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For anyone with experience of sperm or egg donation to share support and advice. Please remember this board isn’t for debate about donor conception.

#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 12

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ButtonMooooon · 24/05/2018 14:35

New thread, hope you don't mind I started a new one Kwick

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Laura207 · 06/09/2018 08:32

Thanks @SallyA1, sorry you nearly fainted - was it very painful? they said at the start I wouldn't get told the results but they would have to prescribe an antibiotic if there were any blockages - they didn't prescribe me anything so hoping that's a good sign.. Can I ask do you have a donor sorted through your clinic ? Thanks x

GingerSnapp · 06/09/2018 09:42

Thanks everyone! Trying to make it through till scan in a couple of weeks without losing our minds. DW took another pregnancy test this morning. Still showing 2-3w pregnant. Wondering if it should’ve moved along by now?

Considering sharing the news with close fam in case something goes wrong I think I’ll need the support.

Not that it sounds like it from this post, but i am staying really positive and so happy we have got to this point.

Smithguy86 · 06/09/2018 11:10

The wait for the first scan feels like a lifetime @GingerSnapp! When is your scan booked for? It's so hard not to tell anyone when your so excited we told both our parents when we got our bfp. We had our scan at 7 weeks we couldn't keep it in any longer and told close friends and family.

TreasureInMyTummy · 07/09/2018 11:01

@GingerSnapp I used the same reasoning to tell close family. Hope time goes quickly for first scan xxxx

Gosh I'm so bored waiting to ovulate cd15 and had ewcm two days ago but nothing. Last few months I've not ovulated until cd20 but I had hoped with ewcm it might happen a bit sooner.

I didn't forget how much waiting is involved ( for period/ ovulation and then twot) but I'm such an impatient person ( motherhood has not changed this lol!) think I would rather be in twot as I'm fretting in case I miss ovulation

AnotherGin · 07/09/2018 23:01

If I go down the medicated IUI route, do I need to know when I'm ovulating? I've never used opks as I fell pregnant pretty quickly after coming off the pill, but I think my body is still completely off kilter after my miscarriage almost a year ago. Should I use them? Do you think I need to?

I'm on just about every fertility supplement I can get my sticky fingers on, just wondering if this is another thing to add to my to do list.

AnotherGin · 07/09/2018 23:04

@GingerSnapp I didn't tell anyone I was pregnant until I'd lost it and I found it incredibly painful having to tell people when I needed their support. I suspect it would have been easier if some people had known, but who knows. Do whatever feels right. X

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lovelymojitos · 08/09/2018 18:04

anothergin I've had 3 medicated iui's and no you don't need to monitor things yourself at all - how mine worked was I rang in on first day of period, started buserelin, first scan day 2-4 then started stimulation meds - scan at day 7ish and then every 2-3 days until follicles ready. Then trigger shot and iui 40hrs later.
My first cycle they started the stimulation drugs very cautiously as I have PCOS which meant it was about 4wks from first day of period to iui but my next 2 cycles were roughly 2wks as I started off on a higher dose of meds.

autumn8228 · 08/09/2018 20:44

Hi all,
My wife and I have our first attempt at iui (stimulated with donor sperm) next month. A little daunted but massively excited. We are hopeful that we can at least get two attempts in before Xmas (if the first isn't successful). Fingers crossed we can make it work!
We've been watching from the sidelines while tests/appointments have been ongoing. It has been so helpful to keep us grounded - thank you! Hopefully ad we continue, we may be able to help someone else!

AnotherGin · 08/09/2018 22:27

Thanks @lovelymojitos. How I earth do you fit the scans around a job? I was hoping to have scans locally but the cost is prohibitive so I'm looking at sneaking off before work (and being super late) as much as possible. There's only so many dental appointments I can make excuses for...

Laura207 · 09/09/2018 09:34

@SallyA1 that sounds awful for your hsg - yes IVF will bypass your tubes won't it - have you let work know your going to be having treatment?Thanks it's just really helpful to have an idea of possible timescales just all the waiting I'm finding really hard at the moment. @autumn8228 good luck to you and your wife for your treatment!

