The EU is NOT trying to punish us, it is a rules-based institution (and needs to be, 27/28 countries can't work together based on trust alone!), and if we don't want to play by the rules any more, that's fine, but we don't get to play. Simples.
No deal is bad for the EU, but worse for us.
It's all an utter shitshow, but mostly due to us Brits not understanding how the EU really works, and what the benefits are.
No deal means massive disruption to all our imports and exports, it will mean higher prices, it will mean issues with supply of food and medicines, and it will mean problems in Ireland. Not sure why people would want that.
Brexit doesn't make sense, never has. Getting better trade by cutting off contact with your biggest trading partner? Being more outward-looking by closing borders? Controlling borders but keeping frictionless trade?
I for one do not want a No Deal, and I find it hard to believe that all 17.4 million Leave voters understood that was what they were voting for.