esher- i know exactly what you mean about this forum getting intense (nicely put!). just witness what is happening on this thread... nowhere i state that i am going to choose a school for my kids based solely on their salary expectations, i kept my op as neutral and factual as possible, and in subsequent posts i have repeatedly pointed out that i am literally leaving no stone unturned, no argument unargued, no aspect of the question unconsidered... i am talking to parents. visiting schools. reading ofsted and ISC reports. subscribed to the good school guide (big mistake, that one!). observing my children, and thinking about what's best for them and for us as a family.
but I am also looking at the big picture- about what private education means for my children's future prospects, and trying to gauge how it can help them in the future. neither my dh nor myself are british and we have both been educated in completely different ways- we are outsiders. so perhaps for british born people the perception of private schooling advantages is ingrained and understood. it isn't for me.
i just don't understand why some of you feel so incensed and so offended by my curiosity and desire to understand. i suspect it grates on many people to think that the headteachers in their schools, while obvioulsy having the children interests at heart, are also accountable to owners and shareholders- but to me that's normal and if i go for a private school it'll be under that understanding.
in my ideal society, there would be no private schools- the concept is alien and distasteful to me, to be able to "buy" a happier life (however you define it)- it's immoral. but there you go. we live here and are building our life here and i want the best for my children. I am not going to let my prejudices stand in the way of their future happiness.
btw... ehm yes, i am in NW London