((waves at Rosa))
Hi All. Haven't been on here, or MN for ages.
Went back to work just before Easter holidays and then full throttle for the whole of summer term.
There's been nothing really to say on the elderly parents front. It's a bit of a nightmare but nothing seem a resolvable so not much point posting/asking.
Dad has more or less completely lost the will to live. Every day he says he feels terrible, he has put some weight back on over the last month or so having gone from 11st+ to 8st 4lb. He's now just over 9st.
Otherwise we can't get him to engage with anything indoors or go out much at all.
He doesn't need any personal care as such but mum is having to do everything around the house, manage their appts and medications - She has just turned 80 and is very capable practically but extremely highly strung. We have talked about modifications to the house, she arranged to have a downstairs loo/wet room put on, then cancelled it at the last minute. We've talked about respite care and about getting someone in to help eg with gardening but she won't make any decisions or spend any money.
He's having two teeth out tomorrow and waiting for a date for cataract surgery. Mum needs heart tests done which she's arranged and cancelled twice.
I'm very much under the impression that mum thinks I should put my life completely on hold to care for/support them indefinitely, but I have to work full time. Her answer to that is to imply I want too much and could manage if I basically gave up everything other than the absolute basics. If I do anything bigger than a local trip to the shops I get a load of abuse because 'something awful might happen' and I won't be there and 'don't give a sh*t about them'.
Ultimately she will be wanting me to live with them if things get worse or God forbid we lose Dad.
I have had a lot of counselling and am trying to do my best (school holidays at the mo - popping round every other day, phoning 2-3 times a day when I don't) whilst not worrying about the future as can't predict what will happen.
So that's it from me.
Will try and catch up on everyone else's new over the next few days x