Aromatic I don’t eat them, but my advice on this is always to go back to the menu plan in the book, and use that as your guide- so for example, if he uses a tbsp of couscous once a week, that’s your limit. Same with porridge- he might use it one day a week, so that’s ok, but it’s not a ‘free food’ as such so you shouldn’t replicate that daily. The plan will have been Very carefully balanced with nutritional experts so I’d always turn to that as your structure when planning your own menu. He does describe use of grains etc as ‘a taste, not the whole meal’ or similar.
Place and oblomov I’m nearing my 2 year anniversary too, we must have joined at the same time more or less. For me it was just after Easter, I had literally gorged myself on chocolate and reached my ‘rock bottom’ I guess. I was 13.3. So in 2 years I have lost only 1.5stone in that time (actually yo-yo-ed around a bit)- this is my last proper attempt I reckon. I already know that 800 calories works, but if I cannot actually stick at it then it’s not working is it? I promised myself over Christmas that I would give it one last proper go. Not a strict 8 weeks, but instead a 6 month, 5:2 ish plan but cutting the rubbish, allowing some leeway in other things (wine!), and above all, getting off the sugar (and the resulting binge eating which makes me so unhappy). And exercise, which i can honestly say is the best thing I’ve ever done for myself and my ‘head’. I prefer this plan and this group to the boot camp style things which is why I still hang out round here, when I suppose what I do is not strictly BSD.
I also think about food a lot. I cook every day, and plan all our meals and I love food and cooking which means I’m always thinking about it. I suppose it’s only a problem if you’re thinking negatively- can’t have this, oooh I ate Xx and now I feel rubbish, etc. Stripping the choice out of my weekday menu has helped me tremendously; I only need to think about 1 meal a day now, because my blend does breakfast/lunch for me and it’s the same every day. Would that help you Oblomov? For evening meals, I put all the meat in the freezer and take it out daily, so there’s no option to change the menu. Again, removes the choice.
It’s so hard to get your head back in the game, and I know this all too well because I’ve been there so many times. 