But Beatie, I don't give two hoots about what other people do or don't do. I am not saying any of those things about what YOU should or shouldn't do. I didn't realise that this was a competition where there were winers and loosers. We are just debating. If you can afford to have lots of kids and paid help what's wrong with that? It doesn;t make anyone eles a bad person or you a better one.
VC are you advocating then that people live outside their means? Ive no doubt that you know people on benefits who are fab mums, why shouldn't they be? Take this senario then.
A person is on benefits for whatever reason. They have two children and are able to give them what they need to be happy and secure. However, they cannot afford three children. Do they have a third? How do they support themselves and that extra person both on a finacial and pastoral basis? Are you saying they should just go ahead and have as many children and hang the consequences of that decision? I know plenty of people would would love to have more children than they have. Thay haven't for these main reasons:
They can't afford it
They haven't got the space
They haven't got the support network they would need in order to give them a decent quality of life ( for whatever reason)
I have nevr heard them blame anyone else for their own decision making or the fact that they cannot have as many children as they would like.
fairymum. imo the contribution I make is by bringing up my children to make a positive impact on this world. That's not exclusive to a SAHM. No doubt someone won't be bothered to read that bit though. What contribution do you make? Do you only make a contribution if you are working? Is that what you are saying?
Floating. I would do the housework and he would do the blokey stuff, fixing, finances, that sort of stuff. I am quite capeable of doing that, just I am better at what I do and he is better at what he does.
MP Both do
Fairymum ha ha, v. funny. Do you think I would be on here for years in such a generally calm manner if that were the case?!! And who are you to make judgments on the worth of someone's existence? That's a mighty lofty position to hold. What's wrong with being like a Jane Austen heroine. You are applying YOUR views and principals to MY life. It's not your life it's mine
Floating I do know all about the finances. I have discuussed this in detail a couple of days ago.
Thanks puddle.
BTW everyone I do not atall feel attacked by you. Sometimes I get really p*ed off by the tone and language used but other than that it's fine by me. I don't have anything to defend. The thing about this thread is that it does go in circles from time to time, usually because I keep answering the same questions, but it also shifts. If you like I can throw in another one of my contoversial and unfashionable takes on life if you feel it needs livening up a bit! Someone else could start another one and I can chip in, always guaranteed to shake things up. I don't mind. I don't do it for fun or to goad.