Is it just me or gym female room always so hostile

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We just moved to a small middle class town from London .
I am now quite shocked how hostile is the new local gym female changing room.
it is like a pack and a tight knitted old pack who will give a lesson to all newcomers .

And this is a commercial chain one which I can’t name here .

I wonder whether this is a London vs small town thing . Or just typical female changing room thing ? But in London I didn’t have any of such drama .

Most members are like born there die there type .

However employees quite big turn over .
Some employees told me they don’t like there but just stay there because their own family can enjoy the facilities .

Well it is colourful arsed

Never noticed anything like that at all, no.

Is that you Sharon? Been on the wine again?

So today I went in with my DC again.
Unluckily I bump into one of these women again .
This one wearing a huge mafia type of thick golden chain on her neck. So I recognise her straight away .

Actually I tried to avoid her ( last time she was in zone C so I moved my locker to zone B ) but today she is in zone B also .

Anyway .... the square bench is about 1.5m x 1.5m with 4 soft cushion in each corner .

As soon as she saw us walking close ... she started to throw ( THROW ) all her clothes bags towards these cushion to occupy them before we have a chance .

So I managed to grab one corner cushion ( furthest from my locker . She took the 3 corners closest to her locker which is next to my locker ) .

Then with all winter layers and jackets . 1 cushion is not enough obviously for my child and me .
but I tried my best to juggle by making plenty trips to my locker passing by her in the middle Of the way . And leaving my DC Alone there in this process .

And to be considerable and nice I even let my DC facing me all the time / back towards her to give her some privacy )

And then it s like a game for her . She emptied 1 corner before I have change to put anything on it . She throw another thing onto it .

Then another corner —- empty / occupy again .

In 1 around . She literally threw her clothes on top of my DC s pants .

For hygiene reason I quiekt retreat . ( if I were alone I probably won’t care and maybe put all my socks on top of hers too just to mark my territory like a female dog — bitch ) but I am not .

So we are like 3:1 .....
As games going on ....
luckily once becoming 2:2 .

Then finally she left ...... huhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Pleasant thing is : when we back after a swim .
A super nice lady there before us quickly centralise all her things from 4 corners into 1 corner . We smiled and chatted about weather .

The staffs are always pleasant at least .

So I guess I just have to focus on nice people and nice things and be selectively blind and deaf about darker things and ......to all the miserable weirdos .

OP, you attention to tiny details is quite remarkable. It's like reading Kafka.

In my gym everyone is respectful. There are no stupid games. Maybe I’m at the wrong gym.

It's not the gym, the members, the town or the neighbour.

It's you.

As soon as she saw us walking close

So basically, the other gym member was already in an area of the changing room getting changed and you deliberately went over to where she was getting changed and deliberately walked past her multiple times and stood with your son in her personal space while she was getting changed?

And you’re complaining about her ?

Bloody hell, this is one of the weirdest threads I've come across on here. You're stark raving mad OP (and so, so judgemental and paranoid). Get a life.

What I can say .
I have eyes for detail and I love Kafka

Apparently mate told me in Men s changing room it is worse.
he said someone will deliberately walk around naked to show off the size and muscle .

I love london but I have the common sense to not bang on about how inferior the rest of the world is

It's you not them. HTW.

WTF?

Have you been at the magic mushrooms OP? You sound like someone on a trip!

This is the most bizarre thread. You quite ok op?

I think it's YOU that's the problem, not them!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3711871-Husband-and-female-French-tutor-Is-this-suspicious-or-OK

This is about French tutor in gym not home I guess

so just to top up .
I have became really resilient now with all these games .

Today a woman with his son ( who arrived last )
Occupied a cushion next to us . Then she starts to push bags toward to my area ( 1/5 area over the boarder )
Her dirty bag literally leans on my DC bum which sitting on cushion .
I then throw his snow pants over the bag ( within my boarder )

She was chatting so loud that u can hear her outside changing room . My DC starts to copycat so I told him in public “ quiet .”Then everyone quiets down ( obviously the woman heard and given me a dirty look )

Then her son starts to chatting to us — very nice Polite cute boy . So we chatting back with smile .

The woman saw in reflection of the mirror & jumped back hit on her son s arm to stop him talking to us .

Then yelling her son all the way out : you silly ! You silly ! Put your jacket on !!!

The poor boy .

Then a lovely staff told me things alike this are much worse in male room . Much worse . And he said they know what they are doing exactly .

She also jumped about snow pants on her bag .
Excuse me !!!!!!!
quickly removed her bag .