#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 12

[ButtonMooooon]

New thread, hope you don't mind I started a new one Kwick

No transfers as yet. I am currently injecting Suprecur for nearly 3 weeks and should have been transferring but I have just started Noriethisterone (sp!) as I have a cyst which is producing oestrogen. Hopefully these tablets will stop it and we can proceed to first transfer fairly soon. If not will need cyst draining under local anaesthetic

Roller coaster doesn't even begin to describe this journey we are all on!!

Oh gosh! Really not very straightforward then!
Our Dr has told us with donor eggs we will have around 70% chance of it working.
I've told DH that I'll be going into the process believing that it's GOING to work. PMA and all that.
He is a "realist" (negative) and thinks I'm setting myself up for disappointment if it doesn't work, but my view is that if it doesn't work I'll be devastated anyway so I may as well be completely positive.
Am I mad to be so tunnel vision about it do you think?

I think you have to do what's right for you. If you believe in positive thinking, throw yourself into it. I don't think attitude makes a difference to outcomes but it does make a difference to your emotions in the whole process and there's nothing as unpleasant as feeling uncertain or conflicted about everything because you're trying an emotional approach you don't really feel.

@LRDtheFeministDragon thanks and yes I agree. I don't necessarily think it will change the outcome, whether it takes or not I think is down to fate/luck (and a bit of science thrown in of course!).
But I just think for me personally I'm better off believing it's going to work otherwise I'll get upset and become negative about it.

Welcome @jemimafuddleduck.

I'm in a different situation but do share your journey and ask for advice info from the group.

When I was starting my journey I read through every thread on this group to hear the different stories ( and outcomes). It answered so many of my questions and helped set my expectations so they weren't too unrealistic.

Being on this group when I conceived my dc1 was fantastic and I love it when I recognise their names on other threads or they pop up with an update.

We are all united in that we all want children but are doing it a slightly different way than the norm! ( I've lot count on the number of times people have said on the conception board to have lots of sex when I ovulate ( not without malice I know as those threads are even harder to keep up with!)

I found with each new thread the intro but we all did on our journeys really helped familiarise or just remember where we were all up too as well.

I think there are 400 odd more posts before a new thread so if others are up for it maybe intros again would help? X

I should say I'm not sure how much things have moved on since May or others joined?

Thanks @OneMoreWish - well my intro is below 😁
I stay clear of the conception boards now. I know it sounds mean and they're all in the same place I was when I started, but I just get angry with all the "oooh is this a line?". OF COURSE IT'S A BLOODY LINE, ANYONE CAN SEE THAT!!!
So it's best I stay away 🤣

My intro ( as I don't think I actually did one in May)

Ttc dc#2 as single parent
Age: about to turn 36 this week
Cycle 2
Natural iui at Hewitt fertility clinic in Liverpool

( for background dc#1 was also conceived via natural iui on second cycle at London women's clinic. 1st cycle I had bfp but turned into chemical pregnancy)

I read on another thread but I didn't think to question the source that as women get older they ovulate sooner after surge. I've never heard or read this before - anyone else? I thought it would be interesting for those of us doing natural iui and the implications for timing of iui after you surge x

Hi @SallyA1
So it sounds like we're not far apart in our process then! It's great news you're getting funded treatment. I take it you mean donor sperm rather than eggs?

I need to book my counselling session - must do that this week.

My intro as I joined one or two threads ago:

I'm 35 in a few days 😕 and am single.
TTC no 1 after discovering I have low AMH and not very many follicles.
I'm using the London Women's Clinic in the South West.
Had a miscarriage last year after conceiving naturally with my now ex so am very nervous of losing another baby.

I'm aiming to do a cycle of medicated IUI and then go straight to IVF if that fails. I need to book a hycosy but am waiting for my blood test results - hopefully I'll get those in a few days so I can have the hycosy this month. I'm aiming to start in January.

@SallyA1 Yes I'm NHS funded. Exciting that you're at the top of the list!!!

@Laura207 thanks for the welcome 😊 In my first appointment we saw the Dr. She went through our history and previous tests with us, did a vaginal scan to check follicles (not many there!) and ordered an AMH blood test which I had there and then. She also went through our treatment options with us. I think once you get to that stage, things can move pretty quickly!

Thanks @SallyA1 and @jemimafuddleduck I don't think I'll sleep tonight !
I've already had all my tests through gynae (except the internal check for follicles which they said they'd refer me for) and yea the fertility clinic is at the same hospital. so I guess our next step will be surgical sperm retrieval - I was wondering if we could be put on waiting list for donor at the same time because the odds of success with the sperm retrieval are so low in our case but I don't know whether they'll let us do that.
That's brilliant @SallyA1 that your top of the list and exciting you'll find out about the donors soon!

Good luck today @Laura207 - what time is your appointment? Let me know how it goes!
A mini-step in our plan is having a zika test (for DH) as we went to a zika country on holiday recently. We had to pay privately which we knew before we went. We should get the results today so just hoping that's negative!

Another 130 mile round trip today for a scan and blood test. Hopefully cyst will have gone and I've stopped producing oestrogen 🤞

Fingers crossed @ButtonMooooon

Does anyone else feel like you're wishing your life away a bit with this whole process. My time is spent waiting for the next appointment and wishing it'd hurry up! I have an appointment next Tuesday, and I'm focussed on that, then one the following Tuesday after which we should be on the waiting list for eggs and o just want it be here already! But it occurred to me that I've been working towards "the next appointment" since May and feel my life is on hold a bit!

Definitely Jemima!! I have been wanting to leave my current job for a few years and I kept saying oh I had better not as I don't want to start a new job and have to tell them I am pregnant!! I bit the bullet in the end and am just waiting to hand my notice in as I have been offered a new job this week! Maybe it will jinx me into getting pregnant haha x

Good luck @ButtonMooooon 🤞 and congrats on the new job!
@jemimafuddleduck I completely agree I feel like I'm living life in limbo at the moment. And I just want to fast forward time to at least try to have a chance - as we've had zero chance naturally since we've been "trying" ! My appt is tomorrow morning at 8.30am

Yeah that's exactly how I feel. All these months of trying have been wasted because it wouldn't have worked anyway, so I just want to fast forward!
@Laura207 for some reason I thought today was Friday 🙈 wishful thinking!!

Yes good luck for tomorrow @Laura207 ! Let us know how it goes.
@SallyA1 yes DH is all clear for zika! But I now have to have the test (which we weren't originally told). Hoping to have it at my appointment next Tuesday.

Feeling sorry for myself post alert 🚨

Cyst was still there today. They now want to wait for another bleed to see if it goes. Last week they were talking about draining it. I have told them it's frustrating enough without them changing their minds all the time

I have just had a bit of a meltdown and told DH I don't know if I want to continue. I hate motorway driving so to do 130 mile round trip by myself for 3 weeks on the trot has been really stressful and then I struggle to hold it together whilst in the clinic and then have DH saying well why didn't you say this, that and the other to them.

He makes comments about feeling useless as he can't do anything to help but I don't think he even considers the moral support aspect, every other person in clinic today had their partner with them