TTC with a donor continued

[Waiting2BAMummy]

Almost at 1000 posts so started a new thread

@KLO0224
@bitheby
@Overlyanxious
@Busybee143
@TimeIhadaNameChange

Sorry if I missed anyone

Good luck @KLO0224

@KLO0224 I would say defo lay it on thick - maybe say you’re worried about ectopic. I was going to suggest that the other day but then didn’t want to freak you out in case you hadn’t thought about it.

A scan would should nothing there or if there is residue I think as they did scan me at nearly 6 weeks to check

Not that I think it’s ectopic

How's everyone doing?

I'm 6dpo today. Just randomly cried over nothing. Hoping it's a positive sign but might be clutching at straws.

Any news from anyone else?

Hopefully you’re crying for a reason @bitheby, that cake out wrong but you know what I mean!

I’ve spent most of the day crying but that’s because I’m leaving my job and everyone has been showing the love!

How did you get on with the GP @KLO0224?

Couldn’t get through this morning @Waiting2BAMummy and then they are on training on Wednesday afternoon. Shall try again tomorrow!
Been feeling crappy today, and my boobs are causing me some right grief! But been to see my sister and her 4 kids and we have played basketball and baked Easter nests, dismantled bunk beds and had half an hour nap with my 18month old niece, it’s taken my mind off things today.

@bitheby fingers crossed that’s a good sign.

@Waiting2BAMummy oh that’s nice they’ve all been showing the love. Enjoy your Easter off before the new job

@KLO0224 that sounds like a lovely day. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for tomorrow.

Not much to report for me - AF is due Sunday. I’m pretty sure I’m out as last time I got pregnant I had the sore boobs and it’s not happened yet. I’m not feeling too negative though so that’s a good thing

That sounds like a lovely day @KLO0224.

I've been binge watching The Circle including all the past series and I was clumsily trying to make a point on the telly addicts thread about how disturbing I'm finding so many of the players hiding their sexual orientation and pretending to be straight - and someone misunderstood what I was trying to say and dismissed my sense of some form of homophobia and that's what made me cry. I really hope it's hormonal but if it's not, then maybe it's just frustration at how difficult some things are about being different/ feeling misunderstood. I hope it's pregnancy 😀

I love making Easter nests @KLO0224 sounds like you had a lovely day, glad you managed to take your mind off everything for a little while. Hope you manage to get through to the GP tomorrow.

Remember every pregnancy is different @Overlyanxious so not having any symptoms doesn’t necessarily mean you’re out. I hope the witch doesn’t show for you.

Sporty you were misunderstood @bitheby but hopefully your reaction is hormone related!

@Waiting2BAMummy I’ve sort of accepted it may not happen anytime soon. My wife’s cousin has just announced she’s having another baby and this may sound silly but I feel like it would be too good a situation for us to have babies at the same time so probably won’t happen for me.

No appointments left for today, then closed for the bank holiday so by the time that’s all over with will only have 5 days left of the extra 2 week wait to go!
Done another cheap test today and it was still positive. I felt sick as soon as I opened my eyes this morning but I’m very snotty too so maybe I’m just coming down with something.
Back to work next week so if I can’t get an appointment next week either at least it will go fast with something to occupy my mind.

@KLO0224 I guess that’s not too bad a wait - although having to wait at all is rubbish.

It’s all so confusing. I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you. Being able to keep busy sounds good.

I feel for you so much. If this is a pregnancy, then what a way to start it. No-one needs this stress and uncertainty. Hopefully by next week, then it's ok to scanning territory timing wise? I think I would insist in your shoes. You need to know what you're dealing with.

I've just had my second fertility counselling appointment. It's so challenging and emotional. With figures of 5% for IVF given by one clinic and 10-20% from the other. The counsellor is not a clinician yet she seems to be pushing towards IVF being the better option but actually, now I'm typing this, that isn't necessarily so. She did make the point that with IVF I would get additional information on the quality of my eggs which you don't get with IUI. All extra information to process.

@bitheby have you looked on here about IUI vs IVF and also ratings on the clinics: www.hfea.gov.uk/treatments/explore-all-treatments/intrauterine-insemination-iui/ it may help.

