is it OK for the school to suspend dd and not notify me?

[NigellasDealer]

well OK they sent me an email at 3,25pm to tell me that she was being suspended for a day, the next day, 'paperwork to follow'.
is that actually OK?

Well, I don't have a support job in a school and I don't think I know everything about education, but I do know that if my DC aged 15 was suspended for walking out, I would be utterly mortified and working on why my child was so rude and entitled. It wouldn't even cross my mind to wonder if the school had followed some due process.

I agree with 70 wotsits, your priorities seem very odd.

oh for God's sake my dd is not 'rude and entitled' OK? what the fuck does 'entitled' mean anyway.
if you lived in deep country 15 miles from the school with no car and no buses after 5.45 your priorities might be 'odd' too.

No. We always call. Even internal

She walked out of a school detention! That is rude. The fact she felt she was entitled to do so makes her entitled.

HTH

Just my opinion, but I would be really embarrassed if my child did that and I wouldn't just be floundering around trying to deflect blame onto the school.

Sort your stroppy teenager out.

Think a log of posters on here have little experience of teenagers.

I would argue a email is not good enough. Calmly ;)

thank you Gretchen.
I wonder if any of these helpful people have any experience of teens I really do.
and if a teen is 'stroppy' does that mean that communication is no longer important?

Part of my job is contacting parents in this situation. School should make every effort to contact you. Personally I would try all available phone numbers before resorting to email as I prefer to explain the reason for the exclusion and answer parental questions. However, it is not always possible to get hold of parents and it is reasonable to assume that people have internet access at home so I don't think you can really complain. Maybe just explain at reinclusion meeting that you would prefer school to contact you by phone and make sure they have up to date details.

thank you pointless - there is no 'reinclusion meeting' btw.
around here it is not really reasonable to assume that everyone has internet access but i see your point.

Agree with pointless. Would have left a message on phone

Meeting is standard practice. I'd ask for one. Set targets etc

not in our school it isn't.;....... never heard of it in fact

I can understand that you were pissed off - I'm sure Mo you were annoyed at both the school and your teen (they can try the patience of angels - or maybe that's just mine. ). I wonder if there is anything that the school can do to improve things at their end, and likewise what you can do at home/with your daughter?

nigella

In you case it is why is it not reasonable as they have your email address?

Who the heck is Mo?!

Well. Ask for one anyway. You can't let your kid be excluded / basket behaved and not talk about it with them. IMO

I have experience of teenagers, although neither of them have ever had any sort of detention. However, I agree with those who are saying that the OP is directing her anger in the wrong direction. All this could have been avoided if the dd had behaved herself in the first place. If either of mine had ever misbehaved, I'd be phoning the school to apologise on their behalf and asking how best I could support their sanctions.

And just what are the school meant to have done, if due process requires a phone call, text or email and yet the OP admits she isn't available for contact by any of those means?

god clam have you any idea just how smug your post sounds.
bloody good for you woman if you have such perfect teens, good for you, have a mumbadge.

Meeting is standard practice in our school too. Gives everyone a chance to have their say and draw a line under it or put relevant support in place (if necessary) and welcome the pupil back to school. I would be more inclined to complain about the lack of a formal meeting than the fact that you were informed by email. I'm really quite shocked that there wouldn't be a meeting!

Gretchen

What is there to talk about?

The DD walked out of internal Isolation.

Shoot the messenger if you want.

Me too.

Clam. You do sound slightly smug. Honest

Also even some of the loveliest kids with supportive parents sometimes make mistakes and get into trouble at school, they are kids! Think some people need to stop being judgemental!

How to move forward. How the d won't do it again. What the issue was. If she accepts it was unwise

At schools we try and listen to people. Really

The girl might even want a chance to apologise. They are kids. They do stupid stuff.