is it OK for the school to suspend dd and not notify me?

[NigellasDealer]

well OK they sent me an email at 3,25pm to tell me that she was being suspended for a day, the next day, 'paperwork to follow'.
is that actually OK?

clam read your post back - you sound like smuggy mcsmugson.
is your partner still with you?

I would have expected the school, at the very least (with ineffective means of communication - not a dig, op) to have sent said paperwork home with op's daughter. Even if communication was OK "paperwork to follow" to me, would mean dc would be bringing it home from school!

They are a school with - I assume - intelligent people on staff. It would have taken minutes to sort the relevant paper work in this case.

thank you pointlessfan and gretchen - according to some people having a kid who puts one foot out of line makes you a crap parent.

Yeah, OK, hands up, probably was being smug. Was going to put a disclaimer on the post but forgot.
Of course my kids aren't perfect but that's not the point. I just get a little exasperated at parents who quibble about the fine print of procedure when the crucial issue is actually their child's behaviour in the first place. And, whilst we don't actually know what the initial incident was in this case, in general terms, the education of thousands of kids in this country is being adversely affected by the low-level (and high level) disruption caused by students who don't seem to give a stuff. And a good proportion of those kids are being enabled by their parents, albeit unwittingly, who continually make excuses for them.

That's extremely gracious of you. I agree with your points too.

but you dont know anyting about my daughter clam.
she is well liked by the vast majority of her teachers.
she did not disrupt any class - that is not what she does.
stop jumping to fictitious conclusions.

Happily married for nearly 20 years, Nigella.

You can stamp and shout and direct your anger at other people all you like, but it's all just an attempt to cloud the issue. You need to address your dd, not the school or random strangers on the internet.

nigella

If you are going to get picky about this, your DD did more than one thing to end up in isolation, she then walked out of isolation and ended up on the next stage of the sanctions list.

We have no idea how many times the school tried to contact you, you yourself admit that your phone connectivity is patchy, and the same can be said for your internet.

but you as a random stranger on the internet are saying completely untrue stuff arent you?

no i dont think it was either starfish - esp as I was offline til this morning.
I do have a phone but the reception where we live is v poor (as the school well knows) yes we live in the middle of nowhere.

Ok let me get this right.

Your daughter was suspended.
School sent you an e-mail informing you of this which you didn't see until later.
You feel the school should have done more to contact you than they did?

You must have put down that e-mail was a form of contact you are happy with or how else would they have your address?

You say they should have telephoned but then you say the reception is poor so how do you know they didn't try?
The school knows reception is poor in your area so they e-mailed as you have stated that is another point of contact.

It is not the schools fault if you didn't read the e-mail until later.

I could understand your upset if zero contact was made but that is not the case is it?

So how do you expect the school to contact you then OP?

Read my post, Nigella. I made it quite clear that we didn't know what your particular dd had done, and that I was therefore talking in general terms.

thanks boney i get the message.
dont need smuggy clam wth her perfect teens making up shit about my daughter though

But they did notify you, it is not their fault you don't have reception and internet.

Your DD must have done something to deserve internal exclusion.

oh it was in general terms was it? why not read it back yourself ?

Also paper work to follow would to me mean DD was bringing it home with her. How do you know that DD wasn't given the paperwork. She may have left it by mistake or binned it.

oh fgs annunziata if you cannot be arsed to read the thread, dont say anyting

If there is no reinclusion meeting, it sounds like the school is the problem.

What is the point of the exclusion? What will it achieve?

The school sounds lazy, and rather incompetent.

(Also, in rural areas with dodgy reception, wouldn't a text be more likely to reach you than a phonecall?)

I don't think the op has overlooked the behaviour at all, she has very little about what she intends to do about it, which is fine, as the thread isn't about her daughter's behaviour!

We can not assume that op isn't going to tackle it, she doesn't owe us any explanation as to what her daughter did/the consequences.

Does your dd exhibit the same attitudes in school as you?

exactly different, am being painted as some kind of slack parent here when that was not the point of the thread.
the point was a lack of communication and I appreciate those replies that have answered that.

clam are your perfect children as smug and judgemental as you are?

There isn't a lack of communication though. You probably were phoned and you were emailed.

she has said very little

Clam, Ouch !

There wasn't a lack of communication though!! They emailed you, as they presumably couldn't contact you by phone as you don't have a landline and only patchy mobile reception. How is that their fault?