No Star, you don't sound like my mother - you are asking and making an effort to understand, but we won't go there....
You don't sound hostile, and I am only to happy to spread the HE gospel!
People HE for a huge variety of reasons, sometimes because of problems at school, but sometimes just because they feel, for whatevr reason, that school is not the right environment for their child.
I have a link somewhere where people list all the advantages of HE and I can't find it right now. I'll try and find that and post it later. In the meantime I will mention just a few as I see them.
- The child's interests can be catered to (as I mentioned before if a child is interested in a subject it can be explored in more depth, if he isn't you move on to something else)
- A child learns better if they are interested in a subject.
- In a school environment it is very difficult to cater to the different levels and abilities of all the children - some get left behind, others struggle to keep up (I have been in both situations with different subjects at school). No such problems with HE
- You know your child better than any teacher, which puts you in a very strong position with regard to educating him.
- You CARE about your child and don't have to balance his needs against maybe 30 others.
- You get to spend lots of time with your kids
- You get lots of time out - no rushing to get to school, pick up from school etc.
- You can take holidays outside of school holidays and therefore save money!
- No bullying
- You can mould the 'curriculum' to suit your beliefs (ie I am v into animal rights/environmental issues, an area which I believe is severely neglected in school
- No peer pressure
- No tests and exams - and therefore less pressure
- Much of a teacher's job is 'crowd control' - something which obviously doesn't apply
- Much of what is done in school is done so that the teacher can guage what level each child is at, and whether he has understood. You don't need to do this at home.
- HE children are often confident and independent. They learn to interact with adults and children alike on an equal basis, rather than a submissive teacher/pupil relationship.
- HE kids tend to get on well with siblings.
My god, there are loads of advantages. For my ds I think school would just kill his spirit. He is a lively, active little boy and doesn't sit still for very long (except when he chooses to look at books or draw or whatever). He hasn't wanted to do the joining in bits at playgroup - sitting down and singing or being read to when told. I know, it is important that he learns that there are some things he has to do, but he is only 4 years old. I want him to have a childhood first.
Kids learn to deal with many more different people ouside of school than in. Just think about the range of people you meet on a day to day basis - and they can interact with these people as equals.
The local primary schools aren't particularly good. They are town schools, underfunded and underachieving. The pupils leaving my son's designated scholl aged 11 are described as being "well below average." Well, sorry, but that's just not good enough for my son (or my daughter, for that matter). I want them to have the very best opportunities I can offer them. There are a couple of village schools nearby which are good, but then there is secondary education to consider, and again the quality is not good. There are some Montessori schools nearby which I might consider, but it's not an option anyway as I can't afford it.
The work issue is a difficult one. I'm ashamed to admit that I am currently on benefit (single mum). It's not a situation I am happy with, but one I am trying to rectify. I have heard that some people HE whilst working full-time, plenty do so whilst working p/t.
I hope that has answered some of your questions. If I've missed anything please let me know and I'll do my best! I'm going to try and find that list I said about. Oh and Jimjams, that site is great, just spent ages looking, and like it very much, thanks