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Homosexuality in the Classroom.

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Darcey1 · 25/11/2009 13:40

My daughter is nine. Yesterday she came home from school and said that her teacher had told the class that she was a lesbian. The teacher is about to have one of these civil partnerships and according to my daughter told the class that girls could marry girls and boys could marry boys if they wanted to.It was according to her entirely natural. This seems like corruption to me. I don't want my daughter exposed to this kind of lifestyle.

I am very upset about this and don't know what to do. Am I over reacting? Should the school have warned us that the teacher was going to do this? Do you think I should make a complaint to the school?

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TheBrandyButterflyEffect · 08/12/2009 11:53

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daftpunk · 08/12/2009 12:20

i don't think i've ever denied i can be prejudiced....most people are (abit)...

i'm not anti-gay....but i am anti-civil partnership....it's not necessary, and i will never accept that homosexuals getting married is "wonderful"....no it isn't, it makes a mockery of marriage in the eyes of god......would gay marriages be allowed in Iran..?

and i'm not missing out on anything...if i wanted sex with a woman i'd have sex with her and then walk...she'd be no more use to me....

VinegarTinselTits · 08/12/2009 12:32

'would gay marriages be allowed in Iran' you mean the same country that still stones people to death? where women are not allowed to show bare skin? were women are excecuted for adultery?

do you also think these rules are also fair DP?

Maybe you should move there as i think you might fit in well

camaleon · 08/12/2009 12:51

In Iran, homosexuality is a crime that can finish in death penalty.
However, in Iran, the STate pays for sex change operations!

Rafi · 08/12/2009 12:58

Yes, most people are prejudiced about something or other. I'm prejudiced about smokers. And what does Iran have to do with anything????

Our civil partnership mattered because it gave us the same legal rights & responsiblities, more or less, as a straight married couple. It gives us rights as each other's next of kin. It means I'm recognised as having parental status for DD. It links our finances. And it also means that if we broke up we'd both have responsibilities for DD.

DP, I know lesbian & gay couples who've been together for 30 years & more... it's really not just about sex. If it was then they'd never survive that long. It's about love. And how many couples with new babies have the energy for sex anyway?

seeker · 08/12/2009 13:04

Anybody new coming to this thread - don't, if you value your sanity, try to engage with daftpunk. I have decided that she is a wind-up merchant - the only other explanation is that she is the just colossally bigoted, unashamedly ignorant and hugely unkind, and I don't want to think that of anyone.

Rafi · 08/12/2009 13:08

I don't think she's unkind, seeker... I think she's blinkered, ignorant yes, & just can't recognise that she has no idea what being a lesbian actually involves beyond having sex.

scaryteacher · 08/12/2009 13:28

I think for some RCs, and I think that is what DP is, change is difficult. Abortion is forbidden, as is divorce, and women priests are not even on the agenda.

If DP, you get love, support, friendship, fun stability and sex from your marriage as I do from mine, why do you wish to deny that to others? A Civil partnership is not a marriage, it is deliberately called something else, but it seems to me that if someone finds what I get from my relationship with a person of the same gender, then why not? It is not hurting anyone else. If you think about what keeps you with someone, it is presumably their mind and their sense of humour rather than anything else - that is what keeps me with dh after 24 years. Does it matter what gender specific physical package it comes wrapped up in?

I think colossally bigoted is a tad unfair Seeker; I think she is bound by the mores of her religious denomination and I don't think she is unkind, it's just that she cannot put herself in someone else's place; and I don't think from what she has posted here previously that she can be blamed for a lack of education or imagination.

scaryteacher · 08/12/2009 13:29

Sorry, the last para cross posted with Rafi.

TheBrandyButterflyEffect · 08/12/2009 13:31

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Rafi · 08/12/2009 13:36

For some RCs, yes. My family is mostly RC on both sides (some are Muslim, some aren't anything) & some of them, especially older ones, did struggle with it at first.

I think a large part of the reassurance for my grandmother was discovering how well she got on with my DW & that my new DD was very cute. And that under DW's influence I was suddenly becoming domesticated & baking rather good cakes.

Rafi · 08/12/2009 13:45

BrandyButterflyEffect - YES, & you sound as lovely as Seeker does.

My RC grandmother married her second (quite strict RC) husband about ten years ago after the death of both their partners. The four of them had been friends for decades.

