slightly bemused at the turn this has taken. I only answered a question- and now i am being told it's the wrong question. mind you, i accept it's not the only question, but a valid one nonetheless, when taken in conjunction with all the other ones you raise (and some more). Lilymaid pointed me in the direction of the kind of report I was looking for, for which warm thanks. it is not going to make or break my decision, but it is still more valid as an input than "so and so went to private and is now working at ASDA (sorry)". I mean prince Harry went to Eton, and look what a cultivated, well rounded individual he's come out of it! (i have had colleagues who went to Eton and have been distinctly unimpressed with their intellectual calibre, but boy do they compensate with the size of their egos and the loudness of their plummy voices! not generalising though- i have also had colleagues from top private schools who were amazingly bright and knowledgeable and just generally great)
tbh i find the whole private education system bemusing itself. schools are not accountable to anyone. they have different systems, different classifications, different tests, which means they are impossible to compare. it's like a secret society, of which i am not a member, and so clearly i do need to find all the facts...
I have visited the schools, believe me I have. about 10 so far. you can get a vibe, but there is no guarantee that you actually get the truth. plus, i may be thick, but i really can't tell what my dd's strengths and weaknesses are- she's only 3 ffs, i know she can draw "interesting" abstract pictures, climb very fast, and that she can tantrum for England, but what kind of school would suit her? at this stage it's more a matter of what kind of school would suit me...
there. i've done it. i had promised i wouldn't get drawn into the debate....