TTC with a donor

[Waiting2BAMummy]

So it appears I posted the 1,000 message on our previous thread and now it's closed so I've opened us a new home!

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clearly not in the mood @bitheby!

Fingers crossed for you this month it must at least feel nice to be back in with a chance after waiting so long.

He came out of the room just after I posted. Flex cup with fertility gel worked a charm. I’m watching 24 hours in A&E now with my hips up.

Friday is my highest chance day and this was meant to be my practice day just in my fertile window but he’s now said he might not be able to do Friday. I’m hoping I can make something work. I was planning to take the day off. Maybe we can do morning if he can’t do evening.

And it’s great to be back in the game again. I do worry about my age and being single but we get one life huh?

absolutely @bitheby and you're not that much older than me I turn 39 in July

Finding this quite stressful and this is my only outlet so apologies for venting here.

He said he couldn't make Friday due to work and as that's my most fertile day I was loathe to miss out so I suggested Thursday evening instead. Then he replied by saying how about 11am, which I couldn't do. So he said ok, evening is fine.

I emailed him to confirm last night that I'd booked the same place and he's replied this morning to say see you Friday evening.

I'm confused. The room is booked for tonight so although my dates work better on Friday, I don't have a room.

I've emailed him to clarify availability so I can work out when I'm going. But it's extra stress that seems so unnecessary. It's either a typo on his part or he can do Friday afterall in which case it'll cost me an extra £40 to re-book the room.

And breathe. And relax.

Bless you @bitheby yes that doesn’t really make any sense. Why say you can’t do it and then suddenly you can. Have you tried contacting the b&b to see if they’ll change it?

As a smaller room establishment they may be more accommodating than a chain hotel.

Oh and vent away that’s what this board is for. Nobody understands more than us how stressful this is. All women think TTC is stressful and we have the added stress of not having ‘the goods’ on tap!

He got mixed up. I'm here now waiting for him.

I arrived about 20 minutes ago so I feel quite rushed but I'm trying not to put him out too much. Tried to leave work early but I'm so busy at the moment and it's an hour and three quarters to drive down.

Still nothing much on ovulation tests which isn't really surprising as Saturday is my likely date but it would be nice if I could see a line progressing.

I'm in a TTC Facebook group for same sex couples and one couple had had some beautiful photos taken on their embryo transfer day. Made me think that I'm not making so much effort aesthetically this time round. So I bought some reduced potted miniature roses from Waitrose on the way down. Reduced. If I conceive, it'll be the roses that helped ;)

Although it's getting on for 45 minutes since I messaged him and he said he would leave immediately and this is supposed to Bennett local to him. So I'm worrying again that there's been a mix up.

Two strange men just walked in and the first one looks nothing like him but my brain still took seconds to work out it wasn't him and not me just not recognising him.

Yep. I sent a third email to say I'm here and he's just replied to say he's on his way.

Good lucky @bitheby glad you got it sorted.

I'm 10/11 dpo today expecting AF this weekend and have been getting my usual aching pains so fully expect her to arrive.

Hello,
Is it okay if i nervously join? Im trying to get my head round evreything. Ive found a lovely donor and we are happy to go ahead. So happy the balls rolling but get confused. So do I wait for day i am ovualting or day beofre or after if possible two days in a row whats best! im tracking using flo app at the moment should i start looking at ovulation tests?
Thanks all

I wouldn’t rely purely on an app @ohsotrying there is too much margin for error. If you can it would be good to have more than one donation one a few 2-3 days before your expected positive opk and maybe one on the day of.

Apparently some sperm live for up to 5 days inside you whereas once the egg is released it lives for 12-24 hours.

So you need the sperm to be there ready and waiting once the egg is released.

Ideally I would've had my second donation tomorrow as I expect to ovulate on Saturday but I've just had one now and two evenings ago.

I use cheap ovulation sticks which you dip in urine although I did buy a Clear Blue ovulation test for the first time this time too. Some people take temperatures but I don't get on with that

And yes, I agree with what Waiting says re timings. The positive OPK shows that you're likely to ovulate in the next 24 hours. It detects a rise in hormone levels.

If in doubt, err on the side of sperm before egg as otherwise the chances of missing it are too high.

So i have the day i believ i am ovulating try and have the doantion a couple times before then use the opk test to say when i am deffinltly ovulating? Im soory if this all sounds stupid but its a brand new world!

You need to start tracking your cycle so you know roughly what day you ovulate. I started doing that for a few periods before I started trying.

These are the instructions for the tests I use, which explain it well.

homehealth-uk.com/wp/wp-content/uploads/IND-One-Step-LH-Strip-ver-1.3-02.06.2016.pdf

Got a positive OPK this morning finally. So let's hope I ovulate quickly and Thursday's donation is still doing its thing.

The test line was stronger than the control line so it's a full on peak.

I've read that as you get older it is possible to ovulate on the same day as your positive opk or even before @bitheby so fingers crossed.

You're just entering your TWW and mine is coming to an end. I'll be testing on monday (14dpo) if AF hasn't arrived before then.

I'm having some twinges so I'm hoping that's ovulation. It was a morning wee before you're supposed to test and I'm glad I did. By the time I tested at noon the peak had gone again so I would've missed it.

Yes I'm hoping it's today.

I've been really stressed out all day (about other stuff) and haven't eaten properly since yesterday lunchtime so this isn't exactly creating ideal conception conditions.

Good luck with your test. How are you feeling about it?

I’m really cramping on and off so expect that AF will arrive before then but we’ll see. I will say though that the soy isoflavones have definitely improved my cycle, even if I’m successful this month, this is the longest cycle I’ve had in months. Today is CD27 last month was 20 days and I think the month before was 24/25.

Hopefully you’ve timed things well @bitheby try not to worry conception doesn’t always have to have perfect conditions remember it only takes one!

so after donor sounding great had some radio silence, i asked if he was still availabe. Havemnt heard anything and hes banned me on whatsapp the search starts again1

sorry to hear that @ohsotrying I had a donor (who by the way messaged me first) he was over 200 miles away but insisted that wasn't a problem as he worked all over the country. We arranged he would drive down and I would pay for a hotel room for him to stay in, I messaged him a couple of days before and he insisted everything was okay for him to come down. Cut to the day he was due to arrive and he started making excuses etc and never actually turned up.

My current donor on the other hand is awesome so try not to lose hope.

@Waiting2BAMummy literally was at point fo booking hotel room he sounded so genunine but no! Gonna have to skip this month know i think

I know how disappointing it is @ohsotrying but the way I made myself feel better was to remind myself that I wouldn't want someone who would behave like that to be a father (even if only in biology) to any future child.

I would still recommend tracking ovulation as it's good practise.

ive got the clear blue ovulation tests the ones with teh smiling faces!! so if it flashes is it worth trying or only when its static? i think i ovualte in two days so oresume this month is deffintly out