#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 12

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New thread, hope you don't mind I started a new one Kwick

Sorry to hear you're feeling so down redpanda, pretty sure the hormones messing with your system will be a bit to blame. I'm feeling ok this time but sure it helps that I'm on holiday this week with my mum. Last time though it took ages to pick myself up again.
So glad to hear of your BFP ttc very exciting but I'm sure it opens a whole new world of potential worries...!

Hope you feel better soon red

Ttc I'm so so happy to read that news!! Come on little bean!

Button fab news about the eggs, hope they do well 😊

Redpanda sorry you're feeling so down, hormones definitely won't help but it's such a hard hard journey regardless of the medication but we are here to support so keep talking to us xx

Had a call today. Of the 9 eggs 1 was immature and would never have fertilised regardless of the amount of sperm. Two fertilised with more than one sperm so obviously they're out but the other 6 all fertilised normally and are hopefully developing nicely now. Will get a further update tomorrow

Hope you feel better red

Wow congratulations ttc hopefully that takes away some of the worry. Although I am sure you are counting down the two weeks till the scan.

Also congrats to button 6 eggs fertilised is awesome. I hope you get a good number of blasts out of that. Are they planning to take them to 5-day?

Thanks Bear it's day 5 or 6 depending on how they do as any viable are going straight in the freezer as I am out of sync with the donor

Congratulations TTC that’s great news!

Button, great news - everything crossed for the next few days for you!

I’m just hanging around waiting for cycle day 1 so that we can start our last cycle of donor sperm iui. If it could just WORK this time, that would be great...

RedPanda, sorry to hear you feel so down. We invest so much in IVF that when it fails it’s devastating and so unfair. We have to deal with all that AND the come down from all the meds at the same time. My body reacted to stopping them by giving me the worst acne of my life. I literally felt like I had it written all over my face that the cycle had failed. I hope you’re feeling better soon, but it is ok to feel that way for now as well

Good news Button! Looks like it's finally coming together for you.

RedPanda, sorry you're feeling so low, the progesterone does a role, I felt AWFUL after the miscarriage and I'm sure the hormonal changes made it harder.

I'm mostly keeping my head down, trying to eat healthy and relax. Physically I'm much much better, exercise performance getting better, energy levels better (I think the iron tablets are helping), no more pregnancy hormones in my body now. Emotionally I'm less good, still feeling sad, I think about my lost bean every day. Keep thinking I should be more than 17 weeks now but instead I'm in a worse position than when we started.

Call from clinic. All 6 progressing well. Five have 4 cells and one has 2 but this is apparently fine for this stage. Fingers crossed again for tomorrow's update!!

Hi Everyone! I’ve been quiet for a little while. I’ve just read through everyone’s stories over the last month or so. I hope everyone is doing ok?

Super happy for you ttc. Hoping we will be in your shoes sometime soon! Although I’m sure its still pretty terrifying.

My situation is that I’m in a same sex relationship with my wife who is the one having treatment. We started in January with one non-starter non-medicated IUI, then two failed medicated attempts. Now opting for IVF.

Me and DW had to take a break since last failed IUI. Its a bit crap because we were all ready to go when our house move ramped up so we decided to postpone IVF and now it looks like the move will all fall apart and we’ve delayed for nothing. And now REALLY hoping we won’t have to delay next month as well. I wasn’t even stressed about moving until it started getting in the way of our treatment.

Might be having to eat my words about being able to HANDLE two big life changing projects at once!

Much love to all, especially those dealing with sad news.

No update from the clinic today, not sure if that's good or bad

Just had my results and consultation. AMH is 7.3, so not great given I'm 34 nearly 35. It's really knocked me.

Mine was 9 when I was 32 and iui (medicated) worked on second attempt 7 months later so don't lose hope x

Thanks @pickle162 I really wish someone had a crystal ball and could just tell me it was definitely going to happen...

The consultant is recommending medicated IUI so I think I'll make arrangements for that to start in the new year (haven't quite got my head sorted after the miscarriage and break up to do it now, plus I'm moving and looking for a new job so life is a bit stressful at the moment).

@Zoo33 I know exactly what you mean about the crystal ball. I'd go through pretty much anything if someone could promise me a healthy baby at the end of it all, it's so hard not knowing how things are going to turn out. Good luck with the move and the job hunt.

@TinyPaws That's it exactly - we'd spend whatever it took and take ourselves to the edge of sanity if we knew it would work.

I heard about somebody who has recently had twins. It took 8 cycles of IVF! I guess giving up is just too hard.

@SallyA1 They only did AMH and then a scan of my uterus and ovaries. Scan was fine although he couldn't find my right ovary - I definitely have two as the midwife said they looked healthy last time I was scanned.

He said it meant if I wanted a family then not to hang around. Obviously low AMH is no indicator of egg quality but I can't take the risk of waiting to meet someone and it being too late...

He also recommended an aqua scan and hycosy because of the problems I had when I miscarried. He saw no signs of adhesion but said it's worth being sure before spending loads trying to get pregnant.

Biggest challenge I think will be picking a donor! I secretly like the idea of a Scandinavian but otherwise have no idea where to start. 😳

@SallyA1 I dunno, I feel a bit battered from today. I might speak to my new GP when I move to find out if I can get other tests, but I doubt it'll change the advice to get on with things. I guess although I was investigating this as an option I still hoped to meet someone and go via the "normal" pregnancy route, so realising I don't have time to do that is a shock.

Next step I suppose is get a LWC transfer to my closest LWC branch (not London once I move) (they seem to be the best and oddly cheapest around) and then get them to come up with a treatment plan for the new year. Then go about booking in all the pre-tests etc and find a donor from somewhere...

It's mind boggling. If anyone has any advice I'd be very grateful!!

@SallyA1 When are you looking at actually starting treatment? And where are you based (if you want to say that much)? I didn't know adhesions could grow back. He doesn't think I have any (although knowing my luck, I'll have loads), but I suppose if I have the hycosy and it shows some, they'll need to be dealt with soonish.

I'm 35 in a couple of months. He seemed to be talking about the aqua scan for adhesions but that it could be done at the same time as a hycosy? I was feeling a bit befuddled by then so I'm not sure. In terms of relationships that's what I figure - the right man will come along (eventually hopefully) whether or not I have a baby. It's scary though admitting that we have to take this step - I have friends who waltz through life seemingly getting exactly what they want and I can't help but feel rage at the unfairness of it all. I wonder where I'd be if I hadn't wasted the last 4 years on an emotionally abusive bastard but I know I can't think like that.