To not be able to speak to my near neighbours who voted leave?

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

My children's future has been put at stake. Our economy risks ruin. Our relatively -well-off neighbours in a place with nearly full employment and very low recent immigration (local care companies and NHS are desperate for staff) have voted leave. They are only around fifty.

I'm gobsmacked.

The irony is that the small business they are in is affected by the growth of China as an economic powerhouse. So why on earth do they feel that leaving the EU gives them more power? It gives them less.

I am so angry and feel so let down by my country. These people, and people like them ahem destroyed my hopes for a continued peace in Europe.

How on earth am I expected to talk to them on an equal footing, knowing what they have done through their own greed?

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

How do you know how those children feel WorraLiberty?

I was gutted to have to take on the task of 'welcoming safe Brit' telling these kids they were safe. They're not my kids, I did not create their anxiety. I was asked by their parents to reassure them.

I did. I think I left them far better off. But I'm now very upset at having to do this to people who've lived locally for years.

[puddingbunny]

YABU. The vast majority of the population will have to share a street with racists at some point in their lives. Just be grateful it's not the whole bloody road.

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

I'm baffled as to how you know so much about your neighbour. I just about know my neighbours names. Let alone how they voted, and even if I were best pals with them. I wouldn't dream of asking. How people choose to vote is their business.

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

I did not cry as I tried to reassure them.

You, along with teachers, were still in tears this morning however...

I'm sure that made them feel better...

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

Perhaps you'll feel better after a good nights sleep

[MariaSklodowska]

" Because they worry they may have to leave their home and their school and move to a country they've either never lived in or left before they were at school. "

who put that worry into their heads then?
Was it their parents?

Frankly I would be happy if my stupid ex husband and his wife (who spend a lot of time talking about how 'stupid' the English are and working out clever little ways to avoid the CSA) had to go back to Poland but that
isn't going to happen is it?

Pure scaremongering.

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

These kids didn't see me crying at any point.

I am glad I don't live on a road of racists. I've lived there and I moved.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost The neighbours mentioned told me they were voting out because of immigration. I didn't ask, they told me!

[HennaFlare]

I thought they were interesting, thoughtful, open minded people and now I see them as small minded

I'm sure they would feel the same about you if they read this. There is significantly more to a person than how they feel about international law. You have no idea about their motives. Neither is it any of your business. The ballot is private. Social media has a lot to answer for in terms of people forgetting appropriate privacy levels.

[SamWheat]

Oh FFS. Yes. Yes, YABU. They're entitled to their opinions just as much as you are to yours.
For what it's worth, I voted in and am just as apprehensive of the future as the rest of you.
I find this whole scare mongering, hating each other etc just absolutely ridiculous though.
How are we ever going to move on and build a future if we continue to snipe and whinge at each other? Pick up, get a grip and start healing and stay friends.
Twee, but true.

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

MariaSklodowska
I don't know how they formed their fears. I had to deal with it because their parents felt it would be better to hear they could stay from a British person. I don't know precisely what news outlets they've seen.

It was a pretty bloody horrible job.

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

Yet they are still probably picking up on your anxiety.

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

SamWheat
I don't hate them, I've not said that. I just don't want to speak to them beyond 'hello'.
I should be able to choose who I spend time with, surely?
Had they not revealed their vote was based on immigration I would have felt differently.

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

I just don't want to speak to them beyond 'hello'.

And you have every right to do that.

But why start a thread on it? Talk to them, don't talk to them...either way we can't tell you what to do.

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky, yeah, of course, I'm responsible for the mental health of my entire village.

I was asked as their parents thought they would believe me, as a Brit, when I said they wouldn't have to leave their homes.

My previous conversation with the older child in the family had been me saying I was in, how I thought it was essential for the economy, and how I thought we were stronger together. One paragraph.

I doubt he could have gained any anxiety from me.

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

Why start a thread on it?
It's mumsnet, we write threads.

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

I never said you were responsible for the mental health of your entire village.

I said the children are probably picking up on your (and all the other adults around them) anxiety.

Children do that.

[ToadsJustFellFromTheSky]

Why start a thread on it? It's mumsnet, we write threads.



So what kind of answers were you expecting to get? Or did you just want everyone to agree with you?

It's not up to us to tell you who you can and can't talk to...

[SamWheat]

Completely agree with Toads there. If the adults are seemingly anxious or giving off a negative vibe, the children WILL pick up on it. It's what they do best.
Which, going by your post, does seem to be the case. Need to lighten up a bit and be NEUTRAL, not doom mongering.

[Crispbutty]

I have absolutely no idea how everyone on my road voted.. Op did you go knocking on doors asking???

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

I'm sad that the whole anti-immigrant vibe from Brexiters, the Brexit press and clearly the other kids in the play ground does so much to unsettle my friends.

I think the anxiety comes far more from walking past weeks of Daily Fail front pages than from me or their parents.

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

Crispbutty We had a queen's birthday party a few weeks ago and one person had remain stickers. So everyone started talking about it.

I don't think it's so unusual to talk to your neighbours.

[MariaSklodowska]

what 'Daily Fail' front pages would those have been then?

[Sunsetplumset]

Lol op that was so dramatic I must say.
However end of the day it's a difference of opinion you don't know what the future holds. People don't like change maybe this will be a good one or maybe a bad one either way we do not know.

[AgentZigzag]

Here's how it'll really be OP, you may as well pedal the facts.

Don't say I never give you nuffink

[AgentZigzag]

(I especially like the Dpartmnt for dcation will the text speaking generation even notice?)