#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 11

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This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

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And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Ah good I was worried they might be too small all the time before I was worrying about them being too big or too many lol now I hope they grow big enough I have long cycles at mo so will that mean they take longer? X

Not been on for a week or two and so much going on on here! Will try to catch up so I can comment more personally.

Really great to hear more BFPs and sorry that some of you are having a stressful time. Am starting to think life is never going to be stress free again!

I've finally got a date for my FET - next Tues. About to start the wonderful Cyclogest pessaries twice a day. The nurse was telling me they need to be as close to 12 hours apart as possible. I said I planned to put in when I went to bed (11pm ish) and then again before I get up (7am) and she said this wasn't spread enough. I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to insert regularly at 7pm each night, esp if you need to lie down for half an hour, as I'm often not at home at that time. What have others been advised? Don't want to risk any future pregnancy by having the hormone levels dip

Thanks for all the support but HCG is now 35! So either I've already miscarried or will be. 😭xx

Oh Mandy I'm so sorry.

Mandy how awful, I'm sorry

Ttc because of the suprecur you won't ovulate until you have the trigger so the follicles can take a little longer if needed to mature,basically the clinic and the drugs just manipulate your cycle so don't panic, as long as they don't all mature it's fine :) My cycle ended up an extra week as the follicle growth was a bit slow and I was so worried the cycle would be cancelled but this is the cycle I got pregnant on

Good luck for fet next week 🐢

Oh Mandy I'm so sorry sweetheart that sucks 💐

Oh, mandy, I am so very sorry.

Good luck turtle 🐢
Mandy I'm so sorry to hear that ;( thinking of you
Pickle thanks I was frantically googling what to eat to grow follies this ttc is crazy! Can't win though can you as also got to hope not to many get big x

Aww mandy sorry to hear that, I hope that you are doing ok

Good luck turtle hope all goes well with the vet

Ttc I wrote down my follies growth, I think on both cycles... I'll dig them out in the morning and put them as both cycles quite different.
I totally get where you are coming from I was this anxious wreck and very emotional when went to any of the scans as was so worried body wasn't doing the right things. Thankfully my clinic/nurses were absolutely amazing & supported me through all my little breakdowns. The extra hormones don't help with the emotions either 😬

Oh Mandy I am so sorry. Look after yourself.

I'm so sorry to hear that Mandy, take care of yourself.

@Ttc2017 - so first cycle day 8 I had 2 x 14mm follicles then on day 10 had 1x 16mm and 1x 17mm with 8.5mm lining. Had iui on day 13 I think. This was a bfn

Second cycle:day 8=12mm and some other smaller ones,day 11=12mm (later turned out to be a cyst!) & 1x 14mm, day 13 -cyst at 12mm and 1x15mm at this point instead of having Menopur every other day I was changed to daily. Day 15: 1x 20mm and iui was done on day 18....so a lot longer cycle than should have been- this was my bfp cycle.

Thanks pickle sounds like yours were ahead of mine at this stage both times hope mine grow asap although I think may be a long cycle as my cycles been so long and all over place that's such good idea to write it all down I will do same guess I'll have to wait and see how they are on Thurs and go from there x

That's interesting pickle - my 2 cycles were quite different too with follicles growing more quickly on the first cycle.

Fingers crossed cycle 2 will be a BFP for me too!

I didn't have a day 7 scan so all can change but mine were growing 1-2mm every 2days so really slowed down the growth so a week late on iui. Hopefully thu will give you more hope :) x

Fingers crossed tiny x

Just checked and DP had a 9mm follicle on day 7 of IUI meds, and that follicle will turn one in a fortnight.

Aw thanks pickle and lrd it's lovely to hear your positive success stories I try hard not to think of anything or everything lol but excitement / nerves keep getting better of me and time is dragging lol I'm not the most patient of people at the best of times good luck tiny when do you find out x

I'm supposed to test on the 21st but if I'm not pregnant I expect my period will start sooner than that.

Still mulling over what to do if this cycle is negative. Options:

1. Back to back IUI (3rd cycle)
2. Take a cycle off then 3rd cycle IUI
3. IVF (there is wait for this at my clinic)

How do you find the IUI process? I think that's what'll help me decide, in the end. I hate gonal F, and I'm on a very low dose. It just makes me furious and I feel angry the whole time. I am a bit frightened of IVF because that'd be a higher dose and presumably worse!

I'm due to test on the 20th but I admit I have been counting days until the trigger shot will be out of my system, and in theory any time after tomorrow I could test.

I'm a bit more moody than usual and I've become quite needy/clingy with my girlfriend. Not sure it's the hormones or stress though! I've also given up contact sport while ttc and miss it as it's a great stress buster.

The worst part of the process was the disappointment when I wasn't pregnant. I feel I could happily cope with almost anything if I knew for sure there would be a healthy baby at the end of it but not knowing if or when that'll happen is hard.

I cracked and tested at 12 dpo last time, not sure if it made the disappointment better or worse. In theory I could test anytime after Thursday this time, still deciding what to do!

I'm trying to decide too. I would like to stay strong and not test until the weekend, but I think if I get my period without warning that will get me down more. What I find difficult is how to interpret what my body's doing. I have (TMI, excuse me) huge sore boobs and emotionally feel quite different from how I normally do at this stage in a regular cycle, but that could easily be down to the effects of all the progesterone I'm on, so I can't symptom-spot if I wanted to.

That is what is so hard about tww- what is a symptom?(generally on the whole there aren't any!) what is medication?what is in your head?I was on here for about 18months before I did my first cycle and even with all the prior knowledge the tww still fekked with my brain!
The thing that was different for my 2nd cycle was CM fluid- was thick and sticky like I've never seen/had before-generally only spotted this occasionally when wiped

I do tend to get symptoms early on in pregnancy, but they're entirely indistinguishable from what progesterone would do anyway.

But you're right, it's incredibly tempting to fall into the trap of overthinking everything.