I despair, I wish I could just not care, but dear god give me strength

[Kbear]

I can't even begin to explain but I am going to blow a gasket. I care for my elderly in laws. It's a minefield, and a nightmare, and stressful and how does life come to this.

I just got off the phone to MIL, she is rambling, she doesn't listen, I try to help, she talks over me, she's had a lovely afternoon while I was panicking at work because I phoned and she was calling out for FIL and saying oh god oh god, what shall I do? then the phone went dead. So I rang BIL, my DH was at work, I was at work, all miles away. SIL drove over there and there they were all happy as larry drinking tea and the phone's on the side off the hook. Tonight she doesn't even remember SIL going over there.

She forgot to give FIL his meds for four months. I just found out last week. Arranged all their meds again, she can't remember to give them. They're in a box marked for the days of the week, she gives Monday morning and Thursday morning instead of Monday morning and Monday evening.

Today they thought they'd go to the pub for lunch - FIL doesn't know his own name or where he lives, he can hardly walk but off they trundle down the garden to waiting cab, he falls over, almost takes her with him.

How in hell can I look after them? I have two jobs, two kids, one DH!

There's so much more, I am too exhausted to explain, DH is on nights so I;m not calling him to talk and stress him out even more.

I want to cry. No response necessary. Just getting it out there.

sounds too familiar

my mums been assessed fit to go home, then ends up in hospital a week later...wonders why.....

just sounds too familiar

good luck op

MIL came home today.... she is fragile, walking unsteadily and talking ok one minute then nonsense the next.

awful they let her home, but no surprise, some of these people assessing others need to have their heads examined

would they send their mums home in that state> no way

good luck kbear, all I can say

Thinking of you kbear.
I do understand the pressures to keep people in the community, but its getting ridiculous these days. If you look at the family, you can see its impossible to have two immobile, cognitively impaired eldrely people together

It's a nightmare with her home already. He was ok at home but she is making it a nightmare for all of us. Taking the wrong meds already, being nasty to him and me when we try to help. Writing long shopping lists of food she won't be able to cook aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah

Oh KBear ,it's hard isn't it ?

Have you tried one of these
www.boots.com/wcsstore/cmsassets/Boots/Library/Assets/PDF/CaringMadeEasier/MedisureLeaflet/MedisureLeaflet.pdf?cm_mmc_o=-uubkbzfwlCjCKww5kbELCjCvi%20i9%20niioCjCC&cm_mmc_o=-uubkbzfwlCjCKww5kbELCjCvi%20i9%20niioCjCC&cm_mmc_o=-uubkbzfwlCjCKww5kbELCjCvi%20i9%20niioCjCC

like an A5 blister pack with all the medication divided up into doses ?

Lots of chemists ( Lloyds ,Day Lewis etc do them ) .
Not foolproof -
I have to cut my mums one up into seven strips ,one for each day and just leave that day's strip out ,but might help ?

kbear, haven't see you posting for a while, how's it all going?