Caring for elderly parents? Drop in for support, hand holding and whatever you need

[thesandwich]

Continuing the long running threads for anyone juggling elderlies and everything else. Loads of wisdom, support and the odd laugh...
How are you all doing?
How is everyone coping with the extra teens with exam challenges?

So sorry pickle x

((supportive hand squeeze)) for you, Pickle.

Thank you. They are still there, hoping to be repatriated today or tomorrow. His 'last holiday' has cost him the last of his independence, as he is going to need constant care now.

When your older family members are thinking of holidays, if they find insurance is getting harder to get, warn them of what it can be like! My parents thought a cruise was relatively safe, in reality they are inaccessible in a very expensive place!

Thanks for the update- that sounds so hard. Hope they get back ok.
Hope everyone else is doing ok- mrs m? How are things?

Pickles 🌹
I'm on holiday!
Mum has been pretty PA so I'm not texting or phoning
I'm going back.to.work 2 days at end of August
Im considering telling mum im going back 5 days

That's a very good idea mrs m!

Have a lovely holiday Mrs! And all is fair in this business. Say what you need to.

Dad is coming home Friday. It's been tough. I'll go down and stay for a week when they get back, help with his care and get him to medical appointments and assessments.

Pickle...take care x

I'm very tired of mum. In every way. And I feel bad for that.

Pickle hope everything goes well for your df.
Mrs m- enjoy your holiday you so deserve it. And here is a great place to say the unsayable. Your DM does not treat you well- you have done so much.enjoy your holiday!

Today has been busy
Kids having a good time

And more importantly are you ??

Really sorry to hear about this Pickle Hope you are able to get things sorted.

Hope you're having a nice holiday MrsM, you really deserve it.

My week has been full of stuff. Dad phones 'tv isn't working'. I suggest getting his handyman to pop round and have a look. Tv still not working. Fine, I order one from AO. 7 calls from dad fussing about it. Talk to AO man when he's delivering. Talk to dad. Talk to AO man. Talk to dad. Fine. Then mums lamp has broken and they need a new one....
Wish my brother would take on even a bit of the admin - buying pants, trousers, shoes, but no hope. He and SIL are still talking about moving to be near her parents - which would put them close to my parents too. I'm soooo looking forward to telling social workers etc to phone him to be there!

Sounds tough cmot

Had a lovely afternoon in st David's.
Ice cream, sunny weather 😁

Back home tomorrow but away again for w days next week

Lovely St David's!

It's the constant round CMOT, isn't it? Never a phone call goes by without something having gone wrong, being needed, etc.

It seems to be going to plan for my family- next week will be tough though, lots of adjusting for Mum to do, as she will hopefully finally accept that this is it.

My mum saves things up for me to sort out, even if my brother has been to see her, on the basis that 'he works'. (I bloody work as well).

Monkey...tell me about it!!
My brother is indeed the chosen one. Well...he can deal with it when the shit hits the fan. Because I will not become a carer. Nope. I do enough now. When I ever tentatively suggest my siblings might visit or do anything I get "they are too busy they work"
Um. Yeah. So do I. I have a Dh that works away. I have 2 kids. I have chronic health issues of my own.
She did actually text last night...we are going home today but she won't see me.
I'm so pissed off (sorry for potty mouth) that I think I just need to stay away for a while.

Practice some phrases Mrs!

I've a lot on at the moment, try brother.
I'm not feeling well, try brother.
That sounds awful. I wish I could help. What about brother?

Uh. I feel for you, MrsM. I've just had a conversation with my mother on almost those lines. Complaining that I haven't rung her (well, nor had she rung me, which makes me think she'd rather be able to complain about my not ringing than make the call herself), dismissing a mention of my health problems by saying she's more ill (how does she know?) and so on. Meanwhile, my sibling, who does none of the running around, is worshipped because they did ring. So on we plod.

, and for all

Ah yes
He phones every day
I'll get him a bloody medal 🤔🎖

My sibling rarely phones (and does none of the ferrying about or sorting out bills etc) but the fact that they did this once confirms mother's view that they are utterly marvellous and I am horribly neglectful.

I shouldn't be fretting about it, but I am. I'm also quite cross.

I might still on anti biotics so am therefore officially still ill...
Not going anywhere near her til I have to!

I'm now safely esconsed at home...
Sooooo much washing 😮
Have a good weekend all x

Mrs m look after yourself- and I hear you re the golden offspring- seen by DM twice in....... 12 years???? Yet phones...... maybe every 3 months???

Mum is simply not interested in anything that doesn't involve my brother and his daughter
Life has gotten much more simple since I realised this

for all of us with golden siblings