A teacher smacked my child

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I really need some advice I’m in the uk
My son is 7 he has a diagnosis on dyspraxia, he’s going for a ADHD and autism assessment..
So today I picked him up from school, he was quite upset, he has said his class teacher has smacked him on his hand twice, quite hard and it has really upset him, he was messing with some building cubes and the teacher became angry at him and did a “cross face”.
I have rang the school, I am really angry about this.
The school office said “I don’t see that happening”, I made it very clear as to why he would lie my son is a big believer in god and he doesn’t like lying, the head teacher came on the phone and said she’s going launch a investigation.
After everything that has happened with this school, the constant shouting at him, making him stand in the corridor door and the constant belittling I have no faith in them.
I have done a EHCP as the school has refused it 4 times, I have already changed his school as he’s constantly being bullied, he came home with horrific injuries in his old school and now the teachers are bullying him. Please help me, I am close to homeschooling him but he has made it clear he loves going to his friends and loves his routine, who else can I go to, I’m so scared of making his life harder at school but this can’t go on anymore, I am fuming, I’ve had so many meetings about the behaviour of his teachers, they say he’s “too sensitive”. Everything calmed down until today, but this time she has physically hurt my child and I ain’t letting it slip, he is not going school tomorrow until I am happy about the outcome of this “investigation”

And also, it will force a formal investigation, if the school aren't already undertaking one, which I suspect they're not.

The head teacher came on the phone and said she’s going launch a investigation

Sounds like the right thing to do, but I'd prepare yourself for possibly not liking the outcome if what you've been told isn't strictly accurate (and gossip at the school gates doesn't count)

He won’t lie as it’s a catholic school, they have said a lie equals a key to the devils door

Regardless of the rest I'd have him straight out of a place which spouts such toxic dogma, but then I'd never send a child to an overtly religious school anyway

What does that even mean? Known to the police so what ?

Well, I suspect they are, because that's what happens. The staff member, and school, will want to have a proper investigation, so that they can be cleared - if not guilty.
No teacher or school wants that accusation hanging over their heads. It taints everyone.
They act quickly.

What alot of people here are not understanding is that this child has ASD and those with this neurological disorder do not lie. They simply tell things as they see them.

ds1's headteacher, who should have known better, came out with this nonsense. I said to her given that he is telling me and you two different stories then whilst I might not know which one is the truth one version is certainly not true.

Having said that this does not mean your ds or the teacher is lying but rather he might be seeing and feeling things from a different perspective. Sensory perception is often disordered with ASC. My 2 were very touch sensitive and could well have interpreted what from the adult's view was a light, guiding touch as being hit at your ds's age. You are right to investigate the issue but try and go in with a problem to be solved attitude rather than a going into battle attitude.

I agree, and I'm RC. I've never heard such nonsense. Very worrying.

Possibly.
Doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be properly investigated each and every time.
As I say I’ve had firsthand experience of teachers being rough with children. That most parents wouldn’t like. And headteachers not wanting to hear what they should’ve been seeing with their own eyes.

In the light of the OP’s writing style, I am not convinced that home schooling would be a good idea.

"lie equals a key to the devils door" is bonkers, my children go to an RC school I went RC schools my whole life and have never heard anything like this.

Additional needs or not children lie, my kids are 4 and 5 and spout nonsense all the time. DD told teachers that DH bites her!

Pull him out if you are truly concerned but I wouldn't assume it is all true.

If I was the teacher I would be furious about this accusation, and I would be considering my legal options via the teaching union.

I would imagine the OP and family are very well known at the school for insisting that their child does no wrong and believing everything they say.

Yes, teachers are always advised to contact their union in the light of such accusations. I suspect they are already aware and engaged in the process.

When my son was 7, the school bus driver ruffled his hair in an affectionate manner. I was standing there watching. When he got to school, he told all his friends and his teacher that the bus driver punched him! It caused a bit of a drama to say the least. He is quite sensitive to touch but is neuro typical. Sometimes a child's interpretation is not the truth!

This. My neuro child told me that I had hit them to the ground when I simply held there arm as they flailed around on the ground. She was convinced I had hurt her.

So people who believe in god are incapable of telling lies?!

Sorry but it's much more likely your kid is mistaken or lying than the teacher. Their career would be over. Why would they risk that over a child touching building blocks?

Ok, but why would my son just randomly come out of school at random upset, deregulated and make up this story, he is 7, what 7 year old would make up this in their head? Especially one with additional needs? Why would he actually lie? Like I said I asked for some help on what to do not a bollocking and people being unbelievably rude. Just think about it, my son sat in class with a brain age of a 1 year old and thought of every little detail

Hang on! Your child has the brain age of a 1 year old and yet managed to come home and tell you this story in detail?

Something's amiss here.

Absolutely.
Catholic schools don't mention the devil any more. Nor do the vast majority of priests. You do get some priests on the very traditional fringes of the church going on about the devil but certainly not the vast majority of priests and definitely not in a Catholic primary school in the UK.
In fact, I'd hazard a guess that the majority of Catholics and Catholic priests don't believe in the devil any more.

Very normal for that age as they are developing the imaginative part of there brain. Some are more into story telling than others. Others may be real leaders at the fantasy play in the playground. One of mine loved telling tales that could sound quite credible but could also cause trouble. I taught him to finish by saying "but that's just a story" which he did until he finally grew out of it.
I don't know if your son is telling the truth OP but it sounds like you are very stressed and have been for awhile. I hope it was just a misunderstanding. Hopefully you can get to the bottom of this and get the appropriate support for your son.

OP, your post screams troubled. Both you and your child. I think you are going to have these issues consistently unless you seriously look at changing how you both interact in the world.

Children lie all the time my DD once came out disregulated and upset saying her teacher hit her on the back when she was crying… the teacher patted her on the back trying to clam her down. DS said a boy in his class showed his willy… the poor boy got pantsed, he wasn’t waving his willy about like DS said. They’re not lying to lie, and I don’t think that my kids actually lied intentionally I think they believed what they said and that was their version of the truth. Sometimes kids do just lie for fun, once my brother came home when he was 10 and said they had dissected a frog in class… they definitely hadn’t he just wanted to look grown up and cool I think. Your son probably falls into the first category where he’s just misinterpreted something and he is now in a total tiz.

I cannot see any teacher hitting a child in todays society ! I dont think you are getting the correct story. I think parents are to quick to just believe their little angels !

My daughter is in a catholic school and she has lied, including making serious false allegations. I have actually sided with her school, who have been right. She was seeking attention at the time. I find it really hard to believe a teacher this day and age could physically hit a child. An allegation like this if untrue could destroy a teachers career, possibly life. I would try to get as many facts beforehand because 7 is a very young age. Whilst I am not saying your child isnt telling the truth. This is absolutely shocking and I think you need to consider a few things. Teachers have such a hard time with kids in school these days they need to be protected also. However, if a teacher has hit a child ever then they should be sacked and struck off immediately.

Dd told her nursery workers that daddy pushed her off the coffee table. The truth (and i was there) is he picked up gently and put her on the floor. So yes children do see things differently and misinterpret things