TreasureInMyTummy · 09/09/2018 09:34

Woo woo I've ovulated finally! I was starting to worry I had missed it. Clinic tomorrow and start of twot

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TreasureInMyTummy · 09/09/2018 09:35

I mean surge not ovulated - oops I should know terminology by now Blush

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OneMoreWish · 10/09/2018 12:13

So yesterday fmu picked up surge but when I rang clinic earliest app for iui was 3:45 today as they prioritise egg collection .

Feeling slightly stressed that it will be too late...

OneMoreWish · 10/09/2018 20:17

Eek so iui didn't actually happen until 4:30pm so I am worried it might be too late this month. Will just have to wait and see.

It's different using another clinic, I can't help but compare. They Didn't tell me the count for the million of sperm in the vial or the mobility of them. It's rather meaningless in the grand scheme of things as it has to be good enough to use but I liked knowing last time as it gave me something to google.

Also In the London women's clinic they give you a piece of paper with the physical traits of the sperm that you are about to have put in you ( the ones that are listed on the London sperm bank that you choose from). This gave me assurance it was the same sperm I had picked but in the Hewitt Fertility clinic they have three people check the sperm number matches the one I have purchased. I don't get to check anything. I guess it's a moot point but you don't feel as part of the process.

Finally they make it all a bit more of a hoo haa in the Hewitt Fertility clinic . You go in one room and change into a gown and hat. You then wait. You then go through an anti room to put on covers over your feet/socks/ shoes before going into large treatment room . You have doctor and nurse there. They put music on and seem to rattle lots of wrappers and drawers. Then the third person comes in with the sperm and they all do their checks while you just sit there. At no time do you really get to see / let alone hold their vial of sperm.

Then she puts the speculum in with theatrical air ('pass the speculum, cotton wool - cotton wool??! - the line') then checks I'm not cramping and ok and then dramatic pause before annoucjng she is putting it in ( with a friendly good luck) and then done. The nurse then fussed pulling sheet down over my bits and putting leg bit on and lowering bed. More wrangling of drawers and plastic with low murmur talking because they are not talking to you. They then leave me for five minutes before coming to collect me.

Compare this to London women's clinic

Nurse takes you to small room, hands you vial, tells you that's the sperm. Shows you form and you sign and then you go behind curtain strip down from waist, hop on bed with sheet over you. She comes in curtain and before you finish mentioning the crazy British weather and whether it will rain that afternoon she has put speculum in and squirted sperm in. With an 'all done, good luck' she leaves the room telling you to take as long as you ant and turns the light off.

I much preferred lwc way though if this works I guess it won't matter much.

Fingers crossed for a speedy twot and a bfp with a sticky bean.

Xx

lovelymojitos · 10/09/2018 20:46

Good luck with the twot onemorewish!!
It really surprises me how all the clinics seem so different. My clinic seemed to be a mix of your 2 different clinics. What have you planned for the next 2 wks? I definitely found it easier to have a full diary rather than sit at home and google early pregnancy symptoms and get anxious!!

OneMoreWish · 10/09/2018 22:12

Thanks @lovelymojitos I guess I just assumed there would a similar best practice guide so doctor rather than nurse threw me plus the paperwork on the day.

Eek I'm sure my little one will keep me busy but I have organised meeting up with a few more friends over the two weeks to pass the time.

I might have already done a bit of googling ... Blush

ButtonMooooon · 12/09/2018 16:28

Eeeek I made it to day 21

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TinyPaws · 12/09/2018 20:16

Great news Button! I always feel better when I'm actually doing something, hate all the waiting around.

In other news, I'm still waiting around while my clinic faffs about. I've had some private blood tests done which revealed high levels of thyroid auto-antibodies which was quite upsetting, but the clinic is taking so long to sort out unrelated matters that the thyroid issue isn't causing any additional delay. It's a kick in the teeth though as it means lower pregnancy rates and higher miscarriage rates. Sad

ButtonMooooon · 12/09/2018 20:58

Has anyone done Suprecur injections before? My thigh has gone bright red itchy and almost looks like it's pooled under the skin. Will ring clinic tomorrow but just wondering if anyone else had this. Wondering if I misjudged the 90 degree angle of the needle

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ButtonMooooon · 12/09/2018 22:18

DH said I shouldn't have angled the needle at all, I got confused by the video. Leg is bruised now. Hope I haven't messed up Confused

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Geluksvogel · 14/09/2018 07:53

Sorry can’t help @Button but just wanted to say good luck.

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