#makeithappen TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided. All welcome. Thread 11

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!

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Here is the link to the one before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2832207--makeithappen-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2769549-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen-loadsofBFPs
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Here is the link to the one before that one: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome
And the one before that!: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1877198-Donor-IUI

We also have a weight loss spin off thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/donor_conception/2889818-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-weight-loss-spin-off-thread

Pineapple core is meant to help with implantation but obviously not proven or essential so don't feel you need to force yourself if it's something you hate.

I had pineapple the first couple of IUIs but hadn't bothered since (I've had four IUIs, two fresh transfers, one frozen). Seeing it on sale seemed like an omen, and as I like pineapple the worst that can happen is I get one of my five a day!

I'm glad I'm not the only one who did a post injection dance...

Just to clarify the bit in brackets, the fresh/frozen embryo transfers were IVF, the IUIs were before that.

Well done tiny I'm very nervous about the injections more about whether I do it right lol I'm worried I will inject it wrong or spill it or something haha n mess up my chances been worrying about my ones in the fridge if they at right temperature keep adjusting my temp on fridge as thermometer in it keeps saying different things will let you know how scan goes tomorrow good luck for Friday late can I ask what is the pineapple for?

kwick - great news!!!! I still lurk on here to catch up on people's journeys and I'm over the moon for you. Just keep reminding yourself 'today I am pregnant ' , someone told me that in early days when I used to worry. So happy for you xxxxxxxx

To the new people on this thread hello! Quick intro from me: 35 single used lwc and London sperm bank and iui.

First treatment jan 17 got bfp but had chemical. Tried following month and got bfp. I had a whopping 11pound 10ounces) boy in November last year

. First iui I had pineapple 🍍 and hated it every day for the five days. Next month I didn't bother.

I'm not on here too much so may miss questions but good luck everyone, I had a difficult pregnancy and baby had colic which is only now starting to improve but I wouldn't change a thing and I'm over the moon. I'll keep watching as love to read when people get their bfps too xxxxx.

Oh and kwick tell work to sod off - this is your time at the moment xxxx

Ttc-scroll down to my 8pm post- goes through what pineapple is meant to do.
All your worries are completely normal, I had all of the same especially the fridge one-boy that worried me big style. Just take your time when you have to do the injection,have a nice flat surface to lay out your injection stuff and do any prep that's needed. Your clinic should go through all the injection techniques with you, once you've done the first couple your fears ease (they don't go away but certainly ease)

Shall I make a confession? I had no pineapple this last 2WW 

@Mandy002 I had to take Microgyon (the pill) for the month before the FET and my withdrawal bleed took ages to come. If worried, raise with your clinic.

@TreasureInMyTummy so nice to hear from you!!!

Absolutely gutted sat crying in car park after baseline scan bad news can't go ahead lining to thick and lump possible blood clot or cyst so another month (6 weeks going by Last cycle) or pure hell to wait to see if it goes if it don't go then 6 month NHS wait for investigations / removal or upwards of 1000 pounds private to get it sorted I'm heart broken already

Sorry ttc that really sucks, all the waiting is a bit of a mindfuck! Hope you're OK and looking after yourself. x

treasure so nice to hear from you, it's lovely when people stick around after their bfps!

Oh ttc I'm so sorry sweetheart: is it worth trying to get an appointment with your Gp and get the referral going in the background so you get on the waiting list sooner rather than later. Hopefully everything will be ok but at least you would be 4-6weeks ahead rather than waiting to see what happens at next scan? Big hugs xx

Oh, sorry to hear this ttc.

I have recently had a cyst removed in exactly the same circumstances. IUI meds apparently have a way of triggering them. Mine was detected last summer and I got it removed in late November. Even though it got ridiculously huge it was a very simple operation and I feel much, much better now. And they do sometimes just go on their own!

If it is a cyst and you have anything you want to ask, I can try to answer.

I remember how gutted I felt, though. It is rotten.

Thanks guys most annoying thing is they say they don't know if it a polyp or a blood clot and to wait a month then look on next month scan but I want to know now so if it is I can get it sorted I don't get why they won't agree to do hysteroscopy now!?

That's normal, I think. I found it frustrating but apparently a lot of things just resolve.

Definitely agree about seeing if you can go on the NHS waiting list though. Indeed I might fudge it slightly and say the clinic said you have a cyst, as they'll re-confirm on the NHS anyway and those waiting lists are long.

Ok thanks Yeh I will do that good thinking although in my head no way I'm waiting NHS times to delay this any more I'll have to just pay the 1000 for the hyscopy private I think cs it's driving me insane all this stress and waiting

Sorry to hear about your news ttc2017. Must be massively frustrating. Try not to get too down about it. X

Good luck. FWIW, I wasn't able to find a private clinic with a decent reputation that would do anything more quickly, but that may be my bad luck. Also, once I knew it was a cyst, the private options would simply have removed the ovary, cyst and all. On the NHS several people said I'd probably lose the ovary, but in the end the consultant who operated managed to save it and it does seem to be functional. The NHS do so many more of these operations that the people who do them are sometimes very, very, very good at what they do.

I know none of that may apply to you (hopefully it's not even a cyst, and resolves!). I just had a fairly rocky road through being told I'd lose the ovary and wish I'd known more earlier on. I recently got chatting to a friend of a friend who went private and had the ovary removed, too - she was gutted. Though, she is now pregnant, and I seem to remember someone on this same thread saying they'd also got pregnant with just one ovary (that might have been kwick, actually!).

I'm so sorry to hear all you went through kind of puts my problems in perspective sorry to winge on. I just need to add mine is in uterus not ovary that why they not sure if it just blood clot and lining was really thick when should be thin. That's scary though that they would just take ovary out sounds like you were lucky x

Oh, no. I'm absolutely fine now, so it's a hopeful thing. Though, not so helpful as I just assumed ovary!

I do find the NHS waiting times depressing but in the end it's sometimes better, is all I wanted to get across.

An important thing to realise is that often if you go private the team doing the operation is exactly the same but you just get to jump the waiting list. In my hospital it will be the same surgeon, anaesthetist and theatre team who do the operation as it would be if you were going via the NHS route. The private cases are just done before or after the NHS list. I would always recommend that if you are going to have something done privately you try to have it done in an NHS hospital, as the backup in case of any problems is much better than in most private hospitals or clinics.

I think my clinic does the hyscopy or should I go to a NHS hospital for this? I'm still not sure of it all I'm thinking if I ask clinic to scan me in week or two then see if lump still there then we would know if it a polyp wouldn't we cos blood clot would of gone if it was that when my period stopped?

I think if it's just a hyscopy the clinic should be fine. Anything like a laparoscopy though and I would be wanting it done in an NHS hospital (even if I went private). Probably a good idea re the repeat scan to rule out a blood clot. Another question to ask would be of they do find a polyp during the hyscopy can they do anything about it there or would you have to have another procedure done elsewhere - causing more delay.

Also worth checking that somewhere else would accepts the results of the scan. The NHS had to re-scan me - they wouldn't take the clinic's result. I don't know if a private hospital would, but then, you'd have the same issue wonky mentions of perhaps not wanting private hospital staff doing a procedure.

Thanks I'm waiting for doctor to ring me as nurse saw me earlier and doctor was busy but will call me later x