why are some women content to do all the housework?

[honeydew]

I meet lots of mums in my local area who, like me, are stay at home mums with very young children but are prepared to do absolutely everything for their partners and DH's! They slave away cooking, cleaning and washing at home with no help and at the weekends, they still don't expect
their partners to do anything! I have friends who never get a proper break from their children, even if it's only for a couple of hours. Their DH's leave them to it 24/7. Is it just me who has found that old style patriarchy is alive and well in society once a woman gives up work to raise her brood? My DH does help me with baby DS, he also puts my older daughter to bed and washes up after I've cooked each night, so we work as a team. So many women I speak to say that their DH's are not 'hands on' parents and do virtually all the chores and baby changing/feeding. Oviously, if one partner is working during the week they can't do that much, but some men don't want to contribute at all it would seem! Are they just lazy or simply 'expect' women to fulfill that role?

Also Christina, have you managed to misplace the post where I asked you a question. That's a mighty strange way of ignoring someone.
I have said to others here when they started to get rude, aggressive and make sarcastic, unpleasant and personal remarks that they would not be answered.
I speak as I am spoken to.
If you look back at your posts I think you will find both the tone and language quite unnecessary. You carry on by all means, just don't expect a response from me.

Yes Beatie

nanananaaaaaaaa!!!!!!![pulls tongues!!!!!!]

Congratulations Alexmum - you win a date with Gordon Ramsay

Reckon this thread must be attracting attention by longevity alone!

That's not right, it should be me.

gordon ramsay??? is that it? but he has really bad skin! can't i have ....mmmm....george clooney?

I think Kittywits is talking about men who do all the household work and childcare when they don't want to AND their wives/partners don't do any of it but order their man to do it.

I think, anyway.....

so the argument is that men who help around the house aren't manly or attractive?

is that what this is all about?

I think this MUST be a record by now? I can't face reading all the posts since Friday (when I signed off to start living again ) so nothing else to post. But it's still lively by the looks of it...

how many women don't do ANY housework or childcare? i certainly don't know any.

Floating, I do think there is difference, yes.It is about the attitude of those men when they do the work
As I have said, the men within my social millieu appear to me like the've been castrated. I knew many of these men before they settled down and they've lost some something instinsic to them. It isn't just about housework ,but this is where it seems to manifest itsef with THEM. I think I agree with what you are saying about my interpretation of manliness.

Don't thnk I said that. Sure someone has got the time and energy to trawl through the posts though, it's too hot for me. My brain feels like it's being fried.

alexmum. W are talking at the moment about what makes a man manly and what makes them a big girl's blouse. Not really to do with looks.
Very tricky one

Some Floating, most are pt, some sahms

and what does housework have to do with manliness and masculinity? if people live in a house , then certain tasks have to be performed in that house.really don't understand what difference it makes if those tasks are performed by a man or a woman.

if a man left all those tasks to a woman because of misguided notions of masculinity then would be incredibly disrespectful of him and that would make him less manly.
real men treat women with respect imo.

haven't read the thread so apologies if i'm coming in half cocked.

even my 77 year old father who can't cook/use a washing machine/never changed a nappy etc does housework.he does all the ironing in the house, washes all the dishes, keeps the garden nice etc.

I'm off for a while floating, got a shocking headache, as I say I think it's the heat.