
I don't take amitriptyline as an AD - just a very low dose as a sleep aid sometimes. Such a low dose that it is a dose they give to children for bedwetting (!), ten times lower than what an adult can be on for depression, so I don't get side effects, and I don't take it every night. It's not as strong as the sominex so I'm taking it on non-work nights until I feel confident enough about my sleep again to go without all together.

With DP I don't know if he is depressed or whether it is just his personality. Thinking back he has always been a bit like this. It's not as bad as depression but he is generally on the low side, like I am generally on the anxious side. He doesn't cope well with DD getting upset - and she is a wilful toddler now so it's not a good mix! and he is not very good at just going with the flow - wants to plan everything and gets annoyed if it doesn't go to plan. It's getting to the point though that I'm going to tell him to go back to the doctor - it's not fair to me and DD to have him grumpy every weekend. He started SJW last autumn but came off it as he had lots of stomach upsets and we wondered if that was causing it.

DD is starting to sound like she's talking but not many identifiable words - 'bubbub' for her rabbit (that we call babbab) and she says 'daddy' a lot and the cutest is when she drops something she says 'uh-oh' and keeps repeating it!

Arcadia that is so cute. DS3 does uh-oh too! DS1 called me daddy for months before he could say mummy. It used to be embarrassing at toddler groups when he's shout 'daddy!!!!' at me.

PS I forgot an important word in DS3's vocab: 'nana'. He eats two bananas a day. He loves them!

I like that about you being called 'daddy'! DD says it a lot too. She had a total meltdown again tonight at tea time - she just won't go in her chair and eat in the evenings at the moment. She goes completely hysterical and writhes around literally screaming until you take her out and calm her down. She is teething but it's not affecting her at other times, do you think it's tiredness or what?
It triggered DP off being in a mood again (he's very miserable again today) so I had to do everything this evening. Think I'm off for a swim now.
Later!

Arcadia - with Nathan the combination of sore mouth and hungry tummy could be quite volatile and we have sometimes resorted to calpol, break and try again

Thanks madmouse am going to try different things over the next couple of days. Hopefully it is 'just a phase'!

Also Arcadia tiredness can play a part. At the moment I'm trying to get DS3 to have his nap after some lunch and he struggles to eat if he is really tired and he's niggly (although today I put on Katy Perry Firework for him and that perked him up enough as he loves that song!).

Hi all

Hope you are all ok....

I've been having quite a few weird nights lately, but overall seem to be getting enough sleep, so can't complain. Just seem to keep waking up at weird times. Night before last it was 2am, then last night it was 5am and didn't get back to sleep (except for 10 minutes before I had to get up of course )

It's so strange. It's almost like my body says "right. That;s enough sleep now. Bing! Wide awake". Never seem to be able to doze any more or have that lovely drifting in and out of sleep thing that I used to get. Is my sleep buggered forever do you think

Thanks for asking becky it's going ok thanks (I think) but the lack of reassurance that this pg is ok is really killing me. I've got some symptoms (sore boobs, sickness) but they just come and go so much, and the nausea was much worse when I first found out, and doesn't seem nearly as prominent now so am worrying that this is a bad sign.

But on the other hand know there is absolutely nothing I can do to influence the outcome at this stage so what choice do I have but to try and relax and think the best? (trying to fight off irrational urges to book an expensive early scan I know, I know )

arcadia have you had that meeting with your boss yet? sorry to hear DD is being screamy. I seem to remember that stage. It is a nightmare. Arrgh. But it will pass. Sorry that DP is still being moody Has he got a male pal he can go out for a drink with and off load? My DH always seems a lot more chipper if he goes out with his mate once in a while.

becky I am very impressed your DS can say match attax!! I like his priorities

how are madmouse, orangeflutie, feelingold, and everyone else I've missed doing?

GetDown when I was pregnant I found I would fall into a deep sleep as soon as I dragged myself up to bed and sleep very solidly except the frequent wee breaks, but then I'd be very restless in the early hours often awake 5-6am onwards. I don't know why though? Hormones? It didn't worry me though (ie getting enough sleep) as I woke up feeling rested.

Hi

GetDown I'm not sure how many weeks pregnant you are but I had an early scan with dd2 on the NHS,(I think at 7 weeks), as I had some bleeding. If you're worried and just want some reassurance do you now have to pay?

I've recently found out my sister is having another baby. It's lovely news as she's 40 and was beginning to think it wouldn't happen again, so I'm really pleased for her and me as I get to be an auntie again:)

Hi orangeflutie that is good news about your sister, lovely to be an auntie! Someone told me once I had my own I wouldn't be so bothered about my nephew and niece but I still love seeing them and adore them, it's such a special relationship without the stress that you have with your own kids .

getdown you will sleep well again. This sleep thing really goes in phases. Two weeks ago I took zopiclone a few times and thought I'd never sleep well again. The last ten nights I have slept well despite DD waking with that nice drifty feeling when I do wake... rubbish at getting myself up in the mornings though! Hope you're feeling OK and I know you must be feeling anxious about the pregnancy.

Thanks for asking, i'm meeting my boss on friday. Problem is someone new has now started which is good in one way but makes me less crucial .... basically if I left now the new person could simply take on my workload, so not sure if boss too bothered about keeping me. However I'll put forward my best case and try and keep my cool. If I don't get what I want I will quietly plan my exit strategy but in this economic environment could take a while... I'm prepared for that...