They're having a romp. Thoroughly enjoying themselves with constant holidays, much to the delight of the entire family, & she confided to me soon after the marriage "He's very good in bed as well!"

Procreation is not even close to being on the menu. But the idea that God or Jesus would disapprove seems to me utterly barmy.

TheBrandyButterflyEffect · 08/12/2009 14:02

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Rafi · 08/12/2009 14:07

Late 80s. He's in his early 90s.

I don't know how old Elizabeth was supposed to be when she had John the Baptist but that's roughly the scale of the miracle we'd be talking about here!

TheBrandyButterflyEffect · 08/12/2009 14:10

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Rafi · 08/12/2009 14:19

Yes. She's pretty amazing, the two of us have been on some great holidays together.

And any god that begrudged her & her husband the fun they're having now would be one I wasn't remotely interested in.

TheBrandyButterflyEffect · 08/12/2009 14:33

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Rafi · 08/12/2009 14:40

And loveless.

I don't believe in casual sex. I think that the difference between good & bad sex has nothing to do with gender or fertility, it has to do with whether you love the person you're having sex with.

And I hope I am too!

daftpunk · 08/12/2009 16:35

i'm not winding anyone up seeker....iv'e been saying things like this for 2 years....trolling would have bored me after a week.

what you, and a few other posters on here fail to appreciate is that i'm a catholic, and homosexuality is not something most catholics are comfortable with.....if i say anything against gay people i'm homophobic....if i say i don't want any more immigrants here, i'm racist...i'm beginning to think i'm one of the most free thinking people on here....some of you are totally brainwashed.

i have one of the largest mosques in the country 10 minutes up the road from me, did anyone ask me if i was ok with that ?.....no..

there isn't a single person in that mosque who would agree with gay marriages, but they are welcome here with open arms....because you love "diversity"....ok for immigrants to be homophobic, but not ok for me.

i have to accept the building of mosques and gay marriages.....no one gives a toss if i'm not happy with it.

i have to put up with it all.

Kaloki · 08/12/2009 16:45

"i have to put up with it all."

Oh poor you, having to "put up" with all these things which do not harm you in any way

noddyholder · 08/12/2009 17:58

Wow DP one minute you say you could love a woman but never have sex with her now you could have sex but walk afterwards as she would be no use to you.You are sounding nicer by the minute.The best thing to do with someone like this is ignore them as DP promotes herself as some sort of 'open to being educated' bigot to open the conversation and then when she has enough people engaged insults them all!Nasty

Snorbs · 08/12/2009 19:27

So anyone who doesn't agree with your bigotry is "brainwashed"? It doesn't possibly occur to you that they've thought carefully about their opinions and have reached open-minded conclusions by themselves? No, it's got to be some vast liberalist conspiracy out to clamp down on "common sense" which, in your world, appears to equate to racism and homophobia.

Riiiiight.

I can see why the BNP appeals to you so much. You've got just the right mix of bigotry, paranoia and persecution complex to fit right in...

undervalued · 08/12/2009 20:56

As a Catholic, may I express the fact that Catholicism and free thinking should not be associated in the same sentence - they are worlds apart. You have to believe what you are told to be a good Catholic Daftpunk. The falling numbers show that Catholicism has little in common with modern life - too much guilt and fire and brimstone and very little empathy and hope ?
I hope you have never used birth control..tut,tut - How free thinking is that?? And how it is demonised by a group of old men - the same group of old men who should never have the chance to marry or have children.(but that's another story..)
Lots of evidence of buggary within the Catholic faith, and child molestation; all brought to light recently. Too many for it to be a 'one off' methinks. All 'glossed over' by the top brass of our faith. How proud I am to be a Catholic...

MrsMattie · 08/12/2009 21:01

No, it's not 'ok for Muslims to be homophobic'@DP.
It's not OK for anyone to be homophobic. It's just another thinly disguised way of venting your fear, hatred and ignorance at innocent people who are just trying to live their lives.

FFS, are you deliberately trying to make yourself look like a nutjobber?

daftpunk · 08/12/2009 22:15

undervalued;

i quite like being unenlightened and a little medieval/gothic.....

and i love free thinking.....

possibly why i come across as borderline mental.

anyway...this thread was started by a journo....we've all been stung....

enjoyed chatting with you all....

untill we meet again

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