Hi there, I just thought I'd write a response, since I think I have a unique insight into both state and private education. I went to a comprehensive, not a particularly good one. The classes were big, the teachers were stressed, a lot of my class mates were from deprived backgrounds. I didn't enjoy school, but left with good GCSEs through sheer hard work. I went on to do A levels, did well, went to uni, did well, and am now doing a doctorate. So, I don't think my education at a comp did any particular damage, but neither was it inspirational. As a hard worker, I was often ignored as the teachers were trying to control the kids who were playing up. I had always excelled in English but this was never really noticed until the 3rd year, then nothing was really done to push me at all. I was also experiencing a lot of problems at home and out of school - taking drugs, running away from home, you name it, I did it. Looking back, it was obvious from how I looked and behaved that something was up, but school never did anything.
Interestingly, my two younger step-sisters who I grew up with in the same house, were privately educated at the insistence of their father (my step-father). My older brother and I have watched them go through their privileged private education from a young age. It has been hard, to be experiencing one type of education and to see your siblings have another, so I know my thoughts on this matter are not remotely objective. However, they are both young ladies now, and they have the plummy drawl of the posh. Their lives could not be more different to mine, despite having grown up in the same house. They have a confidence and self-assurance that I have only ever seen in the privately educated - I've met a lot of their friends and they all have these boomingly loud posh voices. Their confidence is quite extraordinary, and not particularly attractive (to me). The small class sizes meant they had a lot of personal attention, and I think this did their self esteem a lot of good. I think generally they were probably pushed harder and there was a lot more overt pressure on them to achieve academically.
God I could write about this forever! Must keep it brief.
Basically, despite the glaring differences and some of the more positive aspects of their education in comparison to mine, I'm not sure how much better of they are as a result of it. Sure, if they want to become lawyers or doctors or some other similar career, then they have plenty of connections that you just would not have otherwise. That can be invaluable for many people, and is not something to be underestimated. However, one of my sisters didn't do particularly well in her A levels, despite class sizes of a maximum of 8, £100,000s spent on her education and extra tuition. So I think academically, they are no better off. In fact, my sister who is currently in the final year of her degree had such an appallingly bad writing style that she struggled to write essays until I gave her some tuition - I get the impression she had been used to being spoon fed information, whereas I had never been taught in that way and had to work a lot of things out for myself, which has been a great strength since.
I will never know how different I would have been had I had their education experience, but I do know that my education has not left me worse off in the long run. What I don't have is the connections and rich friends. I don't want rich friends, but knowing a few people at the 'top' might be nice! Oh, and I don't have a Sloany drawl either, thank god.
Sorry if this was no help! Just waffle really...