#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 11

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This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

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Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Do you? There's an emergency doctor's number, but I had thought that would mean medical emergencies, which this isn't.

@LRDtheFeministDragon. I agree with @Wonky35. This should qualify and as for not feeling like you're being silly- don't feel like that. We all have our own versions of hell in this journey! Like you say I should be dancing around the living room but I'm still bleeding (and freaking out) and can't have a blood test to confirm till 420 on Monday - which means I won't know what the result is till Tuesday. I just want to be able to be happy after all this and now my own body seems to be fighting against me! 😭

Sorry, mandy, that's horribly stressful. But it's still the brownish discharge? I'm really sure that is common. Though I know nothing can really set your mind at rest til you see those results. I hope Tuesday comes quickly for you!

I tried the emergency number and got no response. I had a little stressed bit of tears which makes me feel very silly, but I know people on here will understand how much the little things mount up. In my right mind I know it doesn't in the least matter if we have to leave it until next month.

@LRDtheFeministDragon yes for the most part it is brownish and not a lot either but you're right it'll take till the blood test till I believe it. Normally I wouldn't have tested this early but I thought if it was negative -which I thought it might be because of the blood- when I go in for the results at least I'd be prepared. (The last time I have a bit of a meltdown at the clinic) but this has just confused me further. Also the clinic said that they won't recognise HPT as they're too unreliable but that's now got me thinking why are they? and there must be people who have had + that turned out wrong or they would accept it. I don't know I suppose I think too much! I had just about started believing it and then the clinic said that.

Anyway enough about me...please let me know if you manage to get ahold of your clinic - have you tried again? I really hope you get to try this month- otherwise is there anyway you can claim back the money you spent on the drugs as really if you do have to do it again it's kind of their fault! 🤞🏻 for you.

Oh, you poor thing, yes, I can see why you'd have a meltdown. It is awful constantly second-guessing everything.

But, thanks for asking - I did finally get hold of them, but turns out their emergency doctor doesn't actually work at my clinic but at one of their sister branches, and she couldn't tell me if I could take the trigger today or not, or whether I could get an IUI on Monday or not. Basically, since I haven't have a natural surge she said I could either take it today (and hope the clinic could accommodate me Monday morning), or wait til tomorrow (and risk the follicle having grown too big). Not much of a choice! But you're right, I'll definitely claim the money back as I feel quite annoyed.

Hi all, I've had an interesting fortnight. I started to have bad cramps and to spot dark blood about ten days ago. On Monday my legs went to jelly and at 6pm I started to bleed properly. It stopped the following morning but it felt very heavy (soaking several STs and I slept on a bath towel - it was really grim - sorry, TMI). I've been going back and forth to the clinic this week for blood tests, but on Friday afternoon heard that I'm still pregnant! I have a scan next week so I'll know more then, and the nurse stressed that they wouldn't be able to tell if everything was ok until then, but goodness it has been a rollercoaster.

I managed to do my injections on a crowded train without anyone noticing, and I've sorted out my injection timing. My reply to that isn't seems to have vanished though - I wasn't ignoring you all. Next week is the critical bit though.

LRD how unbelievably stressful for you and how incomprehensible of the clinic to be uncontactable at weekends when cycles don't take time off. I didn't have a trigger shot with IUI but the clinic needed notice to defrost the sperm.

Keeping my fingers crossed for you Mandy. Sorry for the long post!

Oh my ggodness late what a fortnight must be so worrying for you. I hope everything goes well with the scan next week

@Latenightreader I really hope your scan is good. That sounds awful...you must have been so scared. Take it easy and look after yourself. x

Oh, late, how terrifying! I will be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed for the scan next week. Take care.

Woah late how scary! Really hope everything is ok on the scan

LRD sorry you are no further forward, what did you end up doing with the trigger in the end?

Yes - I had my natural LH surge this afternoon. I blame DP - my cycle has been frantically trying to synch up with her since she had the baby and got her periods back (I know this is true cos it's been messing up my cycle, and I got her to do a LH test today too). But, anyway - I took my trigger and I'll ring on Monday and see. Wish me luck!

I keep posting here, I know (but there's no one else I feel like talking to about this). But I finally got hold of the clinic (!) and after a bit of faff I've got an IUI appointment today, though they'll scan me first as the follicle may have got too big by now. They are just incredibly disorganised. But, at least now I can stop worrying for a few hours.

Thats good lrd what time is your appointment? Hopefully scan goes ok and IUI goes ahead smoothly

3.15. Thanks for the good wishes!

Good luck lrd hope it all goes well!

I'm back from the clinic and the scan looks good! Very strong heartbeat, good position, no sign of lining damage or anything coming away. Not sure if I'll be able to relax until I'm further along a(or even then) but I have a due date and a midwife appointment this Wednesday!

I'm a little bit nervous about explaining the donor conception. Did other people find it was straight forward to do?

Hope it goes well this afternoon LRD.

Great news late 😊!

Great news late! And good luck lrd!

I've finally grown a follicle big enough (just one dominant follicle) and am taking my trigger tonight, iui booked for Wednesday.

Oh, late, that is wonderful news! How lovely.

We sort of had it easy explaining the donor as we're two women so it's obvious, but these days I have DD out and about on my own and get all the predictable questions about 'does she look like her dad,' and actually very few people have made me feel awkward. It's quite funny at times and sometimes I can see people are a bit embarrassed, but it's no big deal. You get used to saying it quite matter-of-factly, so most people take a cue from that and don't fuss. IME!

And tiny, that's great. Good luck for Wednesday!

Hi everyone I need to catch up n read through all the threads as not been online for a while hope you are all OK how long did it take for you to start bleed after stopping norithesterone I stopped taking them Friday but no bleed yet x

Thats brilliant news late.

tiny I have taken norethisterone twice and bled late on the 3rd day after stopping the tablets both times. Have you been cramping?

Yeh cramping a lot yesterday not so much today x

Just wanted to chime in and say good luck @LRDtheFeministDragon and that's fab news late. @Latenightreader

Wahoo Late fab news, glad all ok

Tiny yayyyy for follicle behaving :) good luck for iui

TLC I had northesterone too,I can't remember exactly how long it too but was a good 4 maybe 5 days For me and was sooooo tiny a bleed but lining was thin enough to proceed

How did you get on lrd?