iui stories?

[mabel9]

Please tell me your iui stories and journeys? Currently in 2ww.

@mabel9 im not so sure it would be on a frer. They're super common on the blue dye tests but not on the pink. I think the fact AF hasn't showed up is a decent sign! My wife's AF always turned up the night before 13 dpiui or morning of day 14.

This was my other test?

Period has just arrived. Gutted....

@BananaHammock23 That’s great news, congratulations! I’m pleased someone else said they were in shock, that was my overwhelming feeling too when I got the positive then felt silly as I was obviously actively trying to conceive. A week later and I’m still not sure it’s sunk in properly. I’m also convinced that it is twins but will have to wait a while to find out. I’m doing this alone so if it is twins, I’ll be instantly outnumbered.

Make sure to keep us posted on whether it is twins or not!

@mabel9 oh no! I am gutted for you! How are you doing? I was so hopeful for you both.

@Gidget19 I wish it was my BFP! It was @Tasha1607 who got the result. I had my round of IUI abandoned at day 12 because of resistant PCO. Feeling pretty devastated, I don't know how to move forward. I think we'll probably end up having IVF using my partners egg, but something about it makes me feel so sad now I've started. We'll get there!

So sorry @mabel9 - be kind to yourself xx

Thanks @LifeIsBusy I’m absolutely gutted. After trying and failing for so long we felt so much hope for this to work, especially when everything was looking great. I’m now back to thinking we will never get pregnant. 🤞 for you

@mabel9 I wouldn't say think like that. If I were you I'd think of the IUI as just starting to try to have a baby. You're one round in? The graphs we were shown showed the chances to get pg were increased with every cycle up until cycle 6. So round 1 down, 5 to go but you have every chance out there. How old are you if I may ask? All my friends that have tried to have babies through fertility clinics now all have babies and every story is different. Some got pregnant through IUI, IVF, ICSI.

Even if you look at my wife and I. We effectly tried 7 IUIs before we had DS.

I POAS because I'm an addict and it still came back BFP so I'm half thinking it's the booster half thinking it's actually real... Who knows! We will see what happens tomorrow when AF is due.

@mabel9 there is a slight faint one I agree! Fingers crossed for you! It may not have worked this time. But that doesn't mean it isn't going to work for you next time. I had the same opinions as yourself. Until now and it really does work.
Putting stress and strain on yourself won't help. Have a bottle of wine put your feet and tell yourself, it might of been today, but next time is my time! Believe in yourself. And you will get that special gift! I know it's hard right now. God I don't know how you are feeling especially trying for so long, but don't let it pull you down! You are strong and you will get your little bundle.

@Gidget19 thank you. I will definitely keep
Posted I've got my early pregnancy scan on the 2nd. Will all find out what is in there then. I don't really quite believe it is actually happening. You'll have to keep us updated with yourself

@BananaHammock23 gosh I’m so sorry for mixing up the names. Have the clinic been helpful in offering advice of what to do next or are they leaving it pretty much up to you? I’ve heard mixed stories when it comes to how helpful they can be.

@Gidget19 they've been pretty good at giving us options but have advised quite strongly that we proceed with IVF rather than IUI. It's frustrating as I feel that had I have been put on Menopur everyday (rather than every three days) to begin with; the outcome might have been different. So part of me is thinking I'll try another cycle of IUI but knowing it's against the advise of the consultant and nurses just makes me feel naive. It's also so much money, whereas if we did IVF with my partners egg and donor sperm then had a frozen embryo transfer into me we'd be saving a lot and have embryos on ice for next time. We can't get another appointment with the consultant until 4th September, so it's looking like another few months before we get anywhere which is upsetting. Now I've started I just want to keep going x

@mabel9 I'm so sorry, it's so gutting isn't it. Will you try again next month?

@BananaHammock23 Yes it’s frustrating when you’re mentally ready to get on with it but being held up by other things. I had a friend who had to wait another month because not all of her meds were in on time. A month doesn’t seem a long time until you have to wait it. I hope the consultant can offer more clarity though and that time doesn’t drag on too much.

Thank you @LifeIsBusy I just realise how relaxed and happy I was for the last 5 months not having to think of trying.
I’ve just turned 28. I really hope iui works for us, I’m starting to feel fed up (it’s early I know). How old were you for your first iui? What fertility tests did you have?
I truly hope your positive is real!!

