Why can't i sit in on some of my child's class?

[fleetwoodmac]

My son is in Y2 Primary, and there was an issue about his "bad behaviour" raised with me by the teacher. I am aware of something wrong in the way he reacts to school (i think perhaps because he is a spirited child i.e. very energetic, persistent, loud, and likes to do his own thing!) and in a way i am glad the teacher raised this with me.

I asked the teacher if I could spend a morning observing him in class as I want to get a feel for it e.g. does he find it hard to sit still (he does at home), and she was reluctant, preferring to have a discussion only.

I am puzzled why teachers don't like a parent visiting their classroom when they have a concern about how their child is in class.

Does anyone shed any light on why this is?

(p.s. If i were a teacher it wouldn't bother me if a parent wanted to do this).

OP - I'd rather Jack.

(ooh I miss the Reynold's Girls)

moderator, please pull the thread.

Bless.

Mmm. I'm thinking I'm glad I'm not your son's teacher, to be honest.

You're not listening to us, fleetwood. We're trying to point out that your teacher may have a valid point.

You have admitted that your son is 'spirited'. In the classroom this can very easily translate as 'badly behaved'.

I know exactly where you're coming from, as DS2 is just like this. Unfortunately - he is now 14 - he has had to learn that such behaviour, in a classroom situation, is not acceptable.

I think, perhaps, you need to accept this too.

I haven't been unpleasant to you. Unless you feel that a few home truths constitute unpleasantness.

Well I actually found it very helpfull ta muchly

I waded through the filth like Shawshank Redemption and came out shiny bright on the other side.

But then I'm not very sensible

No, I am Moderatus

Fleetwood, standing in the middle of the playground shouting "moderator please pull thread" doesn't work. There are rules here - follow them if you don't like it. Or you could just leave the thread yourself? If we are all so mean and nasty, leave it as a testament to warn others.

Oh, and a word of advice. Don't stray onto the Am I Being Unreasonable boards ...

Fleetwoodmac while you are still here - I am not slagging you just genuinely interested - do you think that your son has done no wrong? Because that is the way it is coming across!

Apparently so shine on.

There's me thinking it might help to provide some info and thoughts from the other side. But hey, apparently that is not helpful, not even vaguely thought-provoking. Maybe I should have ignored the thread full stop, rather than spending a few minutes actually trying to give the OP some thoughts on her issue.

But I am afraid I made the mistake of not agreeing with you fleetwoodmac. My error. I thought MN was to get lots of views on issues, possibly not.

It is possible he has a rubbish teacher, of course. Rubbish teachers certainly exist. However, your OP comes across as quite arrogant I'm afraid.

Perhaps you worded it incorrectly, but instead of getting defensive at people pointing it out, it might have been better to explain the situation and the reasons for the strength of your feelings.

MN is blardy brilliant for finding solutions to the most difficult problems, but it is down to you to engage their support. It doesn't have to be done by agreeing with everyone though, just by being polite, answering questions and demostrating that you are at least considering the suggestions.

I'm sure the answer is 'out there' and I'm sure MN can help, but try and be a little less defensive!

In fact your inability to identify and follow the rules speaks volumes about your son's problems at school....

this is hilarious!!! the teacher works for you fleetwood?? really?

don't think so luv!!

The mners on here are only trying to help you Fleetwoodmac....

If you are that concerned then ask for a behaviour teacher to go in to assess him. This is done without any of the children knowing why they are there so everyone acts as they would in the normal classroom environment.

MsDiamond & MsBofF.. see my in my office now!!!

fleetwoodmac - as I pointed out earlier. MN does not have moderators. You need to ask for the thread to be removed yourself. Click on the ! alongside your name bar, and request away.

me [doh]

must try harder...

Fleetwoodmac - I think that your whole 'seeing is believing' attitude is worrying. If a professional has told you that your child has behavioural issues then I think you should be listening to this and working with the teacher, not questioning their judgement.

You would not expect to sit in on other professionals as they did their jobs. Would you?