To not be able to speak to my near neighbours who voted leave?

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My children's future has been put at stake. Our economy risks ruin. Our relatively -well-off neighbours in a place with nearly full employment and very low recent immigration (local care companies and NHS are desperate for staff) have voted leave. They are only around fifty.

I'm gobsmacked.

The irony is that the small business they are in is affected by the growth of China as an economic powerhouse. So why on earth do they feel that leaving the EU gives them more power? It gives them less.

I am so angry and feel so let down by my country. These people, and people like them ahem destroyed my hopes for a continued peace in Europe.

How on earth am I expected to talk to them on an equal footing, knowing what they have done through their own greed?

I'm sure they won't be bothered.

Oh get a grip!!! Fgs

Over dramatic much OP?

Do what you want.

All this will calm down eventually, as will your emotions.

It'll be business as usual soon enough as we'll all just have to get over it.

YABVVVVU and I am very firmly in the remain camp. I'm furious at the result but certainly no plans to disown any relatives or cease friendships.

So it was them..... They are the two!! The two votes which made the difference

Name and shame em

Or get over yourself and stop jumping on the bandwagon of 'grief'

Good god .

Do you work? How the hell do you propose working alongside colleagues who voted out

Of course you're being unreasonable hahaha

Just talk to them like you normally would, why on earth would you take it out on them?

this is why it is a bad idea to discuss politics or tell people how u are voting.
If you think that their political choices mean that they are not on an 'equal footing' to you then have a
just out of interest did you vote for New Labour in 1997?

Yes. Stop the devision already!!!

YANBU. There are members of my family I don't really want to speak to right now. But hopefully we will feel better in a few days/weeks when we have got over the initial shock.

get over yourself

Totally over dramatic response .

Like you OP, I voted remain and my neighbours voted leave. I'm sure they did what they did what they thought was the right thing - they probably think I'm the one who's got it wrong. Anyway, I liked them before and I still do.

Do you feel this angry about other things too?

Stop taking it personally OP. They voted believing that it was the best thing for the country, not because they wanted to see you and your family's downfall. You need to accept you won't always agree with people on politics.

The Remain camp, you included, need to get a grip and start looking for the opportunities this new world will present instead of being drama llamas. If you are so silly as to not speak to people over this it will be no great loss to them.

And still the world keeps turning

It's called a democracy. I wasn't keen in the people next door who pit up a labour poster in 1997 but it was their life, their choice and they were going to be my neighbours for a long time - 17'years actually. Nod and smile. Nod and smile xx

I thought they were interesting, thoughtful, open minded people and now I see them as small minded xenophobes.

I'll say hello and smile - I wouldn't ignore them - but I have no desire to spend time with anyone who does the country so much harm.

This is what "they" wanted - friends, families, neighbours pitched against each other

They are still who you initially thought them to be....still the same

It's you that's changed. Bitterness is ugly.

now I see them as small minded xenophobes.

Nothing like a bit of insulting generalisation to make yourself seem more reasonable.

Going against the grain here, I feel the same, awkward chat today with neighbours in their 60s who literally danced a jig after I'd been in tears earlier thinking about my dc's grandparent from a European country feeling ousted. They asked me, and told me, so no cloak n dagger or assumptions just them in their mortgage free house and me with my young dc in totally different places. They pissed me right off.

Oh, and I really understand I don't always agree with people on politics but this is something else, it is our entire future as a country and continent.

Yes I work. Everyone I work with has voted in apart from our two resident racists and our aged retainer (who's a sexist fucker to boot).

I didn't vote New Labour in 1997 but what's that got to do with it? I think Tony Blair is an odious creep, and he spent much of his premiership blaming 'europe' for the things he didn't want to take responsibility for.