Thank you @Tasha1607 really lovely words. I just feel stupid for starting to feel hopeful.
I hope you’re keeping well, you must be so excited!

@mabel9 I have just turned 27. So it'll definitely work for you.
Don't feel stupid. Try and feel hopeful. Are you going on your next period?

@mabel9 I was 27 when I got pg with DS and now 29. Our first IUI I remember to be totally gutting that I shed a tear and it wasn't me going through treatment. It got a little easier with each month we tried as everything you'll read online pretty much said the odds are still in your favour. It wasn't until the consultant sat us down and showed us a graph of number of pg after no months trying split into two age categories 35+ was one and

@mabel9 not sure why my other post cut short. The other graph showed someone our age and there was 80% chance of being pg after 6 IUIs compared to 40% on the other graph. We both got tested on CD 5 and 21, she got her tubes checked and I had an sti and std test which thankfully came back clear. Are you going to try again this month?

Hi @Tasha1607 thank you 😊 yes, I’ll be trying on August, just waiting for a phone call from the clinic. I’m having a relaxed day (minus work) and out for dinner with friends tonight.

Thank you so much for all the info @LifeIsBusy that totally helps and gives me some ease, I guess I’m just being impatient, I started trying at 26! I have fallen pregnant before at 22 but it was a shock (can’t believe it even happened now with husbands no sperm count) and we had a abortion at 13 weeks, which also hurts as if we knew what we know now. 🤣
That makes total sense that you would carry. Was your wife happy with that? Or did she struggle at the start?
I had AMH bloods and antral follicle count. I also had to give proof of rubella and smear.

@mabel9 Oh I forgot about the rubella and smear! We both got those done as well!

That must be totally gutting for you both now knowing what you do but at the same time I imagine you both made that decision for good reasons and I imagine they were very valid. We literally forgot all about the treatments, injections and pills as soon as I fell pregnant last time and hadn't thought about it again until planning #2.

She always wanted to carry and I was totally supportive of that and its what we had always talked about. I seen it as we had 3 equal options of either of us carry or adopt and I really didn't mind which route we picked. I did keep checking in a lot whilst I was pregnant to make sure she was ok and she always said she was fine. I think she initially worried that because he wouldn't be biologically connected to her that she might feel differently but that went out the window the moment he was born and she hasn't looked back since.

I say you sit back, relax, drink a glass of wine tonight and prepare for the next IUI. They wouldn't have offered IUI as an option if they didn't think it was worth a try. How many straws did you purchase? I assume more than 1.

Hi @LifeIsBusy thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate it.
Yes, it was the correct decision and still is.

Is sounds like you are a very supportive partner which will massively help. I keep checking in with my husband too, I worried I was focusing so much on a baby that I forgot to check in more.
I think I possibly ovulated a day later than usual so not prime time for iui. My cycle is usually 28/29 days but can be as short as 26 and long as 31.
We bought 3 vials in total so I have 2 left. 🤞

How are you this morning?

@mabel9 I think that's most likely as you didn't get AF until day 15 which is a little late. I think the clinic take this all into consideration and they will make adjustments for this cycle. Have you got your day 10 appointment through?

Its hard not to get totally consumed by it all as its literally all you think about for a month. There is the 2 week window running up to the IUI then a 2ww just sitting wondering. Mentally it is really challenging. How are the staff at the clinic? How is your husband doing? I remember feeling a little guilty last time hence why I checked in so much but at the end of the day I think she got a better deal. She's got no stretchmarks (I looked like a tiger at the end) and she missed all the night feeds due to bfeeding.

My cycle sits somewhere between 32/40 (mostly between 32/34) days and both IUI's have felt like they've been drawn out quite a bit. I visited the clinic 4 times for bloods then a 5th for the IUI but that was the same last time.

I POAS (true addict) and its still bfp and AF is due today so i'm still a little unsure as the blood test at the clinic isn't until tomorrow.

@mabel9 how are you feeling today?

Keeping fingers crossed for you @LifeIsBusy !

How are you feeling @mabel9 ?

We spoke to the clinic yesterday and are going to go ahead with egg sharing/donation. Weirdly it feels like I'm giving up part of my experience by my partner doing all the injections and scans etc. It's not that I enjoyed it, it's that I had more control that way? Weird feeling.