To not be able to speak to my near neighbours who voted leave?

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

My children's future has been put at stake. Our economy risks ruin. Our relatively -well-off neighbours in a place with nearly full employment and very low recent immigration (local care companies and NHS are desperate for staff) have voted leave. They are only around fifty.

I'm gobsmacked.

The irony is that the small business they are in is affected by the growth of China as an economic powerhouse. So why on earth do they feel that leaving the EU gives them more power? It gives them less.

I am so angry and feel so let down by my country. These people, and people like them ahem destroyed my hopes for a continued peace in Europe.

How on earth am I expected to talk to them on an equal footing, knowing what they have done through their own greed?

[TriniRedVelvet]

Melodrama much??

[MariaSklodowska]

'small minded xenophobes' - just because someone took the decision to vote leave, really doesn't make them a 'xenophobe'. Immigration was not the only issue.
Anyway you didnt answer my question.

[MariaSklodowska]

oh ok you did.
This lazy insistence that everyone who doesnt agree with you is a 'racist' or a 'xenophobe' is really getting tedious.

[Graceymac]

People are entitled to vote which ever way they want, as were you. I am really shocked at the way some of the Remain voters are behaving towards those who voted Leave. There was always a chance this would happen, as with any vote it may go one way or the other. Deal with it. This does not change who they are.

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

MariaSklodowska
You asked if I voted New Labour in 1997. I answered. I did not.
But I fail to see what that has got to do with today?

[EttaJ]

Oh put a bloody sock in it OP. A smelly one preferably,talk about dramatic. I doubt they'll be bothered about your opinion of them. You're clearly not about their opinion of you! A proper drama queen.

[WorraLiberty]

I thought they were interesting, thoughtful, open minded people and now I see them as small minded xenophobes

That really is your problem though, don't you think?

I voted to remain, but I understand that within this democracy, people will do what they feel is best.

Just as you and I (and everyone else who voted), did what they felt was best.

This is for you to get over and tbh if a neighbour of mine felt like this about me, simply because I'd cast a different vote to them, I really wouldn't want to spend any time with them anyway.

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

'Immigration was not the only issue'
Of course not - there were lies on the NHS and 'sovereignty' as well.

At school sports day this morning many parents and staff were in tears. Bog standard primary. We all fear for our children's future. Really fear, not fake 'I hate muslims' nonsense.

[AgentZigzag]

Are you going to ask everyone you meet how they voted before deciding on how you're going to talk to them OP?

How will you know whether they're telling the truth or not?

What if they put your children's future at risk by not bothering to vote?

What if they spoiled their ballot paper?

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

I know they voted on immigration because they told me.

I don't want to spend any time with them so maybe it's mutual.

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

I was so shocked at the time I couldn't speak. Our health service has loads of vacancies. Nobody's been priced out of a job by an immigrant.

[AgentZigzag]

'At school sports day this morning many parents and staff were in tears.'

Bloody hell

I'm ashamed for them I really am.

In tears??

Is this in front of the children? Like there's been an actual catastrophe where people have lost their lives and that?

[Twirlywoooo]

Jeez. Enough already and I say that as a remain voter. This is a democracy, not speaking to your neighbours because they exercised their democratic right to vote, and it didnt tally with your vote is a tad over dramatic. I'm upset remain didn't win but I'm trying to not lose my grip over it. You should too.

[Aeroflotgirl]

Get a grip op, here have a .

[ReallyTired]

"I thought they were interesting, thoughtful, open minded people and now I see them as small minded xenophobes"

There could be a whole host of reasons why someone might bite leave that have nothing to do with xenophobia. They might want a fairer immigration ie. Equal treatment for both eu and non eu migrants.

They might want to protect the uk steel industry.

They might more control over uk law.

I feel you need to get over yourself. 17 million people voted leave.

[PortiaCastis]

Oh FFS another drama llama

[Brexit]

I feel your pain op

I am refusing to engage with anyone who voted remain.

Hth

deletes self

[mrsglowglow]

OP, It's you that sounds small minded. Your 2 neighbours along with about 17,000,000 others have voted for the UK to leave the EU. Sounds like you have been living in a cosy bubble that has now burst.

[MumOnTheRunCatchingUp]

I don't know how these special snowflakes survive the day, I really don't

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

It's the immigration stuff that really bugs me. I have very close friends locally from two EU countries, France and Romania, and I know they feel less welcome here today than they did on Wednesday. Both families work & volunteer, and had felt they were part of the community.

My son's French friend feels scared. It makes me angry.

[StrictlyMumDancing]

I get you. I have this problem too. But with my own DM. My Immigrant DM. She voted out for immigration reasons because of those apparently nasty Eastern Europeans. Forgetting what she went through in the 1980s here. What we went through because we look like her. Not caring that we would go through it again today for this first time in ages.

The only thing that makes me feel remotely conciliatory towards her is that we and my DC all hold dual nationality thanks to her.

[almondpudding]

This is just ridiculous. It's becoming a social contagion, people crying in front of kids etc.

[PPie10]

Get a grip and bloody grow up. This drama and crying over the decision is really enough.

[TooMuchCoffeeMakesMeZoom]

I'm no 'special snowflake', thank you MumOnTheRunCatchingUp.

mrsglowglow well it seems that 85% of my terraced street voted to remain. 5% out, 10% un-known. Neighbours are as shocked as me.

[Brexit]

This is a spoof thread right?