I can’t help but feel like the clinic that has said 5% chance is talking rubbish.

That is definitely darker @KLO0224 I think I would be cracking out the other digital at the weekend of I were you x

I always thought I would do IUI as it’s less invasive than IVF but now I’m thinking I would do IVF as it has a higher success rate @bitheby.

I think it depends on age. I'm in the age bracket where they are really pushing donor eggs for good success rates.

I paid £100 for a ten minute appointment to be told that IVF at my age wasn't worth it. I can only go on what the clinic said. To be honest, I don't have a huge amount of faith in them for other reasons but as a lay person, I can only go on what I've been told. Until Tuesday I thought IVF wasn't an option. It was hard today to suddenly be discussing it as if I'm almost ready to push the button.

I just hope I'm already pregnant.

Progesterone result - 27.4. Hopefully that's as near as dammit 30 so proves I ovulated.

It’s so hard when you get conflicting information on an already extremely difficult topic, it’s like who do you listen to? Especially when you are paying for treatment and a lot is resting on the success rate vs financial burden!
I’m hoping we don’t have to resort to clinics, that sort of environment stresses me out to begin with. Never mind the actual procedure in varying degrees on invasiveness!
@Waiting2BAMummy i thought it looked a bit darker today. I will do the clear blue one on Sunday, then that’s a week since the first one.
It’s all so confusing I’m in proper limbo, I’ve told my sister and she told me about her friend who had a similar thing last year, she made it to full term with heavy bleeding throughout!
I am slightly concerned that it may be ectopic but without a scan I won’t know will I, unless I develop pain etc!
We just keep saying third time lucky so we will see. Still not holding out much hope! Like you said @bitheby what a start if it is a viable pregnancy!

From the website @Overlyanxious shared. Strictly by age, 5% is correct. Those of you dithering, think about getting cracking sooner rather than later.

You’ve got some serious willpower not taking that digital until Sunday @KLO0224 I so hope it says 3+ 🤞🤞🤞🤞

It so rubbish getting conflicting advice @bitheby but I think I’d be more inclined to listen to the NHS consultant as they have no financial motivation to tell you anything other than the truth. I think sometimes fertility clinics push donor eggs because they get more money for it and it drives up there success rates. Maybe I’m just getting cynical in my old age?!

Yeah but the "NHS" consultant would be taking me on as a private patient as I'm too old for NHS IVF. So they're both private clinics in that respect.

I don't think either of them are lying. Just different opinions.

Ah I see @bitheby. Do you have any thoughts as to what you want to do?

I think the thing for me is that at least with IVF you know that the egg has been fertilised when it’s put back so you’re already half way there. With IUI, even if done at the perfect moment, there is no guarantee that the egg with be fertilised, let alone implant.

The reason I wanted a GP referral was some tests as to why I had two early losses last year and whether there is anything preventing me from conceiving naturally. But it's ended up with telling me that they can't help with that, and can't do any more for me now than IVF.

I wonder whether a referral to a recurrent miscarriage clinic was really what I needed. Because now I feel really pressured to make a decision that I wasn't quite ready for. I know at my age that having a baby by any means might be unrealistic. But I was so happy after my blood test results and feel like I could be pregnant this cycle. I wanted a bit longer to bask in that optimism. Not entirely sure at the moment that the counselling is actually helping me.

@bitheby could you maybe get a referral to a recurrent miscarriage clinic and then make your decision. Having all the information from every angle is needed for something so big it’s it!
I’ve had a constant dull ache/stitch in my right side since getting up this morning, it’s really bothering me and making me worry that this is actually ectopic. I’ve been doing some reading and it’s in the right place to be.
I’ve had no bleeding or spotting.

@bitheby I agree the recurrent miscarriage place sounds like an important one to have as well. Have you had a hysteroscopy as that’s a test I often see about. Also you could try a referral to a fertility dr or if can afford go to a private hospital for one. They can then give more general advice as they aren’t a IUI or IvF clinic trying to sell you their services.

@KLO0224 It could just be anxiety. I think if you continue to worry lots then go to A&E