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Original poster

is it OK for the school to suspend dd and not notify me?

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NigellasDealer · 04/07/2014 09:03

well OK they sent me an email at 3,25pm to tell me that she was being suspended for a day, the next day, 'paperwork to follow'.
is that actually OK?

OP posts:
tethersend · 07/07/2014 10:17

Am slack-jawed in horror at this thread.

Should every parent whose child is excluded hang their head in shame and flagellate themselves before asking a question about the specifics of said exclusion?

Many, many children are excluded from schools every day for many, many reasons.

combust22 · 07/07/2014 10:18

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Original poster
NigellasDealer · 07/07/2014 10:19

just WTF is going on in your sad littel life that the only buzz you can get is abusing strangers on the internet combust?

OP posts:
MadameDefarge · 07/07/2014 10:22

Nigella, for this one, we are shoulder to shoulder.

Do fuck off, Combust.

Original poster
NigellasDealer · 07/07/2014 10:23

Flowers defarge Grin

OP posts:
MadameDefarge · 07/07/2014 10:24

Is it too early for Wine?

Wink
hercules1 · 07/07/2014 10:24

Err, combust, had your own teenager taken over your account and is getting carried away?

TheWordFactory · 07/07/2014 10:24

owl I can assure you that my DC attend excellent schools with zero tolerance to many things that are routine in many schools.

But it is very easy to avoid detentions as it is very clear what will incur them...eg wrong uniform.

So most DC don't incure them as a. they don't want a detention and b. their parents ensure compliance as much as they can!

tether none expects the OP to flagelate herself. But on the other hand, considering what a complete pickle her DS is in, I did think it was worth nudging the OP to consider what was really important here.

Clearly she doesn't want that. That's up to her. I think she's said in the past that she's not to bothered about her DC's results anyhow...shrugs...

Original poster
NigellasDealer · 07/07/2014 10:28

I think she's said in the past that she's not to bothered about her DC's results anyhow...shrugs...
of course I am bothered !
what I might have said on a previous thread was that essentially their results are up to them, as long as they have my support. which they do.
and we are not talking about my DS here are we?

OP posts:
BitOutOfPractice · 07/07/2014 10:31

I think good grace is pushing it a bit OP!

TheWordFactory · 07/07/2014 10:35

But things don't happen in a vauum Nigella. You can't compartmentalise your son, your own attitude and your DD.

It doesn't work like that!

Original poster
NigellasDealer · 07/07/2014 10:36

really bit?#
why not read the insults sent to me?

OP posts:
MadameDefarge · 07/07/2014 10:38

I apologise for my arsey posts.

MadameDefarge · 07/07/2014 10:38

But not the nice sensible ones.

MadameDefarge · 07/07/2014 10:39

Obviously.

Original poster
NigellasDealer · 07/07/2014 10:43

Smile Wine thanks MD

OP posts:
BitOutOfPractice · 07/07/2014 10:43

I have read them Nigella but you did get very aggressively defensive very quickly and the insults went both ways.

And before you ask me, yes, I think you are being annoyed with the wrong person and yes, I do have teens.

andsmile · 07/07/2014 10:45

they did notify you though so what is the problem.

if your childs school contact info is incorrect then you need to get them to ammend it. is this what the issue is or that fact that she has been suspended. ex secondary school teacher here - that does seem harsh, does she have history?

Why didnt your child tell you?

OwlCapone · 07/07/2014 10:52

TheWordFactory Clearly you either missed the wink in my post or left your sense of humour in bed this morning.

OwlCapone · 07/07/2014 10:53

Anyway, this thread is bonkers.

Original poster
NigellasDealer · 07/07/2014 10:55

owl capone - the voice of reason Grin

OP posts:
combust22 · 07/07/2014 10:56

Yes it is bonkers- don't really see why it was started in the first place.

PintOfWine · 07/07/2014 10:57

NigellasDealer, I think you need to be proactive with the school - if you know your daughter is going to be wearing the wrong shoes, it is up to you to contact the school BEFORE she gets into trouble and explain why.

If they then punished her nonetheless, raise merry hell.

You sound very angry and are really lashing out.

But it doesn't take a genius to see that maybe you're just a bit angry with yourself for not preventing this situation. And I'm sure you're feeling it's not fair that your financial situation means you can't just easily fix it, like others. You are right. It's not fair and it does absolutely suck.

But to focus back on your daughter....

Best to talk to school and explain you just cannot afford it, and if they won't allow her to wear the shoes, they need to help you instead of punishing your daughter.

MadameDefarge · 07/07/2014 10:58

why, to give you the chance to share your thoughtful apercues, Combust.

ImeldaMaybeNot · 07/07/2014 10:59

I think I need a gin in my coffee after reading this thread

OP is your DD back at school today? and were you able to get her the correct colour shoes, if not, perhaps we could help you find an online bargain with free delivery in your budget?

and I agree with you that it wasnt the ideal way of informing you but sometimes its just better to move on from stuff you cant change but yes I would have been pissed off too

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