Funny I was just thinking DP could do with a night out one on one with a bloke friend ... might text my good male friend (who has baby same age, and is a social worker!) and ask him to suggest it ... they get on really well...

orangeflutie I'm only 5 weeks pregnant, and I don't think they offer early scans here. I haven't had any bleeding, so no reason to worry really. But just can't help it. With the MC my symptoms disappeared literally overnight and I started bleeding the next day, so just shows it can all happen very quickly. Still, this pregnancy has already lasted longer than the last one, so trying to stay positive Glad to hear that your sis is expecting! When is she due?

thanks arcadia I know you're right about the sleep getting better and going in phases. I really miss the whole dozing thing, and sick of waking up instantly bolt awake, but need to accept it's just a phase. Hope your meeting goes ok. I'm sure your boss would still want to keep you, as you would have more experience in that firm than the new person, and you;ve probably got existing client relationships etc. so don't do yourself down. Hope you can be really confident in the meeting.

Hey. Sorry to hear theres been some struggles over the past couple of days

I have just finished 4 days at work 8-8. Sleep has been horrendous. I gave in last night and took a zopiclone. It was lovely but getting up this morning was a bitch.

I hate the new shifts at work. I havent seen my dd awake for my than 10 minutes the past 4 days cos I'm always at work. Granted I get more time off in between but the actual days i work are awful. God knows how I would cope without my parents, they are great allowing us to stay and looking after dd whenever they can. How they have put up with me all these years I will never know.

Anyway I'm sending everyone good sleep vibes tonight and hope everyone has a good day tomorrow

PS: Is it naughty that I'm keeping dd out of nursery tomorrow so I can sit on the sofa watching cartoons with her all day

Orangeflutie that's lovely news! I have two nieces and one nephew and I think the relationship between an auntie / uncle and niece / nephew is a lovely one. Both my parents were only children so I missed out in that respect. My oldest niece is now 24 years old (I was only 15 when she was born).
I had that dream again last night when I was running away from a derailed train. This time it ran over me and I injured my foot. It was horrible.

Frikadela don't feel bad about your DD having a day off - sounds lovely to have a day on the sofa :)

becky i keep meaning to ask, how is your niece now?

She's much better, thank for asking Arcadia. She has good days and bad days and her facebook status seems to reflect that. She's much better than she was.

That's good Becky.
frikadela that sounds like a terrible work pattern for sleep as you don't get to switch off properly in between the days. Hope you've caught up a bit now. Cartoons with DD sounds nice - how old is she? - I'm trying not to wish it away but I'm looking forward to being able to do stuff like that with my DD.
How is everyone? I have slept pretty well for 10 or 11 nights in a row now, so will think about trying without the sominex/low dose amitriptyline again soon (but not too soon!). Last night I was so shattered I fell asleep straight away, though still my last thought always seems to be 'oh no I'm not going to get to sleep'!
DD is a bit all over the place at the mo, acting like a toddler and having little tantrums (though she always has really!), her days sleeps are all over the place, and she is being funny about eating. DP spoke to her nursery and they said she'd been feeding herself for the past two weeks. Am a bit annoyed they didn't let us know - she's being going mad at home when we've tried to feed her in her high chair!
Meeting with boss tomorrow - need to prepare, he seems to be in one of his bad moods this week.
DP seems a bit better and we're having a Saturday night away in the Cotwolds weekend after next and his parents will stay here with DD if we are all well and nothing goes wrong before then!

hey arcadia, dd is just 2 last month. she is my everything and the only reason I put up with the rubbish shift!

not long to go now tho. im back at uni in march to finish my nurse training, I had to stop whilst pregnant and then its taken ages for a place to come up.

A bit of a shocker today... the exs new missus called me to find out when I was back at uni cos she has been having rows with OH about him not seeing my dd enough. anyway she has arranged with him to work from home (shes his boss) on days when im doing long days so he can look after dd. I never thought the women my fella buggered off for would be an ally but she has been ace recently.
just so glad that dd will get to see her dad more often :-)

in terms of sleep, its been less than 4 hours every night of past week. I have 6 month review with gp and cpn next week so we'll see what happens!

sorry for bad spelling, am on phone!

hope everyones alright!

hey arcadia, dd is just 2 last month. she is my everything and the only reason I put up with the rubbish shift!

not long to go now tho. im back at uni in march to finish my nurse training, I had to stop whilst pregnant and then its taken ages for a place to come up.

A bit of a shocker today... the exs new missus called me to find out when I was back at uni cos she has been having rows with OH about him not seeing my dd enough. anyway she has arranged with him to work from home (shes his boss) on days when im doing long days so he can look after dd. I never thought the women my fella buggered off for would be an ally but she has been ace recently.
just so glad that dd will get to see her dad more often :-)

in terms of sleep, its been less than 4 hours every night of past week. I have 6 month review with gp and cpn next week so we'll see what happens!

sorry for bad spelling, am on phone!

hope everyones alright!

Sorry I'm in one of those moods that I don't really want to/can't talk about me and end up not posting on here.

I'm reading it all the time keeping up to date with everyone.

Will be back soon

Madmouse hug.