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Homosexuality in the Classroom.

766 replies

Darcey1 · 25/11/2009 13:40

My daughter is nine. Yesterday she came home from school and said that her teacher had told the class that she was a lesbian. The teacher is about to have one of these civil partnerships and according to my daughter told the class that girls could marry girls and boys could marry boys if they wanted to.It was according to her entirely natural. This seems like corruption to me. I don't want my daughter exposed to this kind of lifestyle.

I am very upset about this and don't know what to do. Am I over reacting? Should the school have warned us that the teacher was going to do this? Do you think I should make a complaint to the school?

OP posts:
pixiestix · 25/11/2009 14:32
Biscuit
daftpunk · 25/11/2009 14:33

homophobic twat...?

this is a teacher talking to 9 yr olds about homosexuality without parental consent...

..if this is for real..i would deffo complain.

daftpunk · 25/11/2009 14:36

actually...it's not ok with me...

i can't see anything wrong with this thread...but because you can't handle anyone having veiws that differ from yours, you want to ban them...

choosyfloosy · 25/11/2009 14:38

Assuming this is a true thread, if you object to the legality of civil partnerships and the 40-year history of legality of homosexuality in this country Darcey1, contact your MP.

If you would seriously object to your dd's teacher informing the class about her forthcoming marriage to a man, perhaps as part of a religious education/PSHE sesssion, then fair enough - that's about private/public spaces. Even then, our private sexual choices tend to be evident in our public lives in a lot of ways, and it is entirely disciminatory to insist that people who choose to be with someone of the same sex hide their essential selves in a way that those who live more conventional lives do not have to.

I'm pretty ignorant about this issue so I'm sure there will be other better posts.

choosyfloosy · 25/11/2009 14:39

NB I'd agree with daftpunk that there aren't grounds to report this thread.

Blu · 25/11/2009 14:41

dp, why do you think a teacher needs 'parental cnsent' to talk to children about something that is legal and commonplace?

Telling them that she is having a civil partnership, and that women can have a cp with women and men with men is hardly controversial, it is a simple legal and social fact in this country.

Now, had she been demonstrating how to achieve simultaneous mutual orgasm then I would probably agree with you - but so I would if she had been in a hetero relationship, too.

Mentioning to children that certain things exist is miles away from teaching the the ins and outs 9arf) of how to DO IT.

What on earth could possibly be wrong with mentioning something that is legal, norm,al, and to do with loving relationships?

Chickenshavenolips · 25/11/2009 14:43

Well said, Blu

TheCrackFox · 25/11/2009 14:44

I have got far better things to do with my time than having to give to consent to my DS's school to allow them to teach him about perfectly normal, legal things.

FabIsVeryLucky · 25/11/2009 14:46

It isn't corruption.

I picked up my 4 year old the other day and a boy kissed him goodbye. His mum said boys don't kiss boys. I felt sad. I have told my kids that boys can't marry boys and girls can't marry girls but they are 4 fgs. Knowing the dad, it will be coming from him.

Hullygully · 25/11/2009 14:46

It's this sort of permissive filth that got us where we were yesterday. They should be reading their bibles and getting the cotton in, not listening to this devil's spume. I would take my horsewhip in and whup that teacher's unnatural pert little tush.

bibbitybobbityhat · 25/11/2009 14:46

I suspect this poster is a troll. What do MNHQ want us to do when we suspect a troll? Report it.

"but because you can't handle anyone having veiws that differ from yours, you want to ban them..."

If that were the case DP I'd have reported 80% of your posts before now, but I haven't because (unlike some others) I don't think you are a troll.

See?

Choosy - I can report anything I find offensive. Or am I missing something?

nothingofthesort · 25/11/2009 14:48

Why did she have to tell them anyway? If she mentioned that she was getting married no one would have thought to ask if it was a man or woman she was marrying would they? Looks like an unnecessary attempt to bring it up IMO.

Purplebuns · 25/11/2009 14:49

And the little billy goat gruff went...

However I know a lot of people do think like op!

Why do you feel like this? It is quite backward, in 30 years time when it is normal. u r going to feel a right tit!

Like my rascist Grandad.. outdated and ignored!

There is some (psychology) arguement about people being homophobic, being gay themselves you know!

Hullygully · 25/11/2009 14:49

Bibbity- I think in this case you are wrong. I think we are talking about a clean living young woman who just wants the best for her kids in rural Kentucky. We don't all want perverts parading their stuff in our classrooms, now do we? Bourbon anyone?

Willbreakmybones · 25/11/2009 14:52

Mmmmmm.

What concerns me, and I am with Darcey1 here, is the whole proselytising tone of many in the gay and lesbian community when it comes to their private lives, especially within the educational sector, where it is safe to assume their numbers are higher proportionally than in other sectors of employment.

I would also have grave concerns for any homosexual man in a primary school who felt the need to openly 'out' himself in front of his class, mainly because there are lots of nasty parents out there who might make it their mission to make his life unpleasant. (However, there are so few men in primary school that such a situ is very unlikely anyhow)

Perhaps I'm old fashioned, but a teacher's private life should remain just that. When I married my DH I did not announce it to my tutor group and just invited several members of staff who were friends at the time to my wedding.

Basically, I was trained that it was unprofessional and possibly risky to expose aspects of your private life to children under your care; not just statutory guidance, but downright commonsense as well!

Sadly, we will always have bigots, but I'm afraid the antics described by Darcey1 merely add fuel to fire rather than helping to achieve any laudable aim of tolerance and inclusiveness.

Real world, and all that

Purplebuns · 25/11/2009 14:52

*not that it isn't normal.. just commonplace, like having cereal for breakfast..

Hullygully · 25/11/2009 14:54

Willbreak - "it is safe to assume their numbers are higher proportionally than in other sectors of employment. "

Why?

We drove one out of our local school. He had funny hair.

SomeGuy · 25/11/2009 14:55

stop feeding the troll.

StewieGriffinsMom · 25/11/2009 14:55

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Chickenshavenolips · 25/11/2009 14:56

When my eldest son's teacher was getting married, it was announced to the school in assembly by the head teacher. The children made cards for her. I don't see any harm in including children in celebrations. Adults tend to pair up, it's not unusual.

Hullygully · 25/11/2009 14:56

Yeah, but not if it's bums and that.

Hullygully · 25/11/2009 14:57

Or double muffs.

Blu · 25/11/2009 14:57

Antics?

Goodness.

The highlight of DS's school year in Yr 2 was when his teacher brought in her newborn baby...clearly she should not have revealed anything as deeply controversially personal as 'teachers have babies '

Hully - you make me laugh

Chickenshavenolips · 25/11/2009 14:59

Hully, you're Bernard Manning, aren't you?

ViktoriaMac · 25/11/2009 15:01

Good God, you're right, your daughter will be corrupted. She'll be listening to KD Lang and coming home with a copy of Diva as her reading. From there it is a slippery slope to muff central. Oh dear.

Don't worry though, it will just be a phase, even Jade Goody's mum has gone straight now.