Why can't i sit in on some of my child's class?

[fleetwoodmac]

My son is in Y2 Primary, and there was an issue about his "bad behaviour" raised with me by the teacher. I am aware of something wrong in the way he reacts to school (i think perhaps because he is a spirited child i.e. very energetic, persistent, loud, and likes to do his own thing!) and in a way i am glad the teacher raised this with me.

I asked the teacher if I could spend a morning observing him in class as I want to get a feel for it e.g. does he find it hard to sit still (he does at home), and she was reluctant, preferring to have a discussion only.

I am puzzled why teachers don't like a parent visiting their classroom when they have a concern about how their child is in class.

Does anyone shed any light on why this is?

(p.s. If i were a teacher it wouldn't bother me if a parent wanted to do this).

i thought this was a regular-ish poster,thought i'd seen the name before. maybe not then.

where is op anyway? gone? or lurking...

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Perhaps the OP has gone to see if there is a telephone number for the Moderator...

Perhaps we could all ask to observe, by accompanying them on patrol? We could gently point out that their arrestees are just a bit high spirited, and argue with them that they are otherwise delightful people?

I'm cross with you lot!

Gosh, we have all been in the knife drawer tonight!

I'm a teacher and some parents are lovely but some are vile and treat teachers with such utter rudeness; often in front of the children. Disgusting! We don't work FOR the parents or the children. Obviously we want to be educators and our passion is in finding the right way to switch on every child's natural enthusiasms and passions for learning...

I'm afraid to say that if parents blunder into the classroom and don't show the correct levels of politeness and respect, it is actually very difficult to NOT feel a level of animosity towards the family. This does rub off on how you feel about the child. You don't treat them any less nicely, of course not, but there is often a barrier there as you have to start being much more careful because of the parent and their behaviour.

Not worded it very well. Not meant to sound like you have to treat the teacher or else.

Sorry MissMoonlight.

Think I'd best move and find a AIBU type thread.......I feel a tad spiritied now.

You should be facilitating change, not attacking.....

The OP might be deluded, but she still needed help.

Moonlight, she didn't exactly respond very well to any of the help she was offered.

Shiney - are you mocking Moonlight?

Moonlight - lots of people did try and help, but she only wanted to hear from people who agreed with her!

No, Moonlight- she was very dismissive of everyone who didn't agree with her very early on as far as I could tell...

What on earth happened here? One minute I thought I was engaging in quite a polite 'parents and teachers' discussion and it's turned into mayhem. Moderator - what ARE you playing at here?!

OP - you have really, really not helped yourself here and to be rude to people who have taken time to join you in this convo, just because they disagree with you, stinks, quite frankly.

Hula and Moonlight - I have found myself nodding along to everything you have said.

Right - off to be a paranoid teacher and lock myself in the stock cupboard again.

To be fair Moonlight I did offer lots and lots if information, thoughts and points of views in a number of posts earlier.

However the OP doesn't want to hear them. Apparently, as her comment was directed at posts discussion the systems, they are not original or thought provoking and therefore, pretty much thrown back.

I guess that is why I moved on, and I guess couldn't be bothered so much.

If OP only wanted people to agree then s/he should have said so in first post, and saved my time being wasted earlier.

Fleetwoodmac, the posts on here reflect the nature of MN - a mixture of spiky, supportive, irreverent posts and, in the midst too, some real gems.

As a mum to a sometimes "boisterous" ds in school (a word that featured in his report more than once ), Hulababy makes some really pertinent points in response to your OP, that is food for thought.

She did not even respond to my post about getting a behaviour teacher to go in and assess. We did this with our son (working with the school of course) and the findings were very interesting.

Shiney - I know

yep. sometimes it's hard to backtrack. she still needed help with her situation, even though she didn't come across well. Tisn't an AIBU, and with more facts she may, just may have a reason for her attitude.

I hope she reflects and comes back in a more measured way. I hope you lot find a good aibu thread.

Oh god, I'm turning into my mother!