Should I be pissed teacher didn't wish DD a happy birthday?

[muttleyandson]

I don't care about handing out sweets or having the children sing happy birthday to DD but what has really pissed me off is DD told teacher it's her birthday today and the teacher couldn't even wish her a happy birthday!

Could the teacher have forgotten to wish her a happy birthday and let her hand her sweets out? Maybe a reasonable explanation?
I hope your daughter had a lovely birthday

DD had a lovely birthday and she gets all the love she needs but I just think about some poor child who doesn't get any love at home going into school and being shunned on their birthday. I find it unacceptable for a teacher to behave in such a way.

what a hilarious witty remark!

Pissed up and pissed off?

Hang on, I once got a post deleted on a thread for simply pointing out that a woman is a woman, but apparently when it comes to kids birthdays, we can drop the c-bomb at each other with reckless abandon?!?

I’m surprised they allow sweets in school.

Please don't use the terminology broken home to describe children whose parents have split up. It's rude.

Also. Just because my children come from a "broken home" has nothing to do with whether I give a shit or not. I care deeply about my children and your comments are offensive.

This issue aside op, amd you're not wrong it does seem unfair, but, you have come across appallingly on this thread. Defensive, rude, unpleasant. If you are like this generally, and your dd is too, it's likely that others don't like you. They then respond in these ways. You'll catch more flies with honey.

I hope you’re looking at removing your dc from this school as you seem so sure that the current teacher isn’t up to the job of celebrating your child’s birthday during the school day.

With respect, you have one 8 year olds report of this. Have you any idea what else might have happened in school on the day of the birthday? Things don’t always go to plan in primary school classes.

anyway, time to move on I would think.

Why would she just say ‘ok’ though? I think you need to calm down a bit and stop taking your eight year old’s word as gospel. Phone the school on Monday and say she was upset, and ask if she can hand them out then if it bothers you this much.

Guys, welcome to the world of teaching in 2022 - getting referred to as cruel and a cunt for something that you may/may not have said, according to a small child.
OP, you lost me at "my child asked me why she was being singled out." 35 years of teaching here and I have NEVER heard a child use that terminology.

I agree...and people wonder why there's a recruitment and retention crisis in teaching!

Think I had a bit too much last night, sorry for the unpleasantness 😬

I did explain to DD that maybe teacher was busy or didn't have time but the next day another child got a birthday song and handed out their sweets whilst DD was ignored again.

They are children, some children come from broken homes where parents may not give a shit what day it is never mind their own child's birthday and if/when that child goes into the only place that gives them an escape from the shithole they live in it is unacceptable for a teacher to treat them like shit.

Do you have any idea how this comes across?

Maybe ask the teacher nicely if your DD can hand out sweets on Monday.

So whats your theory? Do you think she hates your kid?

I don't have one, I just think it's sad that a teacher couldn't muster up two words to an 8 year old 'Happy birthday' first thing in the morning when there was only the two of them in the classroom. DD went into her classroom a few minutes early to let the teacher know it was okay and if she could hand out sweets at the end of the day.

Sorry, I'm not buying any of this. At the very least, there will be more to it than you/your dd are saying.

I honestly have no idea what you are talking about? I never referred to you in anyway. Did I say 'your' children come from a broken home? Where did I say a broken home = parents who have split up? You and your 'broken home' situation as you put it is not the complete definition of a broken home.

Okay I'll admit it - DD kicked the door open threw the bag of sweets at the teacher and screamed it's my birthday today and I'm handing out these sweets so up yours teacher!!!

Will you buy that?

It's no surprise that some people have a hard time believing that a teacher couldn't say 'happy birthday' to a child. This is a Tory Britain in all of its glory. You would think I'm talking about a 15 year old.

Okay I'll admit it - DD kicked the door open threw the bag of sweets at the teacher and screamed it's my birthday today and I'm handing out these sweets so up yours teacher!!!

Will you buy that?

It would not at all surprise me given how her role model has been speaking to people on this thread tbh.

This would have upset me, she sounds very cold hearted. But I wouldn’t complain just be looking forward to a nicer human next year. Would be the same if this happened in an office, I can see your child would feel upset.

Thank you, DD has had some absolutely wonderful teachers up until now.

I actually feel sorry for your kids if yo have any. Do you roll over for everyone?