#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 11

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

Here is the link to the previous thread
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Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Mandy I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Button That's frustrating, any progress?

LRD I'm not sure, how does your clinic work? Mine does baseline scan day 2-4 then start stims and scan again 1 week later.

I went for my scan today, lining good, 5 follicles all 11-12mm, got to do 2 more stims and go back Thursday for another scan, hope some of those follicles stop growing as they won't do the iui if there are more then 3 big ones. Calm down ovaries! :/

@TinyPaws Thanks. Those follicles sound promising. Will they allow you to switch to IVF if you get more than three biggies or do you just have to start again? I hope it works for you...keeping everything crossed.

I'm not sure what's happening myself?! I wonder if I have been having symptoms but don't want to get my hopes up too high. I'm ravenous all the time at the minute even after I have eaten lunch. If I happen to brush my boob with my arm- the tingling is crazy. But I've had no sickness or other feelings. Did have a bit of a spot this morning and pre AF type feelings yesterday all day but every time I went to the washroom there was nothing there. I hope my AF isn't on its way?!

Wishing everyone the best of luck with their cycles. xx

Oh and my back has been killing me- right between the shoulder blades!

Good luck tiny! It is such an anxious bit, isn't it, thinking you need enough stimulation but not too much.

My clinic asks for a scan on day 7 or 8, but you start meds from day 3. Anyway, I got in touch on the phone and they booked me in for day 8, so I guess length of cycle must not matter much at this stage.

Hi ladies- question - I've been spotting all day...is this it for me? I'm 6dp5dt

Just wanted to pop on and say hi as I haven't been on for a while. Nice to see some bfp's on the thread congrats smith and late.

So sorry to hear about your news stork, hoping the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly.

Good luck to those in tww or just about to start treatment 🤞🏻 this is your round

Hi bear!

Hope you're doing ok today, mandy.

I've just got back from a scan that was meant to see if I was 1) ovulating from my damaged right ovary and 2) producing early-cycle follicles on either side. The clinic then usually gets you to come back in a few days, just before the surge. But I've got a dominant follicle on the left at 16mm, so they think I might ovulate tomorrow/friday. Friday would be annoying as they don't open the clinic on the weekend and it'd mean no go for this cycle. But I am still so pleased and relieved because my worry was that there'd be nothing going on at all.

Seems the right ovary may be defunct, but that was something I'd been prepared for.

Now to pee on many, many, many LH sticks ...

So we have contacted the Clinic and been firm and said we're not happy about the amount of time it's taking

Apparently they are waiting for the donor to have her period so they can synchronise the cycle. When I last spoke to them (I checked my mobile call log and it was 4 weeks ago today) they expected this to happen in the next two weeks

She's put a note on the diary to ring the donor on Monday to find out what is going on. If she's not in a position to progress then they'll look at matching us with a new donor urgently

I've had a gut feeling for a while the donor was wanting to pull out and wish I had followed it through. This is our lives (and heads!) she's messing with!!

I will update again on Monday, hopefully with some good news!!

expected it to happen in the next two weeks from the phone call, not the next two weeks from now*

Hi all anyone had any experience of brown spotting in tww?

@ButtonMooooon sounds really frustrating- I'm not surprised you want to look for another donor. Best of luck hope u get a speedy resolution x

Ah button that's rubbish!!

Bear hi my lovely, how are you?

Mandy brown blood means old blood so only need to be concerned if deep red heavy stuff

Lrd hope this cycle works out for you and lh surge behaves

Good luck for scan tomorrow Tiny hope yo have a nice dominant one rather than lots of follies

Thanks pickle. TBH, even if the timing is wrong, it's a huge reassurance to know I can produce a decent lead follicle, because it was one of my big worries.

How are you doing?

Thanks @pickle162 I was kinda freaking out thinking that was it. Do you think it's too early to do a test tomorrow? I will be 8dp5dt by then.

Good luck for the scan @TinyPaws 🤞🏻let us know how it goes.

@LRDtheFeministDragon that's good news about the leading follicle. Here's hoping everything goes to plan 🤞🏻

Yeh that's really good news lrd :) I'm doing well, thanks- 5.5 weeks till due date. Feeling a bit trapped due to the snow, car is snowed in and road is like an ice rink and now pavements are the same so don't want to risk slipping

Mandy you are best waiting till your test day to get an accurate result....just hold out a few more days

Hi pickle I am good thanks, how are you? Not long to go now you must be getting excited.

mandy when is your otd?

Good luck lrd

Thanks @pickle162 I will try. @Bear1980 My OTD is supposed to be Saturday but they don't do bloods over the weekend 😩

Yeh I'm good thanks bear keeping well albeit uncomfortable most of the time but all worth it

Mandy don't worry about blood tests being delayed a little, you don't even have confirmation blood tests at my clinic

Thanks Pickle, Kwick and StorkAhoy. My post was a few pages back - this thread moves fast! Kwick, I think I found Access Fertility about the month I turned 40 and thought oh b***. Pickle - saving like crazy, yup, being doing that to buy a place. Sadly could not do both in time. Stork - that 18K - ouch. That is also partly why I didn't pursue this before I think, it is a gamble particularly at our age. Fingers crossed for all of you.

I have not replied because I've been chewing over what Stork said about maybe having everything I want with compromises. I think if I'm going to throw any money at this other than the testing I probably should go with an egg donor. That's one of the reasons I was looking at the seedy route, at least it's cheap. I am okay with an egg donor, but how would the child feel? No way of knowing! But I don't know about double donor; I feel a bit uncomfortable about that at the moment but am not ruling it out.

I know someone who I strongly suspect has had an egg donor baby, based on age and gap between children, but of course she has a husband to provide the other half. I've started thinking I would need to find a co-parent, but then maybe the father could more easily gain custody if he was the genetic parent and I wasn't? It could all go so horribly wrong! Unfortunately I can talk myself out of anything.

Wow, that's flown by pickle.

mandy, fingers crossed for you.

user, I know this is very complicated, but one thing to keep in mind is that if you carry a baby, you shape that baby's development right from the start. People used to think the pregnant woman was a sort of incubator with a neutral effect on the foetus she carried, but it's definitely not so. The field is epigenetics and it's really fascinating (and apologies if you know all of this - it was new to me fairly recently so I am still all excited about the ideas!).

Right, expert pee-on-stickers: with a LH test, if you can see a faint line, is that indicative of anything? It's not a clear positive - it's definitely fainter than the control line. But it is definitely visible, which it wasn't yesterday.

I usually get faint lines in the days leading up to my surge when the line gets darker than control so could be a positive sign for you that surge is on its way

Thanks bear! Have my viability scan on Wednesday! Feeling the effects of pregnancy all ready I have really bad morning sickness!

Hope it's going well for everyone who are waiting on treatment to start or in the tww!