Last they don’t understand. Simple. People who have never been overweight just simply do not get it. My mil is a prime example- she cannot see that if I start I won’t stop, and that it makes me unhappy. Let’s not even discuss my Dh who, and I quote, ‘doesn’t believe in calories’ - as in, genuinely, doesn’t believe that controlling calories will affect your weight.
And, I find, people who are on ‘try-ets’ not ‘diets’ (as in, I’ll try to lose weight until something comes along I want to eat and then I’ll find a reason to eat it- and we’ve all been there) really don’t like it when we decline cake because we don’t want it and we don’t need it- it makes them feel bad. It spoils their own experience of the cake.
Once in a restaurant I asked for my meal with veg not chips, and mil said ‘oooh you’re so smug aren’t you, making us feel bad’ so I asked the waitress to bring the chips in a bowl for the table to share and kept insisting mil had some. Because I’m a bitch - and funnily enough she hasn’t done it since!
Just say to yourself- 100% is the essence of commitment. We didn’t go into this planning to commit 80%. We promised ourselves 100% because that’s how much we want the results. And sod everyone else!