Should I be pissed teacher didn't wish DD a happy birthday?

[muttleyandson]

I don't care about handing out sweets or having the children sing happy birthday to DD but what has really pissed me off is DD told teacher it's her birthday today and the teacher couldn't even wish her a happy birthday!

@muttleyandson

hopefully she gets a nicer teacher next year. Teachers aren’t angels they do sometimes dislike certain kids or have bias. They’re human. It’s the equivalent of people assuming all nurses are angels. They’re not, they also probably dislike a lot of their patients.

She sounded mean spirited. fingers crossed she gets a nicer one next year.

I actually feel sorry for your kids if yo have any. Do you roll over for everyone?

Al bless you OP, you just proved the point I was making, so easily as well. Thanks sweetie.

@muttleyandson one of my children had a teacher who used to give out party invitations at the end of the school day - none of the others did, just her. So a child would hand her the party invites and she would give them out. So hard for the ones not invited at age 7! No idea why, almost like she enjoyed it.
some teachers are amazing, some are really nasty - just like all jobs you find every type of teacher. I reckon 75% of the ones my 3 children have had have been amazing.

Why do you think she didn’t?

So no kids then. I feel sorry for you.

I honestly have no idea. DD is one of the quiet ones in class, works hard, head down and gets on with it. Every teacher she's had has said how wonderful she is and they would be happy to have a classroom full of kids like her. I guess she was due a bad egg.

"Bad egg?"
"Hard-hearted?"
"really nasty?"
"mean spirited?"

Still, I suppose these insults are a step up from "cruel cunt" which we had last night.
And all for something that is highly unlikely to have even happened in the way it's been related here. I would dearly LOVE to hear the other side of this one (but I have, of course, got a pretty good idea already of what it would be).

Interesting also that another (different) teacher is being criticised here for handing out party invitations "almost enjoying it," when not so long ago on MN it's been those who (quite rightly) have NOT handed them out (so as not to upset those not invited and because, quite frankly, teachers have enough to do already and are not social secretaries for their class' social lives) who have been berated as being mean-spirited/heartless/fill in an insult of your choice.

So then is it not more likely that it didn’t happen exactly as your eight year old reported?

If it was a full classroom and lots of noise and she didn't quite hear the teacher then yes but there was just the two of them in an empty classroom.

But what your eight year old is claiming doesn’t make sense - just the two of them, DD says it’s her birthday, teacher says ok, dd asks if she can hand out sweets, teacher agrees (even though nobody would have heard her saying no) then teacher decides not to let her hand out sweets after all, then another kid gets to do it the next day. It’s illogical.

Quoting it again for you since you're so confused

"treat them like shit."

OK.

I think the people suggesting this is a misunderstanding could be on to something here.

OP suggested to me I don't have children, I didn't respond to that comment so OP then said 'so no kids then' - if OP thinks my silence regarding my children when addressing her awful rudeness was clarification about my family then she clearly has a huge problem with understanding basic communication. The desire to be defensive and nasty has overridden OP ability to read and process information, this probably is true IRL also.

Please put a complaint in OP, I'm sure everyone could do with a laugh in the staff room on Monday.

@madnesss Yep, I think you've nailed it there.

Re: complaining - I did actually have a complaint made about me once. It went to the Head and also the Governors - for not putting their child's name on the smiley face side of the board (for good behaviour) when it was her birthday.
Reader: there was no good behaviour. She was on a sugar high all day and was NOT ready to learn AT ALL.
Thankfully, that ridiculous system of supposed behaviour management is now gone.

The op's view on single parents in disgusting.

*is

This is a Tory Britain in all of its glory

Either side of DD's birthday kids got to hand out their sweets. She told teacher it was her birthday and asked to hand out the sweets to which teacher replied okay. Maybe teacher forgot on DD's birthday but no excuse for the day after.

Maybe she forgot the conversation completely? If your daughter went in early to tell her, she was probably in the middle of doing something. If you think she was deliberately being vindictive then why did she tell your kid she could do it in the first place?

"now stop crying in my ear. No wonder he packed his bags and left."

Wow. You're really showing your true colours here, OP.
I do hope you're not modelling that sort of unpleasantness to your dd.

I'm out of this now. It's vile.

I left him.

I don't have a broken home. My home was broken when I lived with an abusive man.

You're nasty.

You used the phrase broken home by the way.

And you said

They are children, some children come from broken homes where parents may not give a shit what day it is never mind their own child's birthday and if/when that child goes into the only place that gives them an escape from the shithole they live in it is unacceptable for a teacher to treat them like shit.

My home is not a shithole.

Nor do my children need nor have they ever needed an escape from my home.

Your views on single parents are disgusting.

Wow. Op, you are, horrible. On this thread at least. This will be, entirely, why the teacher did what she did. Of course one shouldn't punish a child for their parent. But, they're human.