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Insomnia friends; bye bye 2010 the year of bad sleep, hello 2011 the year of good sleep!

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BeckyBendyLegs · 30/12/2010 10:41

How about this then everyone?

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maledetta · 16/09/2011 21:19

Becky Kick! No, only joking, have a shoulder massage...
Get Down Oh wonderful, wonderful, congratulations.

BeckyBendyLegs · 17/09/2011 10:09

I slept better last night - yeah - after Japanese food with DH for our anniversary.

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madmouse · 17/09/2011 16:07

well done Becky x

Getdown hope you're still all loved up xx

GetDownYouWillFall · 18/09/2011 18:01

shattered.com Wish wish wish I could sleep during the day! Right now DH and baby are asleep. DD has been taken out by some lovely friends. I am up roaming the house!! Angry Can't sleep despite getting 2-3hrs at most last night, and not much more the previous 4 nights either. SIGH.

Hope everyone else ok. Sorry you are not sleeping great becky and re. the broodiness..... think of the university fees! xxxx

madmouse · 18/09/2011 19:13

getdown sorry you can't sleep while everyone else is sleeping. I hope it won't be needed but do flag it up as a problem as early as you can xx

BeckyBendyLegs · 18/09/2011 19:24

GetDown I am thinking of you. I hope you get more sleep tonight. It is really hard the first couple of weeks but he may start sleeping more at night in a few days - I remember with mine they first of all slept ok in the hospital, then didn't for about two weeks, then got better at it for a while. Those two weeks are very, very hard when you're tired but just remember that that is very normal with a new baby. It's hard though so big hugs coming your way xxx. I can remember that feeling so well, that overwhelming tiredness.

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GetDownYouWillFall · 19/09/2011 10:25

Just finished a feed, so here goes.....

I am still totally overwhelmed and amazed by everything that happened. Some of you will know that I didn?t have the best of starts when DD was born nearly 4 years ago. Had a horrific birth, lots of subsequent trauma, a 9 day hospital stay, blood transfusion, incontinence, feeding difficulties, anaemia, bad tear, etc etc. The trauma gave me such bad PND that I ended up in a mother and baby psychiatric unit for 3 months. We didn?t think we?d ever have another child it was such a traumatic experience.
Having got off all my drugs and anti depressants after about 2 years of struggle, we came to the decision of trying for another baby. We didn?t want DD to be an only child, and we were starting to enjoy being parents with all the rewards and fulfilment it brings. So, 9 months ago I got pregnant! We thought we might go for an elective c-section, to try and avoid the trauma from last time. But when this was flatly refused by the consultant, I started looking into alternative options and became more and more interested in natural birth.

Took a course in hypnobirthing and practised relaxation and breathing techniques every night with DH. I became convinced that I could do it, my body was designed to do it, I was calm and relaxed about the birth.
On Wednesday last week I had a bloody show in the morning, then felt pretty sick. I thought the grotty feeling was just because I?d not slept well the night before. But I also started getting slight crampy, period-type feelings low down. I used my breathing techniques and felt ok. By 2:30 I thought I?d better start timing them, and they were 15 mins apart. I phoned DH, but told him to stay at work because nothing much was happening. But he insisted on coming home, which was nice as he then took over looking after DD and I could just relax to my hypnobirthing music.

By 8:30 the surges were between 1 and 3 mins apart. We phoned the hospital but were told the labour ward was full and we couldn?t come in!! I tried really hard not to panic, as they told us we had to go to the other hospital, the one where DD had been born and where I?d been a psychiatric patient last time (never wanted to go back there). But I did manage to stay calm. They assigned us a room with a pool, and the whole atmosphere was very calm, with dim lights and I set up my music player which played soft gentled music. I stayed upright as much as possible, moving around and trying different positions ? lying over birth ball, leaning against the wall etc. I used my breathing techniques to get through each powerful surge. The midwives were very hands-off and spoke very quietly to each other ? I was hardly aware they were there. They were very respectful of our birth plan.

They said they could examine me, but it was my choice and I didn?t have to, but as I wanted to know how things were going I agreed. I thought the midwife would say I was about 2-3 cm but she said ?if you want to use the pool you need to get in now as you are over 9cm and this baby is coming!? I couldn?t believe it! So I got into the pool. The warm water was lovely, but the contractions were getting stronger and stronger and I was struggling to maintain my calm breathing. I started to get more noisy at that point! Felt a huge amount of pressure, and then a massive ?pop? which was my waters breaking. Things really stepped up a notch then, and the contraction strength went through the roof. I asked for gas and air because I felt I was losing control and the pain was unbearable. The gas and air really helped and took the intensity out of the contractions. I could still feel them but I felt quite far away and removed from the situation. A few minutes later I felt a massive amount of pressure and baby?s head emerging. Then his body slid out, and I was told to carefully move backwards. I then reached down and lifted my little boy out of the water! Within 30 seconds he started crying. And I held him there for quite a while just staring at him and stroking his skin, which felt so so soft.
They waited for the cord to stop pulsing, and then clamped and cut it.

Then we waited for the placenta but it wouldn?t come out. After 30 minutes I got out of the water and they tried to encourage the placenta to come. It still wouldn?t come so I agreed to the injection. After 40 minutes it still hadn?t come out, and they were threatening having to go into theatre for surgical removal. At this I was terrified and the pain was awful, so I asked for gas and air, and then pushed with all my might. Thank goodness, it came out! The midwife said a huge blood clot had formed in front of it, which was preventing it from coming out. I was relieved there was a reason, because the midwives seemed to think at first I just wasn?t making enough effort to push it out! But it came out, and then we enjoyed an hour or so just me, DH and baby to relax and get to know each other. Baby had his first feed and we were so relieved when he latched on and sucked happily.

We were allowed home the next day. I felt a bit shaky and wobbly, but very happy. Robin has fed great ever since (a bit too well, I am shattered!). So grateful for our relaxed, calm experience.

Lottieloulou · 19/09/2011 12:59

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madmouse · 19/09/2011 13:22

Getdown you made me cry in the middle of a big open plan office

BeckyBendyLegs · 20/09/2011 08:17

Oh GetDown what a lovely post. I totally agree with what Lottieloulou says too. I am thinking of you xx

Madmouse :)

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orangeflutie · 20/09/2011 09:18

GetDown I'm so happy for you:)

Stay positive xx

GetDownYouWillFall · 20/09/2011 12:36

Thanks all for the lovely messages of support xxxx

We have got a bit of a rhythm going here at night whereby DH picks up Robin, brings him to me - I feed whilst DH goes back to sleep, then DH changes his nappy whilst I go back to sleep, then I feed him from the other side, I put him down and we all go back to sleep. It's hard work, feeding every 2-3hrs night and day, but we are reaping the benefits - he was weighed yesterday and had only lost 3oz which is great apparently.

Got my CPN coming later, then seeing psychiatrist on friday.

Arcadia · 20/09/2011 13:55

So happy to hear that things are going well for you getdown, what a lovely birth story and such a great start for you and your little boy together. Congratulations!

BeckyBendyLegs · 20/09/2011 17:00

GetDown oooh that does bring back memories. My DH used to do the same sort of thing, he'd also go get me a big glass of ribena as I'd be so thirsty feeding.

Arcadia long time no see so to speak. How are things with you and your DD?

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madmouse · 20/09/2011 17:15

Getdown a 3oz loss on an average weight baby like yours is a sure sign that bf is working Grin

GetDownYouWillFall · 20/09/2011 19:25

Hurrah! I feel so proud of myself that I am breastfeeding!! Smile

BeckyBendyLegs · 21/09/2011 09:39

GetDown you should be very proud of yourself. You're doing a really great job. I had huge problems breastfeeding with all three so have so much respect for those that manage it successfully x

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Arcadia · 22/09/2011 09:10

Hi, I have been following this thread despite not writing much now and have been really pleased to see you're doing so well getdown. What an amazing birth story!

Becky we're fine thanks. I started a new job last month and that was stressful initially (messed up my sleep for a while) and I felt really down in August, but feeling much better again now. Am still using the antihistamines to sleep and am almost resigned to that now. They are not doing me any harm. Still, I would like to be off them but I'm wondering now how important that is really. The GP's are really not concerned. Am thinking about trying to get private CBT (through new work health insurance) to come off them and try and eradicate the last vestiges of sleep anxiety, but not sure what to do. Has the CBT helped you a lot becky?

DD is wonderful at the moment, a real joy, completely obsessed with 'dig-digs' (diggers) and trucks - have found myself getting into them too! Her speech is really progressing which is great for me (I love talking!) and she is so cute. Can't believe she's nearly 2.

Seems fairly certain we won't have any more which in one way I'm sad about and it is hard because all my friends are starting to have their second ones. But in another way I'm relieved. It's hard to explain.

Glad everyone is doing pretty well at the moment.

kizzie · 25/09/2011 14:30

Hi getdown - Ive just read your birth story. How wonderful Smile - it sounds amazing. Glad everything going smoothly with feeding etc. x

GetDownYouWillFall · 25/09/2011 15:47

Hi all. I am starting to struggle a bit. Just soooo tired. The lack of sleep is really catching up with me. He is feeding every 2-3hrs night and day. The positive is that I do seem to drop off quite quickly, but am just entering deeper sleep when he wakes up again, and it is gruelling to have to keep turning on the light and feeding.

Had appt with psychiatrist on friday, and damn it, I just couldn't keep the tears back Hmm Can just imagine what she was scribbling down in her notes Sad

I know this is just a phase and I have to push on through it. Just hope I can hang in there before I crack or before they shove pills at me. Sad

Sorry for the "me me me" post. Hope everyone else is ok xxx

madmouse · 25/09/2011 16:22

Getdown if you could not hold the tears back it's probably good that she saw them - your care team needs to know what's going on to help you contain any difficulties that you might develop. So you need to be honest with them, not put on a coping mask

GetDownYouWillFall · 25/09/2011 17:45

I know madmouse but these are not depressed tears. Inside I am happy and loving it. It's just the damn lack of sleep that makes the tears come. I don't think they distinguish between "lack of sleep tears" and "depression tears" which is what worries me.

madmouse · 25/09/2011 17:59

That's a good point to make and I'm so pleased that you are feeling happy inside Smile - but surely you and your dh knowing the difference should be enough I hope.

Arcadia · 26/09/2011 08:30

getdown remember that all mum's of newborns feel exhausted at this point and it doesn't mean there is anything wrong. I read somewhere that once you are short of sleep then you start to go into deep sleep much quicker and so you are not necessarily missing out on too much deep sleep (even though it feels horrible being woken up, I know). Most babies get into more of a pattern at around 6 weeks so it will get easier. You're doing really well!

kizzie · 26/09/2011 12:07

getdown the important thing is that you are totally across what you are feeling - and know yourself the difference between hormonal/knackered/new mum tears - and something more serious.

Hope the sleep starts to get easier over